Reply To: Help me on this puzzle..

I am not sure about what people think here!!..But taking care of the kid and household chores is MORE than an 8 hour job!! And earnings are yours and your husbands!!..Those who are advising you that you need to give without expecting , will they advice the same to the man that he should give without expecting, their “gyaan” is only for women…!!Huh!!

You need to have almost equal hours of work..and you can ask him to get you help if he does not want to work at home!

Women are not signed into slavery..and if men enjoy the freedom to do the chores they like, even women should have that freedom…..for whatever reason, if it is child care or lack of professional education, you are not working …please do not enslave yourself…live, and enjoy your life!!….take a break from household chores and follow some of your own dreams…and go for some fair distribution of work according to choice and capabilities….no need to follow the advices and live like slaves!!

And yea, marriage does not mean being a servant……if he has exclusive rights to enjoy the fruits of your work..you have equal say in the money he earns..if he can’t share his earnings with you in a way that you have a say in financial matters…even you don’t have to listen to his orders…let him cook for himself for a change!!

I know that the admin and members of this forum are gonna hate me….but trust me, the right attitude is DEVIL MAY CARE!!…If you are not being treated right and you know it, deal with it!!..LET PEOPLE create noise..your life is yours–and these people are not going to come to wipe or understand your tears of facing injustice!!..Stand up for yourself girl..!!!