is there a court directive to tell the child about the bad things of mother(even if it is truth).
will the child come close to you by telling that father is good and mom is bad after so many years and no communication. what if you secure his life and he refuse to take. even if nothing is filled in his ears he will think his father is irresponsible and has ruined his mom’s life. that is normal for any child in this situation
act immediately. try to communicate and tell your feeling towards him without hampering his mothers image in his mind. where ever you are he should have that feeling that father is with him.