The Convenient Male Victim Theory
By legalfighter | July 15, 2008
Dr. Rajesh Talwar finally gets a bail and will soon be acquitted as well since the police have failed to produce / gather any motive for the murder let alone any evidence against him. Over a month of harassment of a father who lost his daughter and that too police interrogation. Will the police answer for the reason of apprehending Dr. Rajesh for the murder without doing proper homework and just succumbing to outblown media trials.
Sensation crazy and TRP hungry media channels were flashing the case like some detective murder story and put so much pressure on the authorities that they caught the father as per the “Convenient Male Victim Theory” and harassed him for so many days without reason without even allowing him to sink in the fact that his beloved daughter is no more and has been murdered at a tender age of 14.
After he was released on bail, the media was happy celebrating, forgetting the fact that it was the same media whose pressure had led the father to being harassed beyond limits and was also made to take the blame of his daughter’s murder upon him. He was projected as a villain in the media ab initio and the media was projecting him in a very bad light even before either the motive of the murder was established or any evidence found against him, the media had already reconstructed the event – folding and flashed it across.
This was highly demeaning of national media acting in a highly immature manner just to gather publicity and riding on its convenient male victim theory. When no clear motive / evidence were available, catch hold of the nearest male relative of the murdered and frame a story to explain their conclusions. Now the media is happily flashing the bail news of Dr. Rajesh, and also showing the three actual accused, what accountability it will take to justify the harassment Dr. Talwar underwent.
If Dr. Talwar had committed the crime, why would he do it in his own house staying inside? Everyone ignored this simple question and happily believed the father to be the murderer of his own daughter. For how long will the males in society in general, and Indian society in particular, continue to live in suspicion? Suspicion of committing a crime, suspicion of having done something gravely wrong for being subjected to injustice, suspicion of breaking a relationship.
Do the society, the media and the government consider males as human beings having some basic rights? Every year 80, 000 males are committing suicide as per suicide statistics provided by National Crime Records Bureau, yet males in this country do not have a single helpline to fall back upon in case of a crisis, let alone a National Commission for Men or a Men’s Welfare Ministry to redress their grievances. This dismal state of males continues to exist irrespective of the fact that males contribute to 82 % of the taxes paid in the country.
Who will restore the lost pride, integrity and moments of togetherness with his wife Nupur Talwar when they had lost their child? The media had even finished the trial based on what they seemed to have happened and also showed mock interrogation sessions. Is this some kind of a joke that the media is playing. The media needs to sensitize itself highly in dealing with matters concerned with males. Males are just treated as criminals in the media for no fault of theirs. Aarushi had the Women and Child Development minister Renuka Choudhary speaking for her, but who spoke for Dr. Rajesh? None.
The convenient male victim theory needs to be dropped. In the whole episode, the invisible victim, Hemraj was conveniently forgotten just because he was a male.
Once again the civil society and the government are urged to look into the issues faced by the men of today. How they are being made convenient scapegoats in blind compliance with the Convenient Male Victim Theory? This cornering is leading the society towards an impending catastrophe waiting to happen, the consequences of which will remain unforeseen, untold and perhaps unbearable.
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Male Victims in India - Always dammed
By legalfighter | July 15, 2008
Recently the Arushi Murder case made quite a sensational headline. All the major news channels flashing the headlines. Honorable minister of Women and Child Development, Mrs. Renuka Choudhary also took the police force to task for not handling the case properly and using derogatory language for Arushi and demanded a CBI probe into the same. But what everyone conveniently forgot here is the fact that there were two murder victims, the second one being the male servant, Hemraj. But barely do we hear any news of the unfortunate invisible male victim in the twin murder episode in Noida.
But whilst there has been a lot of gung ho about delivering justice to a 14 year old Arushi, which is fairly acceptable as well, but such a provision does not mandate depriving a male victim his share of justice as well. People, society, authorities, government, media, all and sundry involved have conveniently forgotten the invisible male victim in the whole episode. Also the father has been made the easily sellable scapegoat accused as per the convenient male victim theory. Even the CBI taking custody of the father Mr. Rajesh Talwar for about close to two weeks now, has failed to find any evidence against him and he has spent 2 weeks in jail.
For how long will the males in this country be dammed in the name of justice and duty? One girl dies and so much of a euphoria is created, will the same be created had Rajesh fathered a male child and that child would have met the same unfortunate fate? There are so many boys murdered in the society and there is not even a mention of those unfortunate deaths let alone imparting justice to them. If this the era of Gender Equality then why are the males in this country always dammed and denied a fair and impartial chance let alone justice. What is the definition of such an equality which is suffering from biased standards?
An adolescent child studying in class XI / XII involves in rash and drunken driving and instead of punishing that child, amendments are proposed to cancel the driving license of the Father. Why not of the mother? Is it not a mother’s role to imbibe values in her children and when the attempt fails, the father, a male has to pay the penalty, why?
For how long will the society remain oblivious to the woes and blues of the INVISIBLE MALE VICITM? And consider their harassment as an honorary service? Psychologists have time and again warned against cornering and now Indian men are facing the same cornering and this phenomenon has led to the development of severe distrust amongst male towards the system.
Yesterday a man in UP who was arrested on charges of illegal liquor trade and was being sent to jail, was beaten up black and blue by the police when he pleaded innocence and resented being sent to jail as he feared more violent treatment in jail. He kept crying and re-iterating his stand that he was falsely implicated, but the policemen beat him up in full public view and in front of the media. There was no one to save him from the draconian clutches of the inhuman policemen who were acting like goons in uniform. Is this a form of treatment the civil society is going to adduce to males?
The civil society needs to wake up to this alarming trend of the meaty treatment meted out to the males of this country who do the most risky jobs, pay 82 % of taxes and yet do neither have a Men’s Welfare Ministry nor a National Commission of Men to redress their grievances and that is the reason the unfortunate males in this country have to resort to suicide to end their woes as is reflected in the suicide statistics as published by the National Crime Records Bureau. Every year on an average 75, 000 men are ending their lives as opposed to 35, 000 women. Yet these figures never make their way to the public. The fourth pillar of democracy, the media has to take this responsibility to highlight the plight of men in this country who are living in a very delirious situation at the point of being target to injustice any moment.
Men need to understand the scenario and they need to highlight their woes to the government to get their grievances redressed.
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Letter to President: CrPC-125 for Adulterous and Live-in Women
By Crusader | July 6, 2008
To
Smt. Pratibha Devisingh Patil,Honb’le President of India,
Rashtrapati Bhavan,
New Delhi,
India – 110004.
Telephone : 91-11-23015321
Fax : 91-11-23017290 / 91-11-23017824
Subject: Protest against NCW’s recent proposal to amend Section 125 of Code of Criminal procedure (CrPC) to include women involved in live in relationships to be eligible for alimony and even grant maintenance to a woman charged with adultery.
Respected Madam,
NATIONAL COMMISSION of WOMEN (NCW), recently proposed an amendment of Section 125 of Code of Criminal procedure (CrPC) to include women involved in live in relationships to be eligible for alimony from their live in partners and even grant maintenance to a woman charged with adultery. This proposed amendment has far reaching consequences, which it is evident that the champions of women causes, the National Commission of Women seems to have conveniently ignored.
Attention of Her Excellency is required on the following points regarding the recent statements of Honb’le chairperson of the National commission for Women:
- On which statistics, reports or surveys this proposal is based?: Smt. Girija Vyas didn’t gave any reference to any kind of Govt report or survey or statistics available to validate her claim that in 70% of the divorce cases, adultery is used to discredit the woman. The NCW chairperson is hijacking the judicial area, as it is the court of law to decide whether the allegations of adultery are right or not. It is not any step forward in the women empowerment. Based on assumptions no law could be legislated and why always the assumption that a woman alone could be a victim, is made? If such an assumption could be made to justify the allowance of maintenance to an adulterous wife and if it is assumed at all that in 70% of divorce cases, allegations of adultery are used to deny maintenance, the same kind assumptions (actually facts as per the Justice Malimath committee report) could be made for the demand of dowry and cruelty allegations misused by women to reason out their separate living from her husband. In 98% of the cases these allegations are found to be false.
This is just a forcible imposition of morality on married men without any check on the immoral married women. This kind of radical feminism is nothing but double standards and hypocrisy.
It’s just another ridiculous effort to save adulterous woman. Character has become the first scapegoat for these findings of National Commission for Women. This is one of the evils of movies and tele serials where that character is assassinated and shown the bad women as paragon of virtue.
- What about the rights of a legally wedded wife?: Legalizing the live-in relationship will further create problems for the protection of the rights of the legally married wife and her kids. The live-in relationship should never get any legal rights.
Whatever may be the reason these relationship exists in society (mainly because in all such cases, the man or the women is taking advantage of each other), however tragic and sympathetic the stories of live in women are, fact remains the same that they are NOT legal wives. They are already encroaching upon legal wife rights (both mentally and economically). Do not take trample over the rights of wife and make her undergo hardships if she has to divide her legal rights to maintenance, properties etc also with a live-in woman.
This is a western concept and people who enter in such relations are well qualified and know what they are upto. To get a status of husband and wife, we already have a system called marriage which is recognized by law. Idea behind live-in-relationship is these people do not want any strings/liabilities attached and they can free themselves any time they want. Then what this drama is all about? Alimony or compensation was introduced to help a legally wedded woman who is totally dependent on her husband and if husband deserts her, she has nowhere to go. On the contrary girls in live-in-relationship are working women and bold enough to be a rebel [because in traditional society no one would approve such kind of relation]. This law if enforced will be more misused than used.
If a man has live-in relations with N number of women, then his salary would be shared between his legally wedded wife and all these N live-in partners. Poor wife have to suffer. The system and society has to respect and protect the legal and first wife.
- How come this is a women empowerment?: There are much more implications of this law then what we see at first. This law is being proposed for all women who are suffering from the fact that when they are going through a separation, the man could not say that she is not entitled to any benefits because she is not a legally wedded wife. Will it lead to any kind of women empowerment except a small short time relief? After this amendment many more such live-in relations will creep up in the society and more women will again be victimized but compensated in the name of maintenance. The approach taken by NCW for women empowerment will lead to more women adopting live-in relations.
Will NCW even consider the partnership of Indian women in women empowerment or just go by what foreign funding agencies taught them?
- Where is gender neutrality?: Such kind of proposals from NCW lacks gender neutrality and shows short sightedness of the commission members. The whole concept of a live in is no commitments and no strings attached. People do it out of their own choice wherein both the partners are independent and earning well. What about live-in males who might have no income and what about domestic abuses by woman? This way even a man should get alimony if the woman dumps him.
If NCW thinks Indians are getting comfortable with the western lifestyle then they should also develop sensibilities of ownership and responsibility. With new economic independence women are smart enough and know what they want. It’s both persons choice to try out living together and there’s no way that men should be forced to pay for that time.
It will be highly immature on NCW’s part to assume that all relationships end due to men’s fault and hence they should be made to pay for the same in the form of alimony. After totally lopsided and stringent provisions under the anti dowry provision, which are misused to the tune of 98 per cent as provided by the two per cent conviction rate in 498A cases as per National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) data, which has killed the institution of marriage silently, it seems it is now the turn of live in relationships.
Most women in these kinds of relations are well educated, self maintained women, who want to have the cake and eat it too. They want some social acceptance but want to keep their money and independence too without bearing any social responsibility. Will they pay maintenance to their male partners if they walk out of the relationship? No one forces anyone to stay especially in a live-in relation then why maintenance?
In the name of ‘protecting’ women, the law of India is giving away women all the undue advantages. An adult woman perfectly understands the consequence of a live-in relationship. Why only the male partner has to be charged? Is the same treatment of sexes?
- Isn’t it highly prone to misuse?: Live-in relationship concept is truly a new mode of adultery of modern time. It could be termed as consented prostitution. This concept is against the Indian culture and heritage. On one hand, even in this modern time, we the people of poor but developing country are working hard to preserve our old heritage buildings spending exorbitant amounts and on other end our women politicians are ruining our Indian culture of man-woman relationship. Now next step would be that the women having live-in relationship shall be entitled for succession rights and their
children shall be legitimate.
Modern live-in relationship is lifestyle choice to maintain independence. Why should the man pay for maintenance (however long a relationship is)? Live-ins where one is married is called extra marital affair and the woman a mistresses. Do not glorify these relationships and make them legal.
- What would be the definition of live in relation under CrPC-125?
What would be the definition of a live-in relation for the purpose of maintenance? Considering the below permutations:
Man Woman
1. Unmarried 1. Unmarried
2. Unmarried 2. Married
3. Married 3. Unmarried
4. Married 4. Married
Case 1: Will the moral, financial and social responsibilities be shared equally?
Case 2: Will it be called adultery or a live-in? Will she be fed by both? Her
live-in partner and her husband?
Case 3: Will she share the maintenance with the man’s legally wedded wife?
Will the maintenance be at par with what wife was enjoying?
Case 4: Both are committing bigamy and adultery respectively?
Will NCW define a minimum time limit for a live in relation to be recognized as a marriage kind of relation?
- Marry go round-Old laws incomplete-Enact new-Amend old at par with new?: It is the highly ridiculous proposal of amending the definition of ‘Wife’ under section 125 of the Criminal Procedure Code. Amending the definition of wife, so as to include the live-in partner is just indirect legalization of live-in relations in India.
The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence 2005 (PWDVA) was enacted giving the rationale behind it that it will provide a civil remedy to some of those women too who are not legally married wives as old laws like CrPC-125 are incomplete in that sense. Thus the live-in relation was included in its ambit of PWDVA 2005 for any quick remedy like shelter, maintenance, compensation, protection etc. Now if the PWDVA 2005 has been enacted, why NCW need to go back to the old laws to make them at par with PWDVA? After all a change in definition of ‘wife’ in Criminal Procedure Code, which is not any personal law but a code for the whole civil society in India, would mean legalization of Live-in.
It is clear that NCW wants to break home, create chaos in the society by providing financial motivation to women. It is sad that NCW and Ministry for Women and Child development are creating inhuman environment for men which will ultimately destroy the Indian society which we are proud of so much.
- Why women will marry now?: Now it is no longer needed to marry to extort money when a woman can live independent life without any strings of responsibility attached to this relation. We have been aping everything that the west has been doing. Now it has come the institution of Marriage. India is a country despite all the different religions and cultures the sanctity of the institution of marriage is still intact. By giving this status we are encouraging live in relationships. Should we not denounce this culture and work towards making the situation more conducive to the sacred institution of marriage rather than ransacking KFC and the like.
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- Will NCW define another family law for punishing or compensating if a mother deny breast feeding to her baby from that live-in relation? – NO.
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- Will there be any law prosecuting a live-in woman if she denies accepting responsibility of child of a woman from her live-in partner had with his legally wedded wife? – NO.
So why will women marry after such a promotion to live-in relations from NCW?
Granting an adulterous woman or a woman involved in live in relationships, a right to claim alimony is a direct insult of the most sacrosanct social institution, marriage, as in India, a marriage is a solemnized vow to support each other through thick and thin taken in the presence of community elders and with their blessings, but, in contrast, a live in relationship is initiated by the couple just as a means to stay together. But unlike marriage, the commitment factor in a live in relationship is very low as the ties are very easy to break. There are no liabilities involved from either side.
NCW’s step is futile and awkward step coming out of its idleness. We do not know what worm is itching in NCW member’s mind. We strongly protest and propose that it should not be done at all. Better NCW pay attention and propose something to the legislature against honor killings daily being reported. We still believe, Govt of India has not lost its thinking power and be extremely horrible submissive to NCW.
Enclosures: 1) Times Of India news clip dated 18th Aug, 2007, titled “Wives accused of adultery must get alimony: NCW”.
2) Times Of India news clip dated 30 Jun, 2008, titled “Maintenance for live-in partner?”
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UK Judge Says, “It’s a Disgrace”
By intrepid | June 19, 2008
Dateline: East Sussex, EnglandBy: This is London
From: Real Fathers For Justice
Via: The Honor Network
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Justice Thorpe said East Sussex County Council handled a girl’s adoption disgracefully. The conduct of social workers who rushed through the adoption of a baby girl before her natural father could prevent it was damned as “disgraceful” by three senior judges yesterday. Lord Justice Thorpe said the decision to place the child with adoptive parents 24 hours before the father was due in court to fight for his daughter gave the “clearest inference” that the council was out to “gain its ends by means more foul than fair”.He accused East Sussex County Council of deliberately setting out to prevent the father from being heard in court and, in the process, adding to public mistrust of the secrecy surrounding Family Courts.
In an unprecedented attack on social services, the High Court judge referred to the Government “bonus” system which Rewards local authorities financially for meeting targets on adoption.
He said: “Many assert that councils have a secret agenda to establish a high score of children that they have placed for adoption.
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F4J UK Take Over Courthouse
By intrepid | June 19, 2008
Dateline: Bristol, England
By: This is Bristol
From: Percy at Anti-Misandry
Via: The Honor Network
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Well the lads in F4J in the UK have put the government on notice that they will not be ignored and their cries for justice will be met with rising pressure to meet as much as is necessary to get the job done. Will the governments find balance or will they continue to stonewall the feminist line.
Dozens of staff were evacuated from a family court in a Fathers 4 Justice protest in Bristol. The group stormed the building and a fire alarm was set off. Court and construction staff huddled outside Bristol County Court, in the high-rise Greyfriars building in the city centre, and waited for the fire service to arrive.Around 30 banner-waving protesters dressed as various superheroes stopped at the courts during a street demonstration through Bristol in support of fathers’ rights.Around 10 protesters dressed as Spiderman, Batman, Superman and The Incredibles forced their way into the court and chanted “What do we want? Justice. When do we want it? Now.”
A fire alarm was activated, although court staff could not confirm who was responsible, and nearly 100 staff flooded into the street outside.
Two police vans arrived, along with two fire engines, and the men soon left thecourt building and continued their march.
The demonstration was joined by two campaigners who scaled the roof of deputy Labour leader Harriet Harman’s home in Herne Hill, south London, earlier this week.
Jolly Stanesby and Mark Harris, both from south Devon, started the roof top protest on Sunday and continued for more than 24 hours. They have since been bailed by police.
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Plaza Protest
By intrepid | June 19, 2008
Dateline: Dublin, Ireland
From: Pete Morrisni
Via: The Honor Network
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Three men who mounted a protest on top of the M50 Toll Plaza in Dublin have been arrested for trespassing. Guards removed the men at around 12pm following their six-hour protest. They were calling for better rights for unmarried fathers and hung a banner across the plaza which read:
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| ‘First class dads, second class citizens.’ |
The men were taken to Blanchardstown Gardan station but were released a short time ago. A file is being sent to the Director of Public Prosecutions in relation to the event.
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RFFJ Newcastle Protest On Bridge
By intrepid | June 19, 2008
Dateline: Newcastle, UK
From: Pete Morrisni
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Determined RFFJ activist Simon Anderton spent a cold night perched on the Tyne Bridge wrapped in the father’s day banner, the protest moves on to day 2 and Simon, who has no plans to come down, remains firmly in position on the Newcastle landmark.
The press coverage is now national and ITV Tyne Tees featured the protest as their lead story on Sunday evening and on all Monday bullitins watch again here
RFFJ would like to say thanks for all the messages of support for this protest, they all will be passed on to Simon.
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Hairy-Legged & Warped Minds
By intrepid | June 19, 2008
Dateline: Wellington, New Zealand
By: Intrepid
From: Sunday News/ Stuff
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Bob the builder isn’t PC it would seem.
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| OUTSPOKEN National MP Bob “The Builder’’ Clarkson has launched a blistering attack on Helen Clark’s Labour Party as he prepares to quit Parliament after just one term in office.
The 69-year-old also accused Clark’s government of dragging New Zealand politics to an all-time low and said it was dominated by gay agendas and “hairy-legged ladies … with bloody warped minds’’. |
Well some socialist males are starting to see what is going on.
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Judging the Queen Judge
By intrepid | June 19, 2008
Dateline: Las Vegas, USA
By: AP
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| Her former bailiff, for example, says Halverson made him feel like a “houseboy.” He says the judge — who is obese and uses a motorized scooter to get around — made him put her shoes on her feet, massage her back, cover her with a blanket for naps and make sure her oxygen tank was filled. He says she asked him, “Do you want to worship me from near or afar?”Halverson also surrounded herself with her own hired guards, saying she did not trust the courthouse security force to protect her. Another time, she allegedly had her husband sworn in so that she could ask him under oath if he had completed chores at home.
Since then, the 50-year-old Nevada district judge has been locked out of her Las Vegas courtroom, suspended from the bench and brought up on judicial-misconduct charges that include not only misusing her position and treating her staff like personal valets, but also tainting juries and falling asleep on the bench. |
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An Example of Why HN Does as What We Do
By intrepid | June 19, 2008
Dateline: Toronto, Canada
By: Intrepid
From: Kirk Makin Globe & Mail
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With all the fathers that have been removed from their kids lives by government edicts, based on the whim of the mother, and or games played by vastly more mothers with custody over their kids to get at dad. It is good to know that the MSM (Mainstream Media) can find a dad to show whom is likely to be the real ones doing these mind games on kids in the article below. Yes its dads of course!
For those who hate generalizing about which side is doing more of the pain inflecting, how does this obvious minority get turned into the majority?Well by simply ignoring who does more of this to whom. Then one needs only to drum up the few male examples to make it out to be a male problem, that’s how!
This is surely targeted at the subconscious feelings of people (often pushed by the media in many forums like the article below) that men are the only problem. In this issue covered in the article below, mothers are most definitely off the scale in the mother on child direction mind games, as they have custody in such large numbers that it would be impossible to be otherwise.
The only way to counter this is showing stats that prove females have good numbers of their own doing such crimes, have equal numbers to men in doing such crimes, or as reported in quite noticeable numbers exceed those of men in committing some kinds of crimes (ex: Dead Beat moms, violence against spouses, lies spoken in courts etc.). Well, read the propaganda that so many soak up as they claim HN doesn’t show male crimes and thus is misogynist. It is the media that is full of misandry and we are only countering this huge onslaught with our meager efforts at showing what is missed.
| Judge rules father brainwashed son into hating mother KIRK MAKIN From Friday’s Globe and Mail TORONTO — A 13-year-old Ontario boy whose domineering father systematically brainwashed him into hating his mother can be flown against his will to a U.S. facility that deprograms children who suffer from parental alienation, an Ontario Superior Court judge has ruled. Mr. Justice James Turnbull ordered the boy – identified only as LS – into the custody of his mother. |
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