Read these in your immigration documentation.
The following factors may delay the processing of your application:
•unclear photocopies of documents
information and documents provided required independent verification
•a criminal or security problem
•family situations such as impending divorce, or custody or maintenance issues, or completion of a legal adoption
As i wrote earlier west is not like India, you have to Produce all documents, there is no other way than legal Procedure to get Legal custody.
Even if you say you are not divorced,still they will ask where is the Father of the child.
In application itself they are asking.
Write the personal details for your children. It is very important that you list all of your children This includes:
•children of your spouse(step-children) or common-law partner,
•any of your children who have been adopted by others,
•any of your children who are in the custody of an ex-spouse, former common-law partner or other guardian.
And now you are in netherland, If husband is in India or somewhere else, its very difficult to get Custody papers or NOC from him, and ofcourse he will abject if he is aware you are migrating.
and Telling Lies to Visa / Immigration Officer may cancel your Right to residency in Future country along with deprotation.