Why is everything a competition between you and your husband ? Men and women have different abilities, strengths and weaknesses. You can’t start a competition about if he can do this, why can’t I do so. Learn to recognize that your strengths and weakness are different from your husband. It does not mean you are inferior than him, or superior. Just different. These differences are designed by nature to fulfil different tasks. Women have children, men don’t. Therefore their body structure is different. Women are the care givers in the family, so the maternal instinct is stronger in a woman than it is in a man. Men have to provide and that forms the basis of how they feel about themselves. If you constantly try to compete with your husband, conflict is bound to be there.