All know women take Child, coz she will get sympathy from others and ofcourse money from husband. Without thinking what Child want.? You are responsible for whatever child miss from his Father, Love and comfort,Do not blame others, thats ultimate cruelty on child. and child will punish you when she grownup and realise what she missed because of you, When you are old.
Not all Husband side think Daughter in law is outsider, thats Daughter in laws thinking. coz for women only her parents are everything, husband has to do everyhting for her family only, if husband old mother do house work then she is happy, but she cannt cook for her in laws, this situation is in todays most of the houses in India.