[english]Words come easy and crisp in the feminist world where only the abusive wives/ ex-wives and girlfriends, gays and lesbians have all the rights. They proclaim that women have been victimized for centuries, all males are criminals and abusers, and the mothers and sisters of these men are even worse. They would have you believe that women like them do no evil but only good, the great Holocaust did not happen, nobody died in Hiroshima and Nagasaki or the Nazi concentration camps, and no man has ever died protecting/providing for women and children. For the feminists, you are either with them or against them. That is why when it comes to stopping the abusive women and protecting their victims, they think it best to stick to the safe story: Wives and girlfriends live in mortal fear of their men and in-laws, and non-governmental organizations have given a new life to women victims.
Or, I could tell you the truth â€” how many in the media and many NGOs (who are making millions from federal grants) want to keep abusive wives/ ex-wives and girlfriends, gays and lesbians refrigerated as â€˜victimsâ€™ for all foreseeable times to come â€” even if those in the community donâ€™t want to be seen as the victims, even if it works against them, and even if they want to unshackle themselves and get on with their lives for their future.
How else does one explain the mediaâ€™s complete inability â€” or reluctance â€” to expose abusive wives/ ex-wives and girlfriends, gays and lesbians in no way other than whiners? How can they not see and write about the women extortionists and blackmailers who file false rape, sexual and dowry harassment cases, the wealthy Madams running prostitution rings and brothels, the innocent husband whose abusive ex-wife sent his parents, sisters and nieces to jail and took everything in the divorce and went on to force his father and sister into committing suicide, the survivors in the family now reduced to being ostracized and penniless, without a job? No amount of imposed victim-hood can take that away.
Or the sprawling bungalows of the well educated Womenâ€™s Rights leaders and those running the NGOs, their hidden assets â€” their parties in 5-star hotels and lavish lifestyle â€”when will they actually make a difference in the lives of the poor rural women they claim that they want to help?
Yet, there is a deep and astounding disconnect between what we in the media believe the condition of Indiaâ€™s urban middle class educated women to be and what it actually is. And maybe there is a lesson in that. Still, the image of Indian women as perceived in India and outside India is one that the feminists (living off the fat of the land i.e., Federal/foreign grants, funds and donations) have created and nurtured: that they are helpless victims, no better than second-class citizens.
It is haphazard, poorly thought out and downright cruel. First the abusive man-hating women destroy families and the Indian government looks the other way in order to stay in power. And furthermore, the media and many NGOs are trying to ensure that the abusive girlfriends, wives/ex-wives and man-haters (and rejected women) always remain just that: the victims.