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When you set up your small business Web site, chances are you won’t be creating and maintaining your pages on your own Web server. Instead, you probably will be using a Web hosting service — a third party that sells you space on its Web servers where your site will reside. It’s important to choose a host wisely. The service that your Web host provides will have a direct impact on how customers view your site. Select an unreliable host, and potential customers might get turned off by slow access times, pages that don’t load, or orders that don’t go through. The tips below are intended to help you select the best host for your site and get the most out of your Internet budget:

• Choose a business host
• ISP or host?
• Find out how much space you’re getting
• Know your traffic limits
• Find out what you’ll pay for other services
• Security and reliability
• Get help registering your domain name
• Look for extras

Choose a business host

When you’re evaluating potential Web site hosts, make certain that they allow commercial sites on their servers. Some sites only offer room for personal Web sites and are strict in their no-business-allowed policy. If you try to sneak a business site past them, they can quickly close your site down. Others will allow you to post your business site, but will fix limits on the amount of traffic you can generate or the size of your site. If your site becomes too popular, they may ask you to move to another host. As a rule, look for hosts that actively encourage business use, since they are in the best position to serve you as your site grows. These hosts will often offer a variety of different plans based on typical business use, and may even have discount programs or special deals to lure companies such as yours.

ISP or host?

When you’re choosing someone to host your Web site, you basically have two options: an Internet Service Provider (ISP) or a dedicated Web host. An ISP can provide your company with a range of services in addition to Web hosting. It can give you access to the Web and provide you with e-mail service, for example, and may package these services with its Web hosting products. Other companies work strictly as Web hosts, meaning they only provide you with room on their server for your site — no e-mail or Internet access. The advantage of a dedicated Web host is that visitors to your site won’t be sharing bandwidth with casual Web surfers, so load times may be improved.

Find out how much space you’re getting

When you’re using a Web host, you are essentially buying space on their server’s hard drives. You don’t want to hamstring your site by having too little room, nor do you want to pay for disk space that you’re not going to use. In general, 10 MB of disk space equals about 100 Web pages, which should be more than enough for the average small business site. If you use lots of images, sounds, animation, or applets you’ll need more room.

Know your traffic limits

Find out how many page hits are included in the basic price of a Web host’s service. Your potential hosts probably put this figure in terms of megabytes of file transfer; if they do, ask them to translate that into an average hit rate, which is often easier to understand. Some hosts apply a surcharge if you go beyond the pre-determined limits, and this can be costly if traffic is much higher then you anticipated. If your site becomes very active, it’s possible that the host will ask you to move elsewhere. This tends to happen more often with ISPs, who may be concerned that traffic to a particularly popular Web site they’re hosting will hurt the performance of their servers for other users.

Find out what you’ll pay for other services

Ask any potential host what is included in its per-month charge, and what costs extra. Depending on the package you purchase, you could end up paying additional fees for things like image maps, Java applets, streaming audio/video (RealAudio), or server-side multimedia (Shockwave). Make sure you’re clear on what this means to your site design or your budget.

Security and reliability

With any host, you need to make sure that your Web site data is secure from outside threats and hackers, and that your site will be up and running 99-100% of the time. Some key security and reliability issues you’ll want to cover include: How are hackers kept out? Just about every host will have some kind of Internet firewall in place to keep uninvited visitors out of its servers. Make sure it also conducts regular security audits and takes other proactive steps to address potential security holes. How often are sites backed up? Back-ups should occur daily to ensure data is never lost. What happens in case of a power outage? Make certain all servers are on uninterruptible power supplies so data is always available. Are they able to host secure transactions? If you plan to sell from your site, look for hosts that support transaction encryption standards like SSL and SET. Is 24-hour tech support available? You want a host that can handle technical issues at any time. Find out if there is a separate tech support line for hosting customers, so you don’t have to stay on hold for hours to get your questions answered. Does the host use redundant connections? Multiple high-speed connections ensure that users can access your site if a line goes down. Is the site physically secured? It’s one thing to keep out hackers who try to enter through the Web. It’s also important to physically secure all servers so that only the host’s authorized personnel have physical access to servers.

Get help registering your domain name

Many Web hosts will help you register your domain name. With your own domain, your site can be accessed at www.yoursitename.com instead of as a subdirectory of a larger site.

Look for extras

Some Web hosts will provide a range of other services for a small charge or even for free. Some to look for include: Design services: Does the host have talented Web designers or programmers on staff who can assist you in creating your site? If not, does it have any contacts with site designers who are experienced with small businesses ? Software: Does the host offer any free software? Many provide free or low-cost design packages, HTML editors, or shopping cart software. Online promotion: Will your host help you register your site with the leading search engines and directories? Does the host have a place where it will promote your site? Can it assist with online advertising ? Usage accounting: How often is your site being accessed? How are people getting to your site? Which parts of your site are most popular? See if your host has software that can track daily and hourly traffic to and from your site to help you keep in touch with user input.

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No One Married to be Divorced,To make a marriage work you have to be prepared to put in a lot of effort and time. There are ups and downs in marriage, All marriages are look perfect from outside,but in reality its different. You have to learn to be able to deal with both extremes and work together.

1. Ask your partner’s advice and listen to the answer.
2. Accept that you will both make mistakes and do your best to learn from them. and Never Repeat it
3. If you run into a difficult time, just remember your wedding vows.
4. Accept that men and women are different.
5. Communicate. Listen, learn and talk to each other.
6. Don’t have affairs
7. Don’t sleep in separate beds, even if there’s an unsettled argument. Try to sort out your problems before you go to sleep.
8. Don’t fall into roles. If one of you always does the ironing, it becomes boring and monotonous.
9. Teasing can be healthy but don’t let it become cruelty.
10. Be best friends as well as lovers
11. Do not criticise his/her friends in front of him/her. Nor insult husband/wife in front of your friends
12. Do not criticise his/her Parents.
13. Give and take.
14. Don’t let your sex life become a routine. Make Love
15. Don’t take each other for granted.
16. Comfort each other when you are down.
17. Accept your partner.
18. Don’t neglect your appearances.
19. Be honest with each other.
20. Compromise.
21. Forgive each other.
22. Ask before you borrow anything.
23. Pass on all messages to your partner.
24. Tell your partner that you love them.
25. Compliment each other – and mean it
26. Cry together as you laugh together.
27. Share responsibilities
28. Be thankful to each other.
29. Do not cheat.
30. Learn to say SORRY.
31. Please each other.
32. Learn from each other
33. Treat spouse parents as yours.
34. Judge Not.
35. Share your secrets

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A chat with Dr.Devi Shetty , Narayana Hrudayalaya (Heart Specialist) Bangalore .

Qn: What are the thumb rules for a layman to take care of his heart ?
Ans:1. Diet - Less of carbohydrate, more of protein,less oil
2. Exercise - Half an hour’s walk, at least five days a week; avoid lifts and avoid sitting for a longtime
3. Quit smoking
4. Control weight
5. Control blood pressure and sugar

Qn: Is eating non-veg food (fish) good for the heart?
Ans: No

Qn: It’s still a grave shock to hear that some apparently healthy person gets a cardiac arrest. How do we understand it in perspective?
Ans: This is called silent attack; that is why we recommend everyone past the age of 30 to undergo routine health checkups.

Qn: Are heart diseases hereditary?
Ans: Yes

Qn: What are the ways in which the heart is stressed? What practices do you suggest to de-stress?
Ans: Change your attitude towards life. Do not look for perfection in everything in life.

Qn: Is walking better than jogging or is more intensive exercise required to keep a healthy heart?
Ans: Walking is better than jogging since jogging leads to early fatigue and injury to joints .

Qn: You have done so much for the poor and needy.What has inspired you to do so?
Ans: Mother Theresa , who was my patient.

Qn: Can people with low blood pressure suffer heart diseases?
Ans: Extremely rare

Qn: Does cholesterol accumulates right from an early age (I’m currently only 22) or do you have to worry about it only after you are above 30 years of age?
Ans: Cholesterol accumulates from childhood.

Qn: How do irregular eating habits affect the heart ?
Ans: You tend to eat junk food when the habits are irregular and your body’s enzyme release for digestion gets confused.

Qn: How can I control cholesterol content without using medicines?
Ans: Control diet, walk and eat walnut.

Qn: Can yoga prevent heart ailments?
Ans: Yoga helps.

Qn: Which is the best and worst food for the heart?
Ans: Fruits and vegetables are the best and the worst is oil.

Qn: Which oil is better - groundnut, sunflower,olive?
Ans: All oils are bad .

Qn: What is the routine checkup one should go through? Is there any specific test?
Ans: Routine blood test to ensure sugar, cholesterol is ok. Check BP, Treadmill test after an echo.

Qn: What are the first aid steps to be taken on a heart attack?
Ans: Help the person into a sleeping position ,place an aspirin tablet under the tongue with a sorbitrate tablet if available, and rush him to a coronary care unit since the maximum casualty takes place within the first hour.

Qn: How do you differentiate between pain caused by a heart attack and that caused due to gastric trouble?
Ans: Extremely difficult without ECG.

Qn: What is the main cause of a steep increase in heart problems amongst youngsters? I see people of about 30-40 yrs of age having heart attacks and serious heart problems.
Ans: Increased awareness has increased incidents.Also, edentary lifestyles, smoking, junk food, lack of exercise in a country where people are genetically three times more vulnerable for heart attacks than Europeans and Americans.

Qn: Is it possible for a person to have BP outside the normal range of 120/80 and yet be perfectly healthy?
Ans: Yes.

Qn: Marriages within close relatives can lead to heart problems for the child. Is it true?
Ans : Yes, co-sanguinity leads to congenital abnormalities and you may not have a software engineer as a child

Qn: Many of us have an irregular daily routine and many a times we have to stay late nights in office.Does this affect our heart ? What precautions would you recommend?
Ans : When you are young, nature protects you against all these irregularities. However, as you grow older, respect the biological clock.

Qn: Will taking anti-hypertensive drugs cause some other complications (short / long term)?
Ans : Yes, most drugs have some side effects.However, modern anti-hypertensive drugs are extremely safe.

Qn: Will consuming more coffee/tea lead to heart attacks?
Ans : No.

Qn: Are asthma patients more prone to heart disease?
Ans : No.

Qn: How would you define junk food?
Ans : Fried food like Kentucky , McDonalds ,samosas, and even masala dosas.

Qn: You mentioned that Indians are three times more vulnerable. What is the reason for this, as Europeans and Americans also eat a lot of junk food?
Ans: Every race is vulnerable to some disease and unfortunately, Indians are vulnerable for the most expensive disease.

Qn: Does consuming bananas help reduce hypertension?
Ans : No.

Qn: Can a person help himself during a heart attack (Because we see a lot of forwarded emails on this)?
Ans : Yes. Lie down comfortably and put an aspirin tablet of any description under the tongue and ask someone to take you to the nearest coronary care unit without any delay and do not wait for the ambulance since most of the time, the ambulance does not turn up.

Qn: Do, in any way, low white blood cells and low hemoglobin count lead to heart problems?
Ans : No. But it is ideal to have normal hemoglobin level to increase your exercise capacity.

Qn: Sometimes, due to the hectic schedule we are not able to exercise. So, does walking while doing daily chores at home or climbing the stairs in the house,work as a substitute for exercise?
Ans : Certainly. Avoid sitting continuously for more than half an hour and even the act of getting out of the chair and going to another chair and sitting helps a lot.

Qn: Is there a relation between heart problems and blood sugar?
Ans: Yes. A strong relationship since diabetics are more vulnerable to heart attacks than non-diabetics.

Qn: What are the things one needs to take care of after a heart operation?
Ans : Diet, exercise, drugs on time , Control cholesterol, BP, weight.

Qn: Are people working on night shifts more vulnerable to heart disease when compared to day shift workers?
Ans : No.

Qn: What are the modern anti-hypertensive drugs?
Ans : There are hundreds of drugs and your doctor will chose the right combination for your problem,but my suggestion is to avoid the drugs and go for natural ways of controlling blood pressure by walk,diet to reduce weight and changing attitudes towards lifestyles.

Qn: Does dispirin or similar headache pills increase the risk of heart attacks?
Ans : No.

Qn: Why is the rate of heart attacks more in men than in women?
Ans : Nature protects women till the age of 45.

Qn: How can one keep the heart in a good condition?
Ans : Eat a healthy diet, avoid junk food, exercise everyday, do not smoke and, go for health checkups if you are past the age of 30 ( once in six months recommended)

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Tel Aviv, March 8 (DPA) A Palestinian gunman entered a Jewish religious seminary in Jerusalem Thursday night, made his way to the library and opened fire in all directions, killing eight students before being shot dead, the police said.

Nine students were wounded in the attack, three of them seriously.

Initial reports that there had been two gunmen, and one had fled the scene, proved to be incorrect.

Jerusalem police chief Aharon Franco said the gunman had arrived at the seminary, located in a West Jerusalem suburb, shortly before 9 p.m.

He opened fire in the seminary’s library, where dozens of students were studying. According to one witness account, he sprayed the room with bullets for about 10 minutes.

An army officer who was nearby the seminary heard the shooting sound and rushed to the scene and shot and killed the gunman.

Though none of the main militant groups claimed responsibility for the shooting, a previously unknown group called the Free People of the Galilee, dubbing itself squad of Gaza, claimed responsibility for the attack, according to al-Manar Hezbollah television in Lebanon.

In Gaza City news of the attack was greeted with joy, as militants, mainly from Hamas, fired in the air and honked their car horns in celebration, while other Palestinians handed out candy to passers-by in the street.

Hamas Gaza spokesman Sami Abu Zuhri told reporters that the attack was a “a selective operation, which is a reaction to the Israeli occupation’s crimes and the massacres committed against civilians in the Gaza Strip.”

US President George W. Bush, who called up Israeli Prime Minister Ehud Olmert to express his condolences, said in a statement: “This barbaric and vicious attack on innocent civilians deserves the condemnation of every nation.”

In decrying the attacks, US Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice said there was “no cause that could ever justify this action”.

UN Secretary General Ban Ki-moon also condemned the attack and extended his condolences to the families of those killed.

“The secretary general condemns in the strongest terms today’s savage attack on a Jewish seminary in west Jerusalem, and the deliberate killing and injuring of civilians,” a UN statement said.

It is unclear how the attack will impact the troubled Israeli-Palestinian peace negotiations, which only restarted in December after a seven-year hiatus.

The ultra-Orthodox Shas party, the most hawkish of Olmert’s coalition partners, has been demanding the talks to be frozen following the rocket attacks by Palestinian militants.

Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas, for his part, suspended Palestinian participation in the talks last weekend, to protest an Israeli offensive in the Gaza Strip which left over 120 Palestinians dead. He recanted Wednesday when US Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice was in the region.

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Sex is not only associated with the feel good factor while actually experiencing it but it also is associated with living healthy, feeling active, slowing aging and living longer. Sex has many benefits. The following is a brief exploration of the benefits of having sex on a regular basis.

Fitness:
Sex is a form of physical exercise. Sex three times a week burns lots of calories, and if maintained throughout the year, is equivalent to jogging 75 miles. Sexual intercourse burns approximately 150 calories per half hour - about the same as running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a spirited game of squash.

Increased Blood Flow:
Sex helps increase the blood flow to your brain and to all other organs of your body. Increased heart rate and deep breathing accounts for the improvement in circulation. As fresh blood supply arrives, your cells, organs and muscles are saturated with fresh oxygen and hormones, and as the used blood is removed, you also remove waste products that cause fatigue and even illness.

Reduction of cholesterol:
Sex balances out the good cholesterol to bad cholesterol ratio, and at the same time reduces the overall cholesterol count in the body.

Pain relief:
During making love, the hormone oxytocin is secreted in your body which in turn causes the release of endorphins, which act as a powerful analgesic, elevating the pain and helping to relieve the aches of conditions like arthritis, whiplash and headaches. Thus if you have a headache, have sex rather than an abstaining from it.

Protection of the prostate gland:
Prostate gland-related disorders are known to be caused by or become worsened as a result of the secretions from the gland. Regular sexual activity eliminates these harmful secretions. However, a sudden change in the frequency of sex can also cause prostate-related disorders.

Stress relief:
The satisfaction and the relaxation after sex are beneficial for the mind and the circulatory system. People having frequent sex often report that they handle stress better. Many indicate that they sleep more deeply and restfully after satisfying lovemaking.

Boost Testosterone and Estrogen:
Regular sexual activity boosts testosterone and estrogen levels in both men and women. Besides boosting your libido testosterone fortifies bones and muscles. Some physicians suggest that testosterone keeps hearts healthy and good cholesterol high. Testosterone is what makes the sex drive in men and women more aggressive. It makes you want to have sex, pursue sex, initiate sex and perhaps dominate the lovemaking. Sex increases women’s estrogen levels keeping vaginal tissues suppler and also protecting against heart disease. It is estrogen that makes a woman sexually receptive and responsive to a man’s approach.

Live Longer, Stay Younger:
During sex, the hormone DHEA is secreted throughout the body. This promotes sexual excitement. According to studies DHEA may be the most powerful chemical in our personal world. It helps balance the immune system, improves cognition, promotes bone growth, and maintains and repairs tissues, keeping your skin healthy and supple. It may also contribute to cardiovascular health and even function as antidepressant.

Less frequent colds and flu:
Studies suggest that individuals who have sex once or twice a week show 30 percent higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system.

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Who Is Some Who Loves You?

1. Someone who sees the best in you.

If you were lucky enough to grow up with healthy parents, you have experienced the feeling of having someone who has always looked at your good qualities. Many of us missed that experience. You will be a lucky person if you have found a mate who is always looking at your ’silver lining’. Too often today people are more than willing to judge you by your errors, not by your potential.

2. Someone who gives you the benefit of the doubt.

There are so many times in your life when you need that little edge, that little opportunity to take just that extra step. It can seem as if your efforts are going nowhere and although you want to keep moving forward, there are so many negatives staring you in the face. That person who knows things could go either way for you but takes that leap to believe you will make it is the person who is more valuable to you than gold.

3. Someone who watches over you.

You need a guardian angel who is there, waiting to catch you if you fall, ready to help you when you stumble, ready to pave the way for you when you cannot get moving. There are people who love you who do just that. There are people who do not make a big deal out of saving your bacon. Do you know who they are?

4. Someone to watch you back.

You never know these days who is waiting to catch you off guard, to make sure you don’t do well, to sabotage your efforts. You like to think that people will rejoice when you

do well. Many don’t. If someone ‘has your back’ and runs interference for you when you are trying to run the gauntlet through life, give that person a big ‘thanks’ plus lots of your attention.

5. The person who tells you we all make mistakes.

You hate to be around that judgemental, harsh person who reminds you, ‘I told you so’, when things so south. You don’t need anyone else telling you what you already know. On the other hand there are people who just let you know that the only way any of us learn is through experience. When you have really ended up in the dumper and blew it, stay close to the one who knows that the person who hasn’t done anything wrong hasn’t done anything much.

6. The person who gives you advice from the heart, not from the head.

When the situation gets rough and some big decisions need to be made, it’s fine to have people outline the pros and cons of a problem and give you ‘head’ answers. But if you need a nudge sometimes to tip the scales, you always listen to this person who knows you must do what will let you live with yourself and have self respect.

7. The person who won’t be the ‘yes man’ who agrees with you

No one who loves you is going to give you the green light and tell you to let er rip if it’s clearly going to be bad for you. It’s sad that often you surround yourself with people who tell you what you want to hear. The one who loves you will tell you to get help for a drinking or drugging problem, to stop the extramarital affair, and to be a good and decent person.

8. Someone who tells you to knock back, smell the roses, and enjoy life part of the time.

If you are a person who is a real performer and doer, there are likely to be people around you who enjoy the fruits of your labor and want you to do even more. Sometimes you may even see yourself as only valuable when you are giving, doing, and performing. Listen to the person who tells you that life is short and you need breaks and some R&R. That is the person who is looking out for you and your health.

9. The one who smiles at you and means it.

The person who loves you looks at you with eyes that smile and mean it. Too many people give you that slick smile, that quick pat on the back, and then forget that you even exist.

The eyes are the windows of our soul and you can read into a person’s smile if it is saying, ‘You are a fine person and I want to be with you as long as possible’. Don’t fall for any phony smile that attracts you off in another direction, only to leave you stranded and alone.

10. Someone who sees you as beautiful, inside and out.

You know you aren’t perfect. There are only too many examples of you looking around and thinking that you have flaws and aren’t like the people on television. The person who loves you sees you through eyes of acceptance with no conditions. As you gain a few pounds and your hair gets thin, the person who sees you as attractive, inviting, and appealing is the person who loves you all the way, no strings or demands.

Nowadays, it’s really important to know who loves you. Everything in our society is throw away, and many people have carried that over into the most important relationships in their lives. Think hard and look carefully. People who love you , like comfortable clothes, are easy on the heart, mind, and soul.

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1. Men aren’t irresistible and not all women are desperate for sex. Good lovemaking starts long before you reach the bedroom, so before any date, have a bath. Everyone smells: some women like the smell of male sweat, others don’t, but no one likes the smell of stale sweat. Watching steaming movies can help things along.

2. Sexual gymnastics are often distracting. Chopping and changing positions and techniques can make a woman’s sexual excitement plummet.

3. Thrusting for hours without climaxing doesn’t make you a stud muffin. It does make her numb and sore.

4. Don’t assume your partner is comfortable in her own skin. A survey of 3,500 British women, by the bathroom equipment company SHUC, found that one woman in ten feels so embarrassed about her body that she turns the lights out before taking off her clothes. The average woman still spends a lot of time every day beating herself up about her weight and looks. Nakedness increases that vulnerability, so be sensitive to her insecurities and, if you think that your partner looks great, for God’s sake tell her.

5. There’s more to sex than pushing the right button. Men have discovered that the key to female orgasm is clitoral stimulation, and many now rub the lamp rather than poking around inside it. The upside is that women are climaxing more often but the increase in emphasis on genital manipulation has made for some very mechanical sex. Going straight to the erogenous zones is the equivalent of fast forward. Men who focus on left breast, right breast, genitals, reduce their partner to a set of body parts.

6. Be polite. Never nudge your partner’s head towards your nether regions. During fellatio don’t thrust into your partner’s mouth, don’t hold the side of her head - and definitely warn her when you think you are going to come. With regard to orgasm, always operate a ladies-first policy.

7. Make certain that your partner knows how attractive you find her by paying as much attention to kissing her, complimenting her and generally spoiling her. Don’t neglect the breasts and other erogenous zones.

8. Though clitoral orgasm is easy to achieve, most women want to experience penetrative orgasm. Intercourse is the ultimate connection between man and woman and the sensation of fullness that it creates is intensely pleasurable.

9. Women are slow burners. They take longer to become aroused and get as much pleasure, if not more, out of tenderness, kissing and cuddling. Though quickie sex has its place, for women on the whole, the longer sex takes, the better it feels. If arousal is allowed to build gradually, it floods the whole body rather than being confined to the genital area and a delayed orgasm is infinitely more powerful than an orgasm induced by five minutes of digital manipulation.

10. Put a little X in your sex. Watching steamy movies with your partner will increase the chance of some how’s-your-father.

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Athens, Jan 5: Living like a monk may have more than spiritual benefits, with a recent study into one of the world’s most isolated monastic communities in Greece revealing that such dietary and healthy living habits resulted in lower cancer rates.

The dietary and lifestyle habits of monks on the all-male community in Mount Athos have shown that the regular consumption of olive oil, daily portions of fish, seasonal fruit and vegetables are among the main contributors towards keeping prostate cancer below international averages, data presented by urologist Haralambos Aidonopoulos showed.

“It is not just the Mediterranean diet that helps but generally a diet consisting of old, traditional standards,” Aidonopoulos told DPA.

Aidonopoulos said he had examined hundreds of monks living on Mount Athos since 1994 and found that the incidence of prostate cancer was four times lower than the international average.

The study found that in the last 13 years, there had been 11 reported cases of prostate cancer among the more than 1,500 monks living in the 20 different monasteries in the segregated community in northwest Greece from which women are banned.

Other factors in the same study shown to keep prostate cancer at bay were the stress-free existence of the monks away from women, proper sleep patterns and the lack of air pollution.

The lifestyle habits and traditions of the various monasteries on the peninsula, which the Prince of Wales visits regularly and which are only accessible by boat, have not changed in 1,000 years.

Meals on Mount Athos are simple and do not contain meat, but fish is a regular fare on holidays and feast days such as Christmas and Easter.

The staple foods are bread, olives, vegetables, rice, pasta, soya dishes and fruit. In fact, the monks grow much of what they consume themselves.

Monks usually indulge in a glass of red wine, which is made locally from mountain grapes, with their dinner but on fast days - Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays - they abstain from wine, olive oil and dairy products altogether.

Many of the monastic communities on Mount Athos eat twice a day, and have bread and tea for breakfast and a supper of lentils, salad and fruit, except during the rigorous fasting periods of the Orthodox Church, when some will eat only at midday.

The average day begins with an hour of prayers before dawn and meal times are conducted in silence while one of the monks usually reads a passage from the Bible. The monks normally have to eat at great speed because once the reading is over the meal is officially completed.

The rest of the day is spent doing chores such as cleaning, tending to crops and cooking followed by evening prayers.

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When she married Prince Charles in 1981, Diana, Princess of Wales, was a virgin, a status infamously tested by the Royal Family before they would allow the heir to the throne to step down the aisle.

But by the time her marriage had disintegrated around her, Diana was already well adept at spreading her … wings, despite the fact she once claimed to have been a nun in a previous existence. Until her final, passionate affair with Dodi Al Fayed, it appears that Diana was not interested in a long term link up but merely craved close human contact. “If I fall in love,” she said, “the sparks will fly and god help us.”

In a unique LondonNet guide, we bring you the ten men, from bodyguard to rugby star, who may or may not have shared physical intimacies with Diana, one of the most apparently untouchable icons of them all.

Princess Diana was “almost certainly” nine to ten weeks pregnant when she died, it has been claimed.

French investigative journalist Chris Laffaille says he uncovered evidence of the pregnancy from official archives of the Paris hospital where the princess was taken after the crash on the night of August 31, 1997.

If genuine, says Laffaille, it would mean Diana’s unborn child would not have been fathered by Dodi Fayed because she had not met him nine weeks before her death.

Instead, he said, the baby may have been conceived while she was seeing London doctor Hasnat Khan.

Laffaille makes the claim despite a categoric statement by John Burton, former royal coroner present at the post-mortem examination on Diana, who said: “She wasn’t pregnant. I have seen into her womb.”

Laffaille, a former reporter with the magazine Paris Match, says he has conducted a detailed re-examination of all the evidence surrounding the crash.

The resulting book, Diana: The Inquiry They Never Published, is being released on August 27.

It is being described as one of many attempts to cash in ten years after Diana’s death but it also revives conspiracy theories that have plagued the investigation into how she died.

Laffaille agrees with the verdict of the official French inquiry in the crash, that Diana and Dodi were the victims of a high speed drink-driving accident.

But he also says there are still “many unanswered questions” surrounding the death, especially the issue of whether Diana was pregnant.

He said: “It is a near certainty that Diana was nine to ten weeks pregnant at the time she died, according to papers from the Paris Public Hospitals archives.

“The letter dated August 31, 1997, was sent to the then minister of the interior Jean-Pierre Chevenement, and copies sent to health minister Bernard Kouchner, foreign affairs minister Hubert Vedrine and the Paris police chief Martine Monteil.”

Laffaille added: “This document has never been claimed or proved to be a fake.”

However, a spokesman for the Paris Public Hospitals last night dismissed the letter as a forgery, which had first been circulated shortly after Diana’s death.

“Examination of this document has established with absolute certainty that it is a fake,” he said.

“It is ridiculous. Many of the medics who treated Diana remain at the hospital, and all deny the claims contained in this forged letter.”

Now the question is, if she was pregnent, then by whom….?

Her lover list is long… these are few men she shared her bed (is it women birth right ? i just wonder )

Prince Charles - big ears, big ego, big trouble
Barry Mannakee - body to body guard
David Waterhouse - man in uniform
James Gilbey - loyalty gets its reward
James Hewitt - Di: “I adored him”
Oliver Hoare - paints a nice picture
William Carling - scrum down with rugby star
Doctor Hasnar Khan - knew how to care for a woman
Bryan Adams - (Everything I Do) I Do It For Di
Dodi Fayed - true love at last

Its upto you to decide who may be the Father…

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Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. The word jealousy stems from the French jalousie, formed from jaloux (jealous), and further from Low Latin zelosus (full of zeal), and from the Greek word for “ardour, zeal” (with a root connoting “to boil, ferment”; or “yeast”).

What is jealousy?
We’ve all experienced jealousy at some time in our lives, although the reasons why each of us gets jealous and the emotions we feel may differ.

According to clinical psychologist, “jealousy is a complex reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality”. Unlike envy, it always involves a fear of loss and three people.

Definitions of jealousy
The complexity of jealousy allows people to define it in different ways. Dictionary definitions describe popular meanings of jealousy. Scientific definitions emphasize aspects of jealousy that have received attention in theory and research. Despite differences in wording and emphasis, definitions of jealousy usually share basic themes. These shared themes indicate jealousy is a meaningful concept. Jealousy can also be distinguished from concepts such as envy

Jealousy is a “complex reaction” because it involves such a wide range of emotions, thoughts and behaviours.

Emotions - pain, anger, rage, sadness, envy, fear, grief, humiliation.
Thoughts - resentment, blame, comparison with the rival, worry about image, self-pity.
Behaviours - feeling faint, trembling and sweating, constant questioning and seeking reassurance, aggressive actions, even violence.

How jealousy protects love
In relationships where feelings of jealousy are mild and occasional, it reminds the couple not to take each other for granted. It can encourage couples to appreciate each other and make a conscious effort to make sure the other person feels valued.

Jealousy heightens emotions, making love feel stronger and sex more passionate. In small, manageable doses, jealousy can be a positive force in a relationship. But when it’s intense or irrational, the story is very different.

JEALOUSY IS ABOUT FEAR
It is crucial to understand what jealousy is and what it is about. Jealousy is about fear–fear of the unknown and of change, fear of losing power or control in a relationship, fear of scarcity and of loss, and fear of abandonment. It is a reflection of our own insecurity about our worthiness, anxiety about being adequate as a lover, and doubts about our desirability.

For every jealous feeling there is an emotion behind the jealousy that is much more significant than the jealousy itself. Behind jealousy there is an unmet need or a deep fear that our needs will not be met. Recognizing those fears and unmet needs is the key to unmasking jealousy and taking away its power. Jealousy is just the finger pointing at the fears and needs we are afraid to face. When jealousy kicks in, it is the ancient reptilian part of our brain going into a “fight or flight” response because we feel that our very survival is threatened. When you feel jealous, ask yourself, “What is it that I am really afraid of? What do I need to make this situation safe for me?” “What is the worst thing that could happen and how likely is that to happen?”

How jealousy damages love
Sometimes jealous feelings can get out of proportion. For example, when a man makes an embarrassing scene at a party because his wife accepts an invitation to dance with an old friend, or when a woman is overwhelmed with jealousy because her husband’s company appoints a female boss.

These kinds of reaction can put a huge strain on a relationship, leaving the other partner feeling as though they’re constantly walking on eggshells to avoid a jealous reaction. The jealous partner, often aware of their problem, swings between self-blame and justification.

If you’re the jealous one
Overcoming jealousy takes patience and hard work. If you feel your jealousy stems from issues in childhood, you may find counselling useful. If you’re recovering from an affair, you’ll need to deal with those issues first.

Here are some things you can do for yourself:

Give yourself a reality check - take a good look at those things that trigger your jealousy and ask yourself how realistic the threat is. What evidence do you have that your relationship is in danger? And is your behaviour actually making the situation worse?

Use positive self-talk - when you start feeling the twinges of jealousy, remind yourself that your partner loves you, is committed to you and respects you. Tell yourself you’re a loveable person and that nothing’s going on.

Seek reassurance - one of the best ways to beat jealousy is to ask your partner for reassurance. Make sure you don’t nag or bully, but rather share your insecurities and ask them to help you overcome the problem.

You may also find the exercise Managing jealousy useful.

Living with a jealous partner
Having a jealous partner can be exhausting. Here are some ideas that may help ease their jealousy:

POWER IMBALANCES CAN AGGRAVATE JEALOUSY
A new relationship can dramatically alter power dynamics in a relationship. Particularly in a triad or triangle situation, where one person has two lovers and the other two only have one, an unfortunate dynamic of competition and a struggle for control can arise. This can be minimized by encouraging all parties to communicate their needs openly and by negotiating reasonable agreements that are fair to everyone. The person with two lovers should bend over backwards to avoid a power struggle and make sure both of his or her partners get enough time, attention, affection, commitment, and sex. If someone in this position abuses power, they should be called on it immediately. Both lovers should become allies to demand a change in their partner’s behavior, rather than allowing themselves to be manipulated against each other. Unless everyone cooperates and is careful of each other’s feelings and needs, it is easy for one person to feel like the “odd person out.” No one should feel powerless in a relationship– there is enough love for everyone to be satisfied.

Think of the problem in a different way - remember that jealousy is a sign of love. If your partner didn’t value your relationship, you wouldn’t be having this problem. Rather than becoming defensive, try to be understanding and supportive.

Check your behaviour - if you know that certain behaviours trigger your partner’s jealousy, change them if you can if only until the problem has been overcome. Be sure to stick to any agreements you’ve made, too, but avoid making promises you’ll find difficult to keep, such as always being contactable.

Build your partner’s confidence - be sure to take every opportunity to tell your partner how much you love them and why you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else. Give lots of compliments and talk about the wonderful future you’re looking forward to spending with them.

Coping with jealousy
People who experience pathological jealousy, and people for whom jealousy triggers violence, may benefit from professional counseling. People who experience normal jealousy have at least nine strategies for coping with jealousy. The problem-solving strategies include: improving the primary relationship, interfering with the rival relationship, demanding commitment, and self-assessment. The emotion-focused strategies include: derogation of partner or rival, developing alternatives, denial/avoidance, support/catharsis, and appraisal challenge. These strategies are related to emotion regulation, conflict management, cognitive change, and ground rules for managing jealous competition.

THE COST/BENEFIT ANALYSIS OF JEALOUSY
Being involved in non-monogamous relationships requires being willing to stretch ourselves and to tolerate a certain amount of discomfort, risk-taking, and uncertainty, especially at the beginning. While jealousy can be literally paralyzing at the outset, usually the balance of pain to pleasure will gradually shift until the enhanced satisfaction and joy will far outweigh the anxieties and insecurities. If you find that you and your partner(s) are unable to resolve jealous feelings on your own, get some outside help. Having a long talk with supportive friends can give you a fresh perspective and some honest feedback. Joining a support group can also be helpful, as other people who have been in similar situations may have good ideas for creative problem solving. Individual counseling or couple’s counseling can also create a safe environment for each person to express painful feelings and identify possible solutions.

Despite their best efforts, some people find that the fear and pain evoked by a non-monogamous relationship are too overwhelming. They may decide that it’s just not worth the trouble, and may opt to return to a monogamous lifestyle. The first six months of exploring this new lifestyle are usually the hardest, so if you survive that, most of the hard work is behind you, and you can relax and enjoy the wonderful relationships you have successfully created.

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