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My Struggle with Legal Terrorism

What Went Wrong…

As I said; it was an arranged marriage.

So we married first and made love.

We got married in my native place Mangalore and after a week I came back to Bombay, where I was working.

Then I started to know her.

She did`t know how to cook, she never been to kitchen, Even she washed onions, so you can imagine, how much she knows about cooking.

I am Lucky she did`t washed salt before add it to dish.
I told her how to do what, how much salt and sugar to be added, but whatever she cooked I ate without complaining even its burnt or taste less.

In the Second week of our Marriage, when she was cleaning/moping house, I told her how to mop. I was teaching her things, but she was furious, and thinking I am pin pointing her every mistake and she said.


5 thoughts on “What Went Wrong…

  1. NOWADAYS men are tortured in the hands of women by misusing newly formulated laws specially designed only for women. The law makers fully forgetting the constitutions article 14 which says all men and woman are equal before law or say equality before law. This article 14 giving equal strength to man and woman but formulating new law for women so for no law formulated by the law makers for men. Why?

    A fine case of one Mr. Rathinasabapathy who was married with Rajeswari of Howrah at Pondicherry on 4th June 2003 started their life initially at Pondicherry latter after five months shifted to Bangalore where he was employed. The husband arranged job for his wife and he had given her all possible freedom which include to visit her parental house, to wear the dresses she feel convenient. But his all these freedoms and love showered towards the wife resulted in one fine day with hand cuffs of iron. Do you believe? YES THIS IS A TRUE STORY. The husband who once tried his best to keep his wife happy meted the cruelty by the same women. The husband arranged all physical mental pleasures for his wife but not fulfilled one demand which is affecting his parents, unmarried brother and sister. The wife demand for separate dwelling that too in such a place the language of which is a strange thing to the husband and leaving the old aged sick parents here all alone was not welcomed by the husband and which only resulted in iron hand cuffing like a herded criminal and lying in illegal custody for eight days.

    The wife and her parents even not intimated him the child birth and somehow when he come to know the child birth he requested to send a snap of the child which was also not heard. For the new born the father send some gift which was also returned by the wife and her parents. Their cruelty reached at Himalayan peak when she lodged a complaint using the weapon of dowry and domestic violence act (DVA) and several other criminal section against husband and in-laws, the in-laws who never interfered her life. The question is if she really met cruelty by the hands of husband and his relatives why she had not opted to file a complaint in the jurisdiction police station which was only in walkable distance. She opted to file complaint in the Howrah police station and filed a divorce under section 13a and succeeded to get an expartee decree within 3 months of filing which is very impossible as per marriage law. The husband had not given time to file counter or for a counselling. When husband was attending for maintenance case and came out of the court he was arrested and handcuffed and remained in the custody for eight days and ninth day presented before the judicial magistrate and then kept one day in judicial custody and latter bailed out. The wife atlest shown curtsy by not opposing the anticipatory bail of in-laws.

    The women how she forget the sweetness of togetherness, how she forget the sweet face of her husband which is now also in front of her in the form of child.

    THE MEN WAS CRUSHED IN THE HANDS OF WOMEN. The men who is a M.Sc., M.Phil., earning sufficiently was now staring the sky with no hope for justice. His parents are weeping and sister, brother still in a stage of shock.

    The reward paid by the wife to her husband is the only result of misusing of newly formulated laws. The court at Howrah which have no jurisdiction neither to try the suit for divorce nor for the criminal offence as the couple married at Pondicherry and last resided place at Bangalore, where both of them were employed and as such alleged offence held in Bangalore. So the decree which is passed by the Howrah Court is improper and the complaint also liable to be quashed. But these all will happen in future.

    Wake and do something for men otherwise similar trouble tomorrow you also have to face. For this not only togetherness of men required but the togetherness of women also required.

    M. Rathina Sabapathy

  2. huh..wat about all d innocent women who are harassed by dirty inlaws n husbands who want nuthin but money frm d girl?? why d hell shud women group up to support u dirty men. you deserve it. becoz witout it u wil torture all d women in india n drive dem to suicide

  3. The fight is essentially by men to have fair treatment. Not Men vs Women. Since the Laws & Justice system are so heavily loaded in favour of Women, when women decide to wreck vengeance or score a point or obtain easy money/ wealth/ life they (& the anxiety is the numbers are many) take this easy route inflicting wrongly & unfairly great damage & destruction to their husband/ his family. The hard earned position in life, money/ wealth which is a sum total of their efforts, application, hard work & sacrifces at the instant of a malicious Police complaint or a bias of law/justice delivery system gets totally eroded & bitten to dust. It is a herculean & painstaking task for a man (who has to continue in most cases to be the bread winner simultaneously -come what may) to parallely fight the wrong done & obtain a fair verdict/ settlement (also considering how much the law & its enforcement machinery is biased , how the same is further exploited to the great injustice & destruction of the wronged male). This is as much a severe flaw in the system/ social evil as dowry seeking by extortion by the man or sati. And it needs to be fought & set right. The cost of such a biased law (provne to easy & extensive misuse by unscruplous women & their families) must be addressed, discussed & set right. Productive, promising & very useful memebers of Indian society should not become so vulnerable to be easily victimised by biased laws, like this, not only making their life a waste but also depriving Indian society of their valuable contributions. That is the point – the extensive misuse of these laws seeming to empower the female. Shifting to another gear, at least the laws empowering the female, should simultaneously also have provison in them of stringent, exemplary & automatic award of punishments should the complaint using these female empowering laws be misused to victimise/ harass/ extort/ intimidate/ secure undue & unfair advantage etc.

  4. manya ,

    simply dont come and comment what men are doing to women,
    the hell you do the men are bearing the consequcnes.All the really affected women are not getting benifited by this law.

    Simply dont come and comment.I think you know nothing and commenting.

  5. Raghav, its a two way street and manya has a right to comment… just as you do.

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