Real Statistics on Domestic violence:
One of the most pervasive myths of our society is that domestic violence is something men do to women. Solid scientific research reveals that domestic violence is something women do to men more frequently than men do to women.
While it is true that men account for most violence outside the home, women instigate most domestic violence and they injure men more frequently and more severely.
The Family Research
Laboratory at the
Original data is also
available on CD-ROM from Sociometrics, Inc. in
The average results in the 'severe assault' category are reported below:
* Wives report they have been severely assaulted by husband 22 per 1000
* Wives report they have severely assaulted husband 59 per 1000
* Husbands report they have been severely assaulted by wives 32 per 1000
* Husbands report they have severely assaulted wives 18 per 1000
* Husbands & wives both report wife has been assaulted 20 per 1000
* Husbands & wives both report husband has been assaulted 44 per 1000
There are dozens of other studies that reveal similar findings. For instance:
* Women are three times more likely than men to use weapons in domestic violence.
* Women initiate most incidents of domestic violence.
* Women commit most child abuse and elder abuse.
* Women hit their male children more frequently and more severely than they hit their female children.
* Women commit most child murders and 64% of their victims are male children.
* When women murder adults, the majority of their victims are men.
* Women commit 50% of spousal murders.
* Eighty-two per cent of all people have their first experience of violence at the hands of a woman.
Wives report they have been severely assaulted by husband 22 per 1000 (Vs 59%)
[Source: http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0JJC/is_3_22/ai_81835579 ]
Who is behind this Sabotage of Society?
Rajendra K.Gupta, “India-Force” Yahoo! D-List (http://groups.yahoo.com/group/India-Force )
What the dirty, overfed and corrupt politicians and misguided women in
various forums and organizations are doing is causing widespread damage to
We have almost reached the point of no return. Men are being forced to remain in marriage - once entered - under threat of law. This is sickening. Instead of making divorce easy and simple and time bound these politicians enact more and more laws to intimidate people and fool women and men alike.
Once a relationship is broken it will result into divorce. There is no point in trying to save it and that too by force and threat of police arrest. There has been wholesale abuse of women's laws as much as 90% cases in case of 498A and other dowry laws.
But in fact I know of several women whose jewellery and other effects are in custody of brother-in-laws and ex-husbands and nothing is done by police or courts. They don't even bother to listen about it. The whole system in
Genuine cases are never taken up by police or courts. They invariably act on false cases.
Whenever special laws are enacted the procedure and definitions should be very clear and goals of law should be clear. These should have built-in safety and higher punishment for abuse of law and making false complaints. Policemen should also be prosecuted for false action. Unless this is done, Indian society is headed for severe crisis, unrest and breakages of homes and ultimately women will be the largest sufferers.
The situation is such that I would advice youth not to marry if they can avoid it. A new set up will have to be evolved in society till these corrupt and brainless people in power learn lessons and withdraw all foolish and mala fide laws enacted including reservations.
Just imagine - a boy marries a girl and marriage lasts for a few weeks but he
has to provide her a home, money and maintenance for her whole life and also
face charges against 498A and 406 and etc laws. He can't sell his house any more
without consent of that woman. It is sheer ridiculous and contradictory to many
other basic laws and principles of the Constitution. Would it be advisable to go
for marriage in
In fact what happens in most urban disputes is the incompatibility and intolerance by the bride towards the groom’s family and the wife’s insistence on living separately. Relations sour and reach breaking point, which is when the whole act of vendetta and State Terrorism begins. Go to police file a complaint under Section 498(A) without any evidence, facts or prima facie reason. Now she will go to court lodging a complaint under the so-called D.V. Act. The DV act provisions are nothing but outright foolish, absurd, illogical and exist to perpetrate Sate Terrorism and blackmail only. How such law can be passed in any democratic society ?
It is time people stop marrying like in
People should write to the Ministry of Law, the President and to the Chief Justice of India (CJI) to withdraw these illegal legislations immediately and arrest the members of the “National Commission for Women” (NCW) for injuring the commonwealth.
This boneless and corrupt person working as prime minister should immediately resign. He should be ashamed for all his failures and for dividing society by intense reservations and bringing in several silly and idiotic laws never heard before.
People should not sit quiet. People have to rise when unreasonabelity reaches its peak. That is what
The Gender Divide
As a result, the dowry system was fashioned and observed by many communities on the principle that it was unfair to place a woman’s entire economic burden on the husband.
As the twentieth century progressed the hurdles towards women participating in the economic activity were gradually eliminated and by the 21st century the hurdles have been more or less removed in most sections of Indian society. Strictly speaking, now that women, by and large are economically independent, there is no longer any need for her to be dependent on a man.
However it is being seen that the Courts still treat women as "Abla Naari" needing financial assistance from some male, mostly her husband. Given the current social scenario, it now becomes imperative that women be weaned away from this dependency on income earned by the husband’s sweat. There is no longer any need to demand financial assistance from husbands to live their lives.
The Hindu Marriage Act (HMA) also clearly states that when a woman has access to independent income then she is not entitled to financial assistance in form of maintenance or alimony.
Unfortunately financially independent women are still misusing the maintenance laws (Section 125 of the Criminal Procedure Code) and Section 24 of HMA to demand financial settlements as “maintenance”.