My lawyer advice me to divorce her immediately after she filed 498a & DV. In fact, she tried to comeback to me through relatives (same as in your case), but my lawyer warned me that once she come back, she can file again 498a with strong charges on me & my family. I stood strong as I want to live my life & enjoy every moment, so I divorce her immediately (as per Muslim law). Now the case is in progress.
My sincere advice to you is, live life as you want, not what others want. Stand strong to yourself. Give the slap to everyone by taking your own decisions, divorce her, get another girl with proper research (her mental situation & family background). Have faith in God and start new journey. Good luck to you.