AutoBiography of a Dowry Law ( IPC 498A ) Victim

Who am i…?

I asked myself….

Frist of all, I`m an Indian citizen;

A man;

This much is enough to be a Victim of Dowry Law (IPC 498A)?

No need to be Indian citizen, you can be anyone, who marry Modern Indian Women,
can be a Victim;
Can be Jailed for No reason;
Without Bail; and this Complaint is NonCompoundable.

No need to be married to a Indian girl;
Even If you are a Brother;
A Friend;
Even a Neighbour;

This law will arrest you and dump you behind bars.

Oh…..!

Anyway My name is Rudolph and `im from India.

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I born in Bombay but raised in Mangalore, and passed Degree from Mangalore University.

I’m the middle one of 3 Children; we do not have sisters, Raised by God fearing Family. Since Beginning we used to help mother in household things, so we mastered all house hold things, and we used to do our own, cleaning/washing/laundry.

Even today I can challenge any women in cooking or any household things.

In college also, I was not Famous, nor notorious, just an ordinary kid, mostly involved in Sports and NCC.

I have seen many had girl Friends and had sex, but no girl is dare to attach my name with her name, many called me Gandhi, but that did not changed my attitude.

After college I came to Bombay, by birth place and joined Prestigious Company TELCO.

I always kept distance from Alcohol and smoke, I never had any such friends, nor we did not got any money to spend on those bad habits.
Map of My Home

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My Missing Rib; It was Arranged marriage, My Mother sister told she knew them very well; so we did not checked anything about her.

Here is bit Details about her.

She was born in Udipi but Raised in Bombay at her Uncle home, along with 5 Cousin sisters; They Dominated her whole life so far, and she will do as they say, That’s how she stabbed me on my back.

She spend her childhood in Bombay, when child her parents abandon her and her Brother, till 13 year old she was at uncle place, so she never learnt any house hold things. Even at the time of Engagement her Mother Proudly said, my sunita doesn’t know any house hold things, but she got good husband who know everything and cooking.

She was raised in alcoholic Family, her uncle start day with Alcohol. They do not celebrate any Function without Bottle. So she was thinking Drinking is Prestige and shows man capacity.

She did her degree from her native place,after her parents took her back from Uncle home.After college her one of the Friend SHETTY,arranged some Accounts job in Bombay.

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After our Engagement she and her Family came to my native home;

I took her to our Farm to show around.

At that time, I asked many things about her; that was the 1st time we met and talked together.

I asked her to tell about her College life; I know she done her elementary and high school at Bombay when she was staying with her uncle home. Later came to native place for College.

I did`t asked, she had Boyfriend or not but I asked, how was the college and your Friends.

She knew it what I asked.

She said nothing to tell like… that was the hint I never understood.

Later I found out after marriage, she wanted to marry someone else and her Father forced her to marry me, when her parents found I’m the suitable boy.

More shocking news I found out later after marriage was, one boy came to marry her before me, but later they rejected her, because they found out about her Past.

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Why I`m Dowry Law Victim.

All Over world, governments make laws to punish Crimnals,and Law breakers; But in india, its a business to creat job opertunities for lawyers,

Only Law to trap Innocent;
Its a Marriage Splitter;
A Family Breaker,

Thats Ok, but why i`m a Victim….

Beacuse i`m a Man,
Married to an Indian Women.
Beacuse i did not took any dowry;
Because i`m an ordinary man and she was jelous when i was sending only 500 Rs once in 2 months to my parents.
Because i was not doing as she or her parents says.
Because i foundout her past and present.
Because i Questioned her in front of public to justify her move.
Because i asked money to return which they were taking Every month from me.
Because my house was more cleaner and perfect than After marriage.

Once she asked from Bedroom, whats on TV..?
I said DUST, she said i`m insulting her.

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As I said; it was an arranged marriage.

So we married first and made love.

We got married in my native place Mangalore and after a week I came back to Bombay, where I was working.

Then I started to know her.

She did`t know how to cook, she never been to kitchen, Even she washed onions, so you can imagine, how much she knows about cooking.

I’m Lucky she did`t washed salt before add it to dish.
I told her how to do what, how much salt and sugar to be added, but whatever she cooked I ate without complaining even its burnt or taste less.

In the Second week of our Marriage, when she was cleaning/moping house, I told her how to mop. I was teaching her things, but she was furious, and thinking I’m pin pointing her every mistake and she said.

I`M NOT YOUR SLAVE TO DO YOUR HOUSE HOLD THINGS.

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After Marriage we have a custom to invite newly wed couple for lunch or dinner;

So After our wedding we were invited by many in my native place when we were in native place for one week.

I hardly go to others house for eat, so I did`t go, other than my Brothers wife home and her uncle house, as my all neighbors also invited us, I nicely refused, same her neighbors also invited us. We were at native place only one week after marriage. She was angry I did make it to her neighbor’s invitation.

After we came to Bombay, her cousin sisters and other relatives invited us and we went. but at get together when I took cold drinks only as I do not drink beer or and alcohol, they started to tease me its child drink, still I was there in every party her side hosted.

My Relatives of Bombay also invited us, but she was not ready to come, Other than relatives my Godfather invited but she bluntly refused to come with me and I went alone, just because, I did not went for her neighbors invitation;

My godfather, asked me why she did`t came,
I told them, she is not well;
I lied for her, hiding truth.

This was the Starting point, and started showup differences between us.

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As I wrote before, that was not the starting of Crack in my marriage, sometimes I think, it was soon after Marriage.

After few days of marriage, when we were still in native place, my parents and she went to her house for a visit.

After marriage I gave some gold to her, including one bracelet. After our visit to her parents to return my home we have to change 2 buses. I told her while dress up, wear that bracelet correctly, coz I knew its hook was tight. She said, no need to tell, I know.

When we return, we came to the junction where we have to get other bus to my native, and there was still time for other bus, so we went to have juice. While having juice, I saw her hand and there was no Bracelet, it was missing, I thought she kept it in bag or somewhere else, but I asked her, about bracelet.

She was shocked to see no bracelet, but she uttered a word, “same thing happened as I told”

It was like, just because I told and it happened, coz she was not ready to admit she was careless.

Anyway I did`t told much, we finished, juice and came back to bus stand, while coming back, where we got down from first bus, there itself that BRACELET was shining. I was happy to find it again, that also to me, it was laying there almost for half an hour, because it was mine and I found it again. That made her more upset.

And this issue she told to all her Family, that made me NOTORIOUS among them and branded me a as “Person of BAD tongue“.

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Her Father came to Bombay to check how we are, after 2 months of marriage. As she was reporting Everything, whatever happened at home, Even her sister knew about our Personal Life, Sex, where we made love and how and her Cousin sister was Questioning me.

When she told “she is not my slave to do house hold things” I told this to her Cousin Sister, but she laughed at me; same I called her mother and told at the same time. But she did`t uttered anything against her.

After her Father came to Bombay, I invited him for lunch, he came shamelessly before marriage also when I was staying alone, that time I did`t know he will not have food without alcohol.

But this time, I said, I `ll not entertain anyone with Alcohol, as I do not drink and I do not allow to bring it into my home.

She was furious and said, if you are not bringing no Problem, Give me money ill bring.

I was so shocked, coz I have`t been to Any Bar/pub or any liquor shop till that day.

Her words made me to go and bring alcohol.

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Anyone seen any Indian Women demanding DIVORCE in 2 weeks of Marriage.?

I should not tell anything; guide or advice her too.she was beahving like she know Everything, but knew nothing.

Not only tell something;if i know she is going to make mistake i should not warn her;

Like;
do not keep gas flame high, it will burn the dish
do not put more water in grinder, it will spill

same i told; do not put more rice in Grinder it will not grind well, but unfortunatly grinder motor got burnt;

she was blaming me, my tongue;

whatever i says that happens;

but she replies;

do whatever i `ll not change,i`ll be like this only;if you want to change, change yourself

Else

Give me Divorce

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As day passed I found out many things about her. Her every move, drift us apart.

Her sister was telling her, if she want something from me and I’m not giving, do not allow me to touch her, she was thinking withholding Sex without reason is a best tool to control me; but she failed, as I’m not addicted to sex.

Till she got pregnant and sent to her house, she was working for some firm and earning some 2400 Rupees per month. I do not remember she ever spent single paisa for home or bought anything. I paid her every bill and for house hold things too. I never asked to pay for anything nor demanded her money. Even I was paying for her Insurance.

She always demanding to make more gold, I gave her all the gold even she kept my gold chain, rings in her sisters locker without my consent.

Every week she wanted to meet her sister and other relatives, but never agreed to come to my relatives home, even when we go for some Function in my relatives home, she will sit somewhere in corner and refuse to talk to anyone.

She was always inviting her relatives, and all relatives came shamelessly and stayed, and her jobless Brother coming home everyday just for food. But she never allowed me to invite my relatives; she told straight on my face, she will not cook anything for my relatives.

She always wanted me to wish her relatives on their Birthday and on other fest but she never called my relatives or talking to them.

As I said, her Brother was jobless, sometimes he was working as Waiter, as he came to our home he was asking and taking money around 5000, promising me to return in a month, but he hardly bothered to return it and if I ask she was getting angry.

She was very much Addicted to TV, I was watching one BBC news or if any good movie on weekend. She was always fighting for her Hindi serials mostly shows Family Problems, pre marital and extra marital Affairs and love stories, no need to explain what Indian women watch and like mostly.

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I do not blame her for Everything;
She was a good girl, spoiled by her parents and sisters;
She was trying to be a good wife; but stubborn and little lazy;
She was doing all those things only the day she called her home/mother or sister otherwise she tried to learn things and cooking. but she was trying to control and dominate me.

On my 1st birthday together, after I reached Office she called from her office, and said I have something on our home table. Coz she was leaving to office after I left and reach home after I come in the Evening. But unfortunately when she called and said she has something for me, I said it’s a big greeting card, she was surprised to hear that and asked how I know, I said I do not know, that made her to think, i`m spying on her; but matter of fact I did`t know how I know things in Advance.

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September 11 is an unfortunate day for many mainly USA and world; including me too;

How ? you may ask.

9/11 ruined many life’s and families as you know. And it directly linked to me too.

Because its her Birthday too.

On Her 1st Birthday, together I planned many things some surprise gifts and I was thinking about it till 10th September. But unfortunately I forgot it on that day and went to office as usual.

As someone said “Best way to remember wife Birthday, forget once” that also I forgot her 1st birthday Together.

When I reached Office, her Brother called me, as we do not had Telephone at home; and asked how is she?

I said she is fine, why are you asking.
He said anything special today?
I said no, what for.
He said its her Birthday;
He dropped Atom Bomb on me. I really forgot and busy with work.

But he did`t stopped there, he called everyone from his family and told that I forgot her 1st birthday together.

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As I said, she was working as a Accounts assistant for a small firm;
Once I called her; while talking she said
“hai” like someone pinched her;
I asked who is it.
She said one of her colleague.
That was the turning point in our relation. I did`t made big issue out of it. I just said, how can you all someone to pinch in your bottom; and same I asked her after in our church reconciliation when we split. But she has no answer.

As per my finding; he was known to her, since long, and she used to go out with him.

I do not eat anything from outside, I do not like Hotel food, thinking its not clean.
I was having 2 days weekly off, on Saturday and Sunday, once on Monday when I got up I felt dizziness; I could not able to stand also, vomited and fever too. I checked with Doctor, he said, its Food Poison.
I was thinking how can it be possible, as I do not ate anything outside food for last 2 days.
When I told this to her, she laughed. I do not why.
We had same food together, but she was ok. Usually I do not take food from dish. Most of the time she serve in my plate. Whatever she gave I used to have even salty or no salt, raw or burnt without a word.

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I was planning no Children for 2 years, till we plan our Future and secure financially.
We did not know about any Family Planning, so she got pregnant immediately after Marriage.
After 7 months, as a custom I sent her to her parent’s home in Udupi; as we were working in Bombay.
After few days, I felt that she will deliver a baby boy on 26th January. It was almost 6 months before my son birth.

Even today I do not know how it came to my mind. As I predicted many things,
she delivered on 26th January 1998,
exactly after 9 months of our marriage.

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After 40 days of our son birthday, for Christening I went to Udupi. On the way my elder Brother house comes, and I was going with my younger Brother he said we will visit brother’s son also who was born one month before my son; so we went there 1st then we went to see my son.

She and her parents were angry because I did`t came directly to their house.

As a custom, 1st Devilry expenses bared by her parents, still I asked her how much they spent for delivery, at that time her father denied to take any money from me; but later she started to tell I did not gave them money of delivery.

After Christening I came back to Bombay;
After 3 months she said, she also wanted to come to Bombay; I said stay 2 more months till she can take care of baby, coz there was no one at Bombay to look after 3 months baby. Still she came to Bombay, and said she will manage.

After she came back to Bombay; I came to know why she wanted to come to Bombay;
She completely stopped breast feed; in 3 months because at my home my mother used to say breast feed only till one year, and she was suffocating with that as she was thinking she will be disfigured if she breast feed for one year.

What a brave women;
She stopped breast feed in 3 months; to save her Beauty.

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She left her job, as that company is not giving more maternity leave for than 2 months. I’m always grateful for that she sacrificed her job for family; but she was not happy with that, has happened.

She changed completely after Delivery;

Grumbling and breaking things, doing things which irritate me more;
Calling home for every things; asking advice from her sister and mother; Even if I say same thing she will not listen.

The day she calls home, she started to pickup fight with me for small reason. If I do not do anything she used to bring broom or anything which she can lift and giving it in hand and holding my hand and beating herself. Then calling her mother or sister and telling them I’m beating her. I did`t told these things to my parents; that was the mistake.

Always insist me on to make more gold and comparing other women with more gold.

She was at home and look after our son, but she was telling I have to look after him at night; even I was working; still I was gets up not less than 3 times at night and changed his wet cloths; when she was snoring when he cry;
I used to feed him also.
Even on weekends I used to oil massage him; I do not boast what I did for my son; still I have`t seen any men who put their son on their leg and traditionally oil massage.

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One year passed after Glenn Birth; we celebrated at Vasai and only 4 people from my family I invited out of 50 people.

This time I did`t said no to alcohol; coz I knew it, if I do not bring she will go to liquor shop and bring. Out of many bottle; her family finished all the whisky but one bottle of beer left, and I kept it in fridge after Birthday, thinking if someone will come, we can give it to them, as I do not drink.

Day passed, after 6 months I remembered about it, coz I totally forgotten, when I did`t found it in fridge.

She said her sister came once and they both had it, what a big deal.

That’s how women of her Family are; she did`t even told someone came and she treated them well with Alcohol.

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She never supported any of my ideas; her attitude is, whatever I say, she should deny and she was doing that.
She was always trying to find whatever possible reason to harass me. For every word she was ready to fight like man to man. She hardly agreed for my single word.

I wanted to migrate to Australia, as someone promised me job and support, but she bluntly denied; if you want to go, go alone i`ll not come there, I do not want leave my family.

I wanted to buy a plot in Vasai and build house as we liked, as I was suffocated in apartment type dwelling. But she refused and said if I planning to buy anything buy near her sister house, she do not want to stay anywhere else.

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Later I found out why she started to hate my mother; when she was in my parent’s home after delivery.

After delivery she cannot do much work; so she was resting most of the time; my mother thought to kill boredom she give her some work to pass time. And my mother did`t know she do not know how to hold a needle. So my mother gave some cloths and some button to stitch, thinking she will stitch. After some time when mother returned she was trying to put thread in the needle only. Then my mother realized how much she knew about stitching. But she told me, my mother deliberately insulted her by giving her to stitch.

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Our son more attached to me than his mother;
He always wanted to eat from my hands
He was sleeping on my chest; even he slept with his mother in the morning when we got up he always with me in my bed.

He has good friend, our neighbor, his name is Ashish, whenever Glenn goes to his home, and he used to play with his toy bus, so they thought like giving that toy bus to Glenn. And Glenn was very happy to have that bus, but one fine day that bus disappeared all of a sudden. Months later when we went to her sister house I found that bus with her sister son who is 3 year older than Glenn. Coz this lady gave it to him than her own son.

Not only that, her Sister son was 3 year older than Our son Glenn still she used to carry him whenever he cry, but she hardly lifted our son Glenn, because he was my son and she liked her sister son more than her own son.

Once she fought with me at night, no need to say she called her mother that day. She exhausted all the ways to harass me but found ultimate way to irritate me. That night she did`t gave anything to Glenn not even she allowed me to give any food to him; she locked bedroom and slept; when I tried to feed him; she hugged him tight and started to cry loudly because I was pulling him to feed him. He was so afraid and he slept empty stomach that night.

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She Knew Very well how to harass me;

If she do not get whatever she wanted; then she started to things which are irritating me;

When I watch TV, suddenly changing channel

Wasting water, as we were paying for every littler and its tanker water;

Switch on Fan and keep it running even no one is there;

Deliberately banging doors;

Dropping things;

Murmuring; grumbling;

Keeping things here and there;

Throwing her dress and things everywhere,

As I’m very much neat and clean and punctual and she knew I do not like all these things.

Whole day spending at sister house, and coming home just half an hour before I come;

Sometimes call me at office and telling she is staying at her sister house, even I do not have house keys, I have to take keys from neighbors. Even we were visiting her sister every week.

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After 2 years of marriage we went to her native place Church fest;
As my mother is from same parish I also knew many people from her place.
After mass I was standing with some of my friends and she was little far away with other women she knew. Then one of my friends friend came to us and started to talk, he saw my wife, but he did`t know I married to her. I think my wife and he studied in same year and college. He knew her very well and how notorious she was. He started to tell about her without knowing I married to her.

I do not want to tell what he told…… just to protect her chastity.

My friend was trying to change the subject, but that guy was keeps on saying about her, without knowing i`m her husband. Then I told him, i`m her husband after hearing many things.

His last words were;

Oh man you should have checked with us…..

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Once I was returning from Office;
I met my neighbor on the way near our home.
He asked me, where i`m coming from, I said Office;
He said, he saw me afternoon at our door step, thinking I took off today.
Then I said, may be some guest came home I think……

When I came home, thinking some guest should be there;
But no one was there.
I did`t asked her who had come; because I did`t know someone came in my absence.
But when I saw 2 Tea cups in the kitchen, which we used to give to guest only. We have our own cups, those are special cups. That made me to ask…..

If anyone, any guests came home…?

She said NO.

I seen those cups many times before also, but I never thought someone came home, until my neighbor told me.

If some of her Relative was coming home then why she deny;

Why she was hiding it from me…….

I never able to findout who was that mystery man and Mystery of coffee cups……

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Whenever I went to her relatives house, I used to take Cold drinks or Pepsi which she did`t liked as all of her relatives insulting me for drinking soft drinks as all of them where heavy drinkers.
She was very much friendly with one of our opposite building lady; we used to call her Bhabi; a Very Noble Maharashtrian Family;
That day she fought with me, and they saw us; then Bhabis husband came home to make us understand and settle the problem.
She told all about me, what I’m doing if I go to party;

She wanted only one thing from me that I have to promise him that I’ll start Drinking and be alcoholic.
She Forced me to Promise him that `ill start Drinking.
I have seen many Indian women who do fasting and pray to keep their husband away from alcohol, but this lady want me toBe Alcoholic.

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At Vasai, where we were staying, there was no good water supply; we were getting Tanker Water which was not good for newly born baby Glenn.

Buying mineral water is out of my reach;

My office was almost 50 KM away from my Home and daily I have to struggle to get into train, I was hardly getting seat to sit for almost 1.15 hour journey; most of the time I traveled Standing on one foot.

Everyday I was asking my Office Canteen guy to boil clean water and filter it and keep it for me. Everyday I used to bring 2, one and half liter of bottles I was taking home just for my son. I did this almost more than one year, Every Day.

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We celebrated Glenn 1st Birthday at our Vasai home, so I wanted to celebrate his 2nd Birthday at my Native place; she agreed for this after so much argument; actually she wanted to celebrate at her native home. There is nothing wrong to celebrate at her native, I said coming year we will celebrate, and then she agreed but unfortunately that next year never came.

After this we came back to Vasai and she started to find a job for her.

After 2/3 months she got some job, somewhere in Andheri.

actually we did`t need her to work, as I had good job and salary, she just wanted enough money to spend that’s the reason she joined work, other than that I do not remember she ever spent single paisa to buy something for our home.

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I always did my duty as a husband and a Father;
In our neighbor few men who go to work do things at home;
But I was doing my things and cleaning home, look after Glenn, many things as I told before.

I used to get up early morning and bringing milk and bread from store. At that time also I see neighbor women coming to take milk /eggs and bread hardly few men other than retired men. I’m the only man who goes down to bring milk when she was sleeping/snoring. I never complained about it. I was doing it as my duty.

Once I got up as usual and went down; at that time Glenn was 2 year old. Milk store was almost 100 meter away from our Apartment and there was a junction where 4 roads meet; we have cross that road to milk store. After taking milk, when I came back to that junction, young Glenn standing on middle of the road and looking here and there. He was wearing only shorts no shirt. I was shocked to see him in the middle of the road. I run away towards him and grabbed him. Coz it was main road and any time vehicles can come.

When I reached home our apartment door was wide open, when I went inside she was still sleeping, a sound sleep. And unaware what had happened.

When I told this to her relatives; she started to tell; I’m not allow her to sleep also.

At what extent; still someone robs everything or someone come and rape her also she will not aware. That kind of sound sleep.

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Her joining of job, which started new Problem; that was End of the Beginning which was not good, still her job made it worse.

I was going to Office Early and she was going at 7AM and keeping Glenn at neighbor’s house. He was happy to be with our Bhabi our neighbor than his mother.

I was coming back home in the Evening at 5PM, while coming home I used to bring groceries and vegetables and cleaning home and preparing rice. I know she is tired when she comes back from office. She was not having Saturday off but I had 5 day week. On Saturday when I iron my cloths I also iron her but her nature and attitude made me to stop that.
No need to tell when you open her cupboard most of the time her all cloths used to fell out, coz she never kept it folded or neatly.

She turned more rude, her words where sharp, I had no rights to tell anything. If I tell something she used to bring something and giving it in my hand and holding my hand with it and beating her self.
Many time when I was not doing as she said, she used to bang her head to wall.

Our Sex life came to an End, coz she was tired and I never forced her. As it is she was never interested in it nor did she voluntarily do anything. I always felt like sleeping with DEAD Body, where there are no emotions. She had Frigidity.

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On June 10th Saturday, as usual we went Saturday Evening mass, came home, had food which we prepared in the Afternoon and at night she wanted to call her mother, at that time we had no Telephone at home so we went to Public phone booth. There was parallel line and I said I also wanted to talk to her mother. She was talking when finished she said to her mother I wanted to tell something. Immediately her mother said am I still complaining that she is not cooking and all that, if he still say that, “do not cook lets see what he is doing.”

I Repeat,

“Do not cook; let’s see what he is doing.”

Her Mother did`t know I’m listening on the other end.

I said I have nothing to say.

That was starting point of End of our Marriage.

I did not tell this to anyone, even my parents. It was her mother misguiding her mostly and this dumb, was doing as her mother says, without thinking it’s her marriage and she will lose it.

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After this incident, we stayed as strangers under one roof;
No talk for a week;
Then her Father came to Vasai for her Aunties monthly mass. She also went to mass and she home along with her 7/8 relatives at 10.30PM

As soon as they entered home her Father started to abuse me;
Her Brother wanted to beat me and shouting at me, he called me by names and DOG.
Her sisters started to tell something…..
Her Sister Husband was also murmuring something…
They were cursing my parents..
She was insulting my Brother.

And I was alone.

Their this drama went till 11.30, for their every word and curse she was laughing loudly
Till I showed what she is doing…?

Even that day, she left her monthly menstrual pad in Bathroom and it was there only.

That was ultimate, to show how dirty and lazy she is.

They threatened me no to tell about her past to anyone and they can do anything, break my limbs or throw acid on my face…

At around 11.30 they left

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After this Incident she went to native place along with my son.

Her Father and mother went to my native and gave BAD words shouted at them.

Till then my parents did`t know anything about it.

I did`t told anything about them, what had happened.

My Parents called me home and I went to my native place on 22nd June

I told them Every thing what is going on and what happened so far.

They were shocked to know all this and I did`t uttered single word against her.

In 1st July we arranged meeting with our Parish Priest.

I called her father and told about it.

She came with her parents;

They started to tell about me.

Then Priest asked;

Is he drinking Alcohol, her Mother said no;
Is he lunatic; she said no
Then why you say he is beating you; as per him you bang your head to wall and tell to your sister that I hit her.

So argument continued

Then I asked Father….Priest

When she is married to me, how she can allow other man to touch her.

Priest Asked her, was it true.

She nod her head.

Suddenly her Father Got up and said we are not came here to get insulted, lets go…

And they walked away.

Then I asked Priest; if they were right why they walked away.

I requested Priest to give me proof letter about whatever happened..

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On 2nd July I took Bus to Bombay and reached on 3rd Evening.

On 4th Jul Tuesday 2000 I went office as usual; that morning I did`t prepared anything for lunch as I reached home in the Evening on 3rd. usually I do not eat anything outside food and previous day on bus I had something so my stomach was upset. I just had a sandwich and some lassie from office canteen that’s all;

In the Evening I reached home at 8PM, i kept rice on gas and went to bath, as I finished bath rice was ready and I was changing my dress then door bell rung.

I thought some of neighbor kids came, and I opened the door to my surprise they were police in civil dress;

As soon as I opened the door, they stood on door; they introduced them self as police; I demanded their Id and one of the police showed his ID.

Then they asked me who is Rodalf de Souza (they pronounced like that)

I said that’s me;

They said “come with us”

I said, let me dress,

They said, shayadi pe nahi ja rahe hai, police station [We are not going for wedding, but police station]

I just pulled the door, Even they did`t allowed me to lock the door;

One police was holding my collar and took me to a jeep which was waiting for us;

We reached Police station;

They made me stand till one of their inspector come;

Then he started to read something which was written in Marathi, as I do not understand Marathi correctly, after reading I asked them what is it all about;

Police said, your wife gave complaint that you were beating her for Dowry;

I asked WHEN;

Police said yesterday;

I said she left almost 20 days back, and I came yesterday from my native place, if you want to see my bus ticket I have it;

That we do not know, but she gave complaint likes that.

They knew it its False Complaint;

They gave me Two Blank papers and asked me to sign;

I refused to sign;

One police kept his hand on my shoulder and pressed and said sign here;

I saw his face; his voice was threatening and they forced me to sign Blank Papers.

Then they asked do you admit, that you demanded Dowry;

I said can you ask same question to my wife in front of me;

So you admit it, they said

They took my sign on Blank paper and now they started to write something on that in Marathi; Even I deny any charges they will write as I admitted it coz they already has my sign on Blank papers.

At around 11 o’clock they finished writing and they asked me, do you have any relatives here.

I said NO;

Where is your parents ?

My Native place Mangalore;
 
Give us their Phone Number; we have to inform them;

I thought like, at this night, I do not want to inform this to my old parents and make them worried;

They said, Afterwards you do not get time to call them, give us their number;

Then I was sure that they will arrest me, and there was no option left than give them my parent’s phone number;

They took me to Telephone Booth and called home; they allowed me to say “hello and I’m calling from Police Station”

One of the police informed my Father that they are arresting me under section 498A.

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MohanDas Gandhi Went to Jail for no reason under British Raj and became Mahathma;and that jail Term made him Famous;

I also went to jail for no reason,just on one word of my Dear wife, that i took dowry; Even i have not demanded single paise as dowry nor they gave anything willingly.This 498A not made me Famous but Notorious; It was not LAw made by Biritish but by our own people;

This is the only Law in the world which send innocent people to jail; but not make them Famous.

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4th of July Independence Day of United States of America (USA) and it was my Liberation Day too;

I`m Liberated from 3 years of Abuse, Insult and mental Torture;

I spent so much money on her, I did Everything as a Husband,
I gave her Money;
I bought Fridge, just because she wanted to drink Cold Water, as I do not like frozen things and we used to get Every thing fresh, just outside of our Home.
I gave Money to her Brothers whenever they wanted in Thousands.
I was with her always when her Relatives were on Death Bed and when they were happy.
Even I was working and I used to getup to change my son wet cloths, not less than 3 times at night when she was snoring and not even gets up single time.

Still……

At last She Stabbed on my back….. like BRUTUS.

Filed False 498A on me.

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After I called up home and informed, police has arrested me;

Police made me to sit on a bench till 11PM; then they told me to go to cell so they can lock me up.

I said I will sit outside, I will not run;

They knew, I will not run away still they said they want to sleep (They sleep on duty) so they asked me to go to cell.

They took my valet and searched for any, metal objects and strings I have or not; not even that, they took my Scapular too.

There was one more guy already in the cell;
It was dark and stinking with urine smell;
There was no proper clean place to sit either;

So I was standing holding Jail Cell bars;

At 11PM their duty changes and new shift police came and they did`t know why I am arrested. As I was looking ordinary with my old cloths, they thought I am arrested for some theft or so, one police came to me and started to pock me with his Police stick and asked me to sit back as I was standing for long holding iron cell bars; he was new shift duty police and did`t know why I am in, then other police told him why I am arrested.

I think his name is Kadam; he asked me what had happened;

I told him in brief;

He said, if he was in my place he would have cut her in to 2 pieces after she filed false case.

That whole night I spent Standing Holding those cell iron bars.

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Next Day;

5th of July, early morning they gave me samosa and Tea;

At 8 AM some of my relatives came to see me; as my Parents informed them.

I told them what had happened;

At 10AM Police Station Sub Inspector came and they took me to him;

At that time one my relative asked to come one of the local Ex Corporator;

Inspector asked me, did I beat my wife;

I said, she left 20 days back, then how can I beat her on 3 days back;

Immediately he said to one of the constable, who was writing Charge sheet,

“Panch sau chaar tak re” [Apply IPC 504 too]

It was Additional charge, just because I said, she left 20 days back.
Police can charge you falsely in India if you tell truth;

Al together they charged me with;

IPC 498A: “Cruelty by husband or relatives of husband”
IPC 323 : “Voluntarily causing hurt with full knowledge and intention”.
IPC 504 : “Intentional insult and provocation for breaking public peace”
IPC 506 : “Criminal intimidation with a threat to cause death”.

And inspector asked me to go to Thahasildhar for 6 months, every month and get his sign on some paper too;

I do not know why he charged me with all this;

My charge sheet was filled same day;

There was neither Enquiry nor Investigation;

I also told him she took all my Gold, still he said if I utter one more word he will put me on lockup and will not produce to court for a week.

Then everyone told me not to talk anything.

After that they gave me lunch

At 3PM they took me to court handcuffed,

They took me to court like a thief, like one who convicted for murder;
They produced me to court;
I was standing with other Criminals;

When my turn came; judge asked me;

Plead Guilty or no?

I said, “NO” Boldly;

My Relatives arranged one lawyer, he told something to judge and judge allowed me to go to home.

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Next day 6th July I went to office as usual;
No one knows what had happened in last 2 days; I did `t told anyone about it.
I just missed my son Glenn; as he was wishing bye when I leave to office;
I liked to sleep on my chest when I got up in the morning;
He used to eat breakfast from my hand;

I wept for hours thinking about him;

He was not with me, still I was hearing his voice and foot steps.

I felt no hunger or thirst;

I came back from office; and prepared just rice and had with just pickle.

At around 10PM someone rung my door bell; and I opened it.

I saw she was standing there with her two cousin sisters; one of the cousin sister husband was in jail for 7 years for murder.

I asked; what do you want now;
She said I have my cloths here, I want to take;

I allowed them in;

They did not came to take cloths, but insult me, humiliate me, they checked kitchen what I have prepared there was nothing, they laughed at me saying see now he is sleeping empty stomach.

I told them, get all your things and get lost;

She took Everything, her cloths, utensils and everything she think that belongs to her; Even she took
5 gold Chains which I and my parents gave to Glenn;
One Glenn Bracelet which was given by my Brother;
One my chain worth almost 25,000 Rs. Given by my Brother.
My 2 rings;
2 rings I gave it to her
2 Chains worth 40,000 Rs, which I gave it to her.
One Bracelet;

Other than gold she also took one lakh worth Insurance which I made for her and paid all premium.
Another Insurance worth 50000 in Glenn name;

That day I did`t know, what they are taking, I was made to sit in hall when she was packing in the Bedroom.

They took Everything and left after one hour laughing at me.

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After that night; their visit was just routine;

She started to come every night with her cousin sisters after 10PM and started to abuse me, insult me and checking how I kept home and what I cook. If I do not open the door they started to bang; as I was totally alone and did`t had any close relatives also in Vasai.

Next Sunday my Dad Came from my native place; and introduced Vasai priest Fr.Peter Bombacha as he was very good friend of my dad. He assured my dad here after I’m his son; anything happens he will look after me as he was having very good hold over Vasai people. Father advised me to meet a well known person in Vasai who can tell police to stop this threat and abuse and that gentlemen came with to police station and told Sub Inspector and Inspector told me if they come again to Abuse me give Complaint at police station.

After few days my Dad left to native place then Again they started to come, reason, she has some of her cloths to take, as they were not taking those cloths but in the name of cloths they were coming in and abusing me.

I filed complaint LC-1012 dated 17/07/2000, that day Inspector called her cousin sisters and told before dawn take Everything whatever she left in my house. That day they came and took whatever they left even her Torn cloths.

After that we lost contact as she was staying at her sister house and working somewhere in Andheri. Once I met her at Vasai Railway station. I asked her how are you, she just smiled a faint smile; I saw she was not wearing mangalsutra; it was symbol of her marriage; so she was ready to break this marriage.

Then I asked Vasai Priest to call her; and make her understand, in next one month Priest called her office number so many times; not less than 50 Times as none of the Priest can do that much.

I also called her and she said next week her Father is coming to Bombay; come home and ask him if he says; she is ready to come back. On 29/9/2000 me and my dad who came to Bombay Again went to her Cousin home to take her back or talk. Her Father was also there, when we reached their home other than her Father, her sister husband and one more person were drinking alcohol; as soon as they saw my face her father came towards me to hit me as he was high in alcohol. Her cousin sister stopped him and said not in my house. Then he started to threatened me to break my limbs and back, we came back from there without talking anything and lodged complaint about it at Manikpur Vasai Police station LC No:1527/2000 dated 29/9/2000. For that also police did`t took any action.

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After 2 months of all this;
i called her so many times;
she was working somewhere in Andheri;i was calling her on her office number;

I begged her to come back; at least for child sake;

she said come to her sister place and take her back;i said i`ll not come anywhere as she left her own;

After some days she came her own; telling she still have some things to take; on the door step itself she said she did`t came to stay.

i allowed her in;glenn my son was also came with her; he was very much fond of me before, now he act like a stranger and Affraid to come to me

i gave him his favorite GEMS chocolates;

she said say thank you…..

He thanked me… saying
THANK YOU UNCLE

hearing this, she laughed, sarcastic laugh and seems so happy

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Even After all this I did`t lose my heart;

I still believed she will come back some day;

Even Vasai Priest Assured me, she will know, what she has done and revert me back.

Once she met me on the way and I asked about my son Glenn; how he is;
She said,he is not my son; I did`t know that was a riddle or she is telling the TRUTH.

Vasai Priest was calling her Every now and then

Once she came with her cousin sisters and warned Priest not to call her. Their actual words were “do not harass us”.

After Few days; when I called her Office; her colleague said she wanted to talk. Our argument reached no where. Then I asked Priest to make her understand and Priest asked her to come to his Ashram to talk. She came on Saturday after office hours and Priest cancelled all his other work and sits with us and explained what is marriage all about, she listened carefully but she was stubborn. She said if I write my Fathers apartment in her name she will come back, but that day I have come with her to her other sister home and take her back.

I went to borivili, her sister home and brought her back, but when she came she brought only one dress; that was sign that she will not stay long. Next day she got up and went to work but did returned my home. I know it she will do like this, that was third time I tried to bring her back.

On other side 498A court dates were going on but she did`t came for single date and I was visiting Thahasildhar every month as Police Inspector directed me.

On 2nd October court date, she came after judge ordered her to be present; but she demanded, she will compromise if I come to her native place home and take her back; so judge told me to go there and