I Also Wrote to a Popular Doctor Dr. Edward Nazareth of Mangalore.
*I have been married for 5 years and have a kid. Since the beginning of our marriage, my wife is not interested in sex, she always thinks it is dirty and refuses to do it at day light or lights on. I never forced her to indulge, but she always pretended to be tired 5 days in a week. She never comes to me with her own wish, and she doesn’t participate actively in it. I always feel like sleeping with DEAD body [Sorry for the word ]. I try to stimulate her by foreplay and many things, she never gets arousal. Is it common in Indian women or she has some problems? Now I came to know that she had affair before and she got married to me without her wish. Can this be the cause for her non responsive behavior?
Dr. Edward Nazareth
* *Your wife seems to be having some psychological barrier for physical union and it should have been attended at the beginning of marriage.
By the details given by you it appears that she has no desire for sex and it can be due to variety of reasons.
Her present behavior may be the reflection of some childhood trauma which can be anything from parental behavior, child abuse, sibling neglect etc.
It is also possible that she has some wrong fixation (in the mind) about sex like sex is dirty, sex is sin etc.
It is unlikely that she is still longing the premarital affair, but it can not be totally ruled out.
This is not very common problem and it is not found only among Indian women. Lack of sex drive it is a general problem. Indian women, like any women have the same desire and it is dependent on many factors. It is better for you to have complete knowledge about the desire pattern of sex among women and then to try to solve the problem.
If she has no desire any amount of foreplay will not help. If possible she can be taken for a good counselor, who should be able to help her to come out of the problem.
