Based on the way you wrote your posts it seems that you are very very confused.
You are trying to connect dots based on small incidents, which are common in every marriage.
I advice you to take deep breathe and stay cool. Panic will invite more trouble.
You must clearly define “torture”. There many forms of torture.
In many instances a simple feeling being nagged or used by some one considered as torture.
Ignore small episodes such as six cds.
Keep communicating with him by means of letters, mail and telephone. Use sweet words and low voice.
Give him time. Do not involve your brother, sister and parents to talk to him. Please try to involve third party.
I wish you best of luck!