What advise do you expect to receive when you are unable to stand up to your wife on any account. In such a situation, you are better off compromising and settling down with her, rather than making half hearted attempts at trying to prove your independence. This is a self help group, not a place to shed crocodile tears. When you wish to stand up to your wife, then come back for advise. Till then all advise, no matter how good would be wasted on you.