Parenst should not direct children life, it should be between couples. if son has no capacity to make his own home. and staying with parents, coz his wife is not able to contribute half to build another house then all have to compromise and stay together as per understanding. which mutualy agreed in begining to avoid future tutu meme.
if women is working, and pays half of hosue hold expensus and staying in husband parents house then she has some responsibility towards her in laws too.
and she should treat her in laws as her parents and do their things, as in old age they have to mind their own business and rest.
thats what 21st century as per me.