I was in Love with a Girl for a year; we hugged and kissed (not French) once or twice we suckled other than that there was no other sexual contact. She loved to sit on my middle when i sit on sofa, face to face and kiss.
She had Affair, before me with three people but always denied having sex with them. However, when we met she told all about her Affair without asking. When I exclaimed, so you are Virgin still…!
She got Angry and said, why I have to tell you, I will tell only to my Future husband. Then when I replied, that gives different meaning, if you were virgin you should have told, you are a Virgin, no need to tell, I will tell only to husband, he has to accept me as i am, without asking my past. bla bla.
So she started to justify, whoever I marry he should not have problem with my past sexual life, as he was not there when I wanted sex. I have no objection if my husband had relation before marriage, etc etc.
I said, Why you want to compromise with a person who slept with many Girls ? may be he cheated all of them, promising marriage, why you want to be with such person, when you say you are clean, you have right to demand same type of person, etc etc she has no Answer….
She was attending some Youth Program in Church,
I asked who is there.
All young unmarried youth.
I asked their age, as she was 28.
She said, around her age.
Then I said that age is not youth, they are all Adults. Youth should be between 18 to 22.
She replied so what, they are all unmarried.
I said, Unmarried but had sex, today’s world at this age you will find someone who had no sex, even they are unmarried?
She got irritated and started to thrash me. (Why its irritates if she had no sex ?)
Once we met privately, she was excited by hug and kiss; she said, “Do you expect me to give you a (blow) job?” And laughed. Even she said just job, she ment its bj only.
As i assured her, i will never open my pant zip, unless she is comfortable with me. i said once when we met, i can give her oral at the most.
she replied, if you go down, i will go up…….. too high…
i said, How you know.
Its so sensitive she said. (How she knows ? unless experienced)
This quote from some other Article.
In the current world, being in relationships is a common thing. Had she not disclosed the same to you, I think that should have been your point of concern. There is a reason she broke up with them. And that is why they are called ex(s) or her past. Also, there is a very strong reason why she is marrying you.
In my case, she did`t not broke up with them, but they found other girl and married to them.
I knew who her Boyfriends were, as all of them now married and settled, but they are still in contact with her on WhatsApp or phone. she call them Good Friends
For some reason I wanted to find out they had sex or not, so I asked one Lady (Counselor) to check one of them.
Counselor sent message to one of them to his Facebook account as “you finish within 2 minutes, your ex Gf said”
Immediately he blocked the Counselor and called my Girl. (if there was no sexual relation, anyone can bluntly deny and ignore)
Girl knows it is only me she told about her ex boyfriends, she immediately sent message to me and asked if I told anyone about her past Affairs.
I said, NO.
After one Day, he unblocked counselor and started to Give Bad words. In addition, telling, “He already happily married and settled, why she want to ask his past and trouble him etc etc.
If there was no sexual past, why he Panicked and Blocked later came back and gave Bad words, more than him, My girl was angry with me, cursing me. However, both still defending themselves had no sexual relationship.
so on that i got another chance to confront her on this Adultry subject.
I am aware where I have gone wrong and I will confess and be free and see what life has instore for me.. from then on ..
There is beach near my House, so once I called her to go to beach, she said what to do if she tried. As I was having my other friends house just across the beach which was locked and I was having door key; I said we can go there, as in my building there is always someone sitting at the entrance.
Immediatly she replied I am not that type of girl to go to someone else house when no one is there.
When she was with other boy earlier she was visiting him often, even he was staying alone, she was not going to his house for cooking food for him. When I asked, she says she is not that type of girl; but anyone can guess why she visiting other guy house.
Now it is up to the readers to tell she had sex or not.
WHAT DO YOU SAY? Please comment.