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23/02/2011 at 9:27 PM #437AnonymousGuest
I am a software engineer working with MNC at Hyderabad, Our marriage is held on Anantapur District, AP on 25Th November 2007, Marriage is arranged by My Brothers, My wife’s Father also from same village and he is my Brothers Child Hood Friend, Due to that friendship my brother agreed to marry Her Daughter. My wife is done MBA from Osmania University and also i have done MCA. So i have married her with my interest also. After Getting marriage, Immediately we have taken rented house at nearby my Office, after that my wife and her father denied my brothers and sisters to come to my house and restricted me to go to their houses, from child hood onwards my brothers and sisters spent all expenses for My studies, Because ours is very poor family even my brothers and sisters also very poor, so they have spent lot of money towards My studies, After Marriage My wife and Her father totally restricted me to speak with them and demanded me to purchase a house in Hyderabad Because i am software engineer and earning good salary, so they suspecting me that i am spending my salary to my brothers and sisters even though i am not giving one penny to them. And she is started harassing me for Luxurious life style, I have adjusted all these things and also after some days i have purchased One Flat in Hyderabad at the time of flat purchase my economical status is not that much good because of her satisfaction i have purchased Flat , In that flat cost i have obtained 90% of the Cost from Bank Loan and remaining amount I have paid by cash(All These money my Hard Earned). And with love and affection towards my wife i have registered this property Jointly (Joint Registration). From the date of purchasing Flat i am paying all the Home Loan EMI’s(24000/- Per Month for 20 Years) alone from My salary, Now also i have Not done savings even one rupee. In the Month Of January 2010 i have brought my Mother to My house(She is Paralysis Patient and totally Bed ridden) I have done all service to My mother, I have not asked her to do the service to My mother even thought she is started harassing me and My mother to through my mother out from the house, because while she urine the house is getting smell and house floor is spoiling, Every day she is became night mare to me. And one day i have approached my Father In law saying all these thing And asked him to provide any family counselling to us, But one day he had come with some of his friends and argued with me saying My daughter is well educated and married you to for Luxuries stay not doing service and also suggested me to Join my mother into Old age Home. After Some days she(My wife) called their parents and relatives and they have argued with me and Beaten to me and Taken all her belongings (Including 15 Tulas Gold, Her Certificates, My Vehicle RC and Driving Licence Original) and went there house and given complaint to police station on False Dowry Harassment on July 4th 2010. From that day police started harassing me and My Family Members. So have approached APHRC explaining the police harassment and also i have applied for Anticipatory bail for unregistered crime. And also i have applied for Divorce on 22nd Dec 2010. My bail order is valid upto 15 days after registering the FIR. After that i need to apply fresh Application for bail. But My wife and their parents Intelligently approached to another police station and court and filed Case (FIR) on me and My family members on 3rd feb 2011and Police has Not given any information to me or My family members on FIR. Luckily i came to know FIR has registered and it is already 13 days crossed. Now i have applied For New Bail. So please help me to Clarify My Below Doubts.
1. Is This FIR can be taken as ground for My divorce.
2. Shall i proceed any counter case on them because they have tried to Black mail me and Filed Totally False case on me.
3. And also they have stolen some cheques from my bag which are signed by me and blackmailing on this also, So shall i take any action on this issue.
4. I have registered My house jointly, But EMIs are paying alone, If stop paying EMIs it will becomes Problems to My credit Rating. If i continue to paying EMI. Will she is also having right. How to get out from this issue, because i have suffered lot to pay the EMIs and it is very very hard earned Property this is the only Asset i am having.
Please help me to solve these problems. And also i mention here her father is a railway corrupted employee and having lot Money and Political background. Our Family is very poor and All my Family members are scaring on this issue, So please help me and my family to come out from all these issues.
24/02/2011 at 4:21 AM #2383AnonymousGuest
You try to quash FIR u/s 482 of Cr.P.C. before High Court, also move for divorce. Then after stop your EMI with discussion with concern bank. Bank will take appropriate step, if your wife will pay EMI , you don’t oppose.
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24/02/2011 at 4:41 AM #2384AnonymousGuest
Hi Kachave, Thanks for you fast Reply, Even They have approched to my HR saying that stop the salary. And also i am palnning to Approcah Meadia, Please give Your suggestion, if i approch to media will it becames any problem. And i already applied for Divorce two months Back.
24/02/2011 at 6:15 AM #2385
24/02/2011 at 7:21 AM #2386AnonymousGuest
Police has has been approced to our HR people and My HR is called me for discuusion, Please suggest me how can i explain the situation to my HR.
24/02/2011 at 7:53 AM #2387AnonymousGuest
Police has no authority to do so;
report it to higher police, they are influenced by your opponent
24/02/2011 at 8:02 AM #2388AnonymousGuest
Yes your right, But my HR called me for discussion on this issue, will this effects my career? Because case has been handling by two Police stations, One is Legally and Another Illigal.
Please Suugest me to handling the situation clearly, Please it is very urgent. I need to meet my HR by tomorrow.
24/02/2011 at 8:05 AM #2389AnonymousGuest
just tell them its family matter and it will not effect any work. and you will settle it out as soon as possible.
or may be you can tell them that they have no authority to approch HR, she bribed them so they came here.
24/02/2011 at 8:07 AM #2390AnonymousGuest
28/02/2011 at 6:33 AM #2391AnonymousGuest
I have applied For AB in High Court on Last monday But it has been Rejected, Again i have applied for AB in District Court Today. Please tell Me How many days takes it to get AB in district Court. Is there any chance to Reject in District Court too….
Please provide Your Advise Plz…..
28/02/2011 at 8:32 AM #2392AnonymousGuest
Approach a good advocate to defend yourself.
Divorce petition will be anyway be filed by her on cruelity basis and she will ask for maintenance also if she is not earning.
Can that counter cases be proved in court??
if cheques are stolen you will have the cheque details such as no. will you be able to prove that it is stolen and not given to her?. Immediately ask the bank to stop payment.
your wife will not pay EMI for sure. if you stop paying you will loose the asset. take advice of advocate.
If you have done nothing wrong do not panic.
It is appropriate if you peacefully negotiate and save yourself from problems.
28/02/2011 at 9:11 AM #2393AnonymousGuest
taking care of ailing mother is equal responsibility of all the siblings including your sister. it is wrong that she is not allowing your relatives to your home and not taking care of her mother in law. what about all your brother and sister including their spouses taking turns to take care of your mother who has raised all of you equal care.
why should she go to old home??
Did you stop any of her relatives for coming to your house in the past anytime? find out her grieviances. call the meeting of elders include all the your near family members to discuss.
28/02/2011 at 9:34 AM #2394AnonymousGuest
Thanks For your Advice, I have approached a good Advocate, He has brought AB When crime was not registered, and now he is doing delay. Last week he Filed petition for AB in High Court that has been Rejected and again he is Filed in Lower court. Please tell me how many Days will take to grant the AB in lower Court.
I am paying the house loan EMI and trying to give that house to rent but She is Not allowing any one to take the rent, Please suggest me what action i can take on them. I don’t want to stop EMI and Loose House. Because it is much heard earned thing.
Please advise me…
28/02/2011 at 9:41 AM #2395AnonymousGuest
are you staying in that house at present?
28/02/2011 at 11:12 AM #2396AnonymousGuest
No, I am not staying into that house. I have vacated it and Given to Rent, But she is creating Nuisance to the Tenants.
28/02/2011 at 11:28 AM #2397AnonymousGuest
why don’t you shift to that house
28/02/2011 at 1:05 PM #2398AnonymousGuest
Plz…. Tell me How many days It will takes to get AB from District Court Plzzzzz……..
28/02/2011 at 6:55 PM #2399AnonymousGuest
“spouses taking turns to take care of your mother who has raised all of you equal care”
dear rekha, you want in this paralytic condition his mom should move from one place to another. if he is the most economically sound person in his family whats wrong in him keeping his mother for ever.
she is paralytic, there is no way she can harass her DIL. What do you want. why r u in this forum. i have seen several of ur messages. u write cute words like compassion etc but i think u r least compassionate for male and elders rights.
there are thousands fo forums and organizations for helping women. do not give wrong advices to gullible men.
28/02/2011 at 9:00 PM #2400AnonymousGuest
Dear Mr Mahesh Naik,
Listen i dont know much about the case laws properly, but i have faced divorce problem like you and i have came out from it easily in one sense, but i have to face lot for that. LIsten, first of all stop all communication with those who are common friends relatives of yours and her, stop to bypass any information to them.
Point No.1 stop all typesof communication to those who are common friends and relatives of your wife and also stop all communication to your wife as u yourself has did divorce petition that means now u dont want to keep relations with her. and these days before some 10 years back or so i personally has seen divorce on such grounds are happening many, so dont worry.
Point No.2 the cheques they have stollen and kept with them to black mail you if u have your lawyer inform him to do the needfull but if your lawyer in such cases lawyers are also culprits they use to squize you by getting much money and they dont do much for you, if u have found such lawyer then my friend dont rely on him, better u find some best lawyer and if u cant pay much then find a lawyer who is cheapest but dont go with one only what u do is say the story to many different different and not the friends of your own lawyer but go in court area try to find out unkonw and different lawyer and dont tellhim your lawyer name so he cant contact your lawyer that u have approached xyz, so keep cool and find out some 4 to 5 different lawyers and dont tell them that u met anyone of them as they can find out the case and lawyer who is handling your case and by doing such things try to find out the solution of your problems in legal terms as i have did such things and i was very luck to get many lawyers differently and then i have came up on conclusion for my case even my lawyer was taking time and doing mischeif with me then i have fought with him verbly and took my case back that also happened with me, so u did one thing first take as many different different lawyers ideas and views on your case which will get u much better idea how to deal with your wife legaly and thru police department. for cheques problem and also for 498 problems.
Point no.3 dont be unhappy it happens and so what u have to do for your flat is dont give to tenant as if your wife will do big mischeif is if u have not did any agreement with your tenant of 11 months leave and licence contract then u may loose your flat with that tenant and you have to pay for nothing the emi to bank, so dont do that vacat the tenent as early as possible.
go to bank and say them that i cant able to pay another emi if my wife wants to pay then let it be or else i want to sell the falt and i want to pay back, as if u will pay emi then also as it is purchased after your marriage and it is also in the joint name of your wife so it is not possible to get anything to you as half is in her name and half she can ask as ellemoney from you so u will loose in anycase your flat evenif u will pay total emi as your wife is on rampage to eat your money, so what u have to do is smart work. first of all go to tenant and vacat your flat in some time till that time keep silence and find out what u can do next in your legal battle to safeguard you. but in mean time when your flat is vacated by your tenent then go to bank and tell them i have paid emi now i cant so whatever i have paid is you pay me back and whatever i have to pay is you take it from other person who wish to buy your flat, as if u will keep on emi then also your wife will ask for it, so what willhappen is if your wife dont want to sell then she will stop bank to sell it so bank will ask for money and if your wife wishes to keep that flat on her name then she has to be compled to pay from her own pocket from her father money to save your falt in her name and if such thing happens forget other paid emi money to bank as that is a loss to you but u will come out from this situation very fast. and so if ur wife needs that flat then she will pay to bank and if she dont then u can sell it and repay back to bank your total loan amount and balance u keep with you if something remains to settle your previous paid emi loss. if such things doesnt happen then stop emi is the first thing so bank will take charge of flat, i understand it is your hard earned money but evenif u will pay emi till last date then also your flat is not yours as it is half parted by you when u made your wife joint partner in your flat so now she is owner of that flat which u will pay emi so better dont pay emi and vacat that flat from tenent or else do one thing take a leave and licence agareement on signature from your tenenat if u have not did it then or else if your tenent will go wrong then u have to pay emil also and your flat will also go from your hands and also from wife’s hand better tenent should not get advantage of your problems, if your wife gets then it is your luck but yetshe is your wife better then your tenent who is unkonwn, here u can convience court of elle money paid in kind like flat i am giving what ever i have paid is elle money as u might have paid atleast 1 or 2 or 3 lacs till date so that let be the elle money on your opart to be paid to your wife and let your wife hold that flat and let her pay the balance emi but i warn you dont have further emi please or u are going to loose more as yoour wife is on rampage to eat up your total income.
point no4 start to stop your job for 10 days or week times as if u show you are jobless and in meantime go to your job owner and tell him what u are having problems and ask him to help as if he should give you a certificate of job that u are working as peon or something like small job then what u are doing now and devaluate your job payment from him if posssible, if he says yes it is ok and if says no then dont worry give a resignation and let him sign and show that copy as if u are not working with that company who was paying you good salary and then find out bad job to show only work as where u are working but show as if u r not working or working somewhere where u get proof also practically and physically also that u are working xyz company which is paying something like 5000 rupees so maintenance when it will be decided by court at that time u dont have to pay much amount as maintenace to your wife and also keep that xyz job appointment letter as yourproof with you, if you get actually such job then your wife wish and will be in vein as she wants free money from your work and she wants to enjoy you without giving you all family needs and support. so it seems that u are in bad box so do such things then only you have to pay less money or else u will have to pay good amount of elle money and also much amount of maintenance till your case will longer in court and also you have to pay for emi for flat and also your wife or your tenenat will take it up or bank will take it up if u willnot pay emi in all case your flat will go away so better u do what i have told if possible. accoridng to me u stop this good paid money job for timebeing and have proof of low paid job once your case is settled then go for good job as till that time u will be in trouble but if u will continue such big paid job then big money u have to pay to bank thru emi and also wife will enjoy maintenance and elle money in big amount so again u will be bankcroupt. so to save your life and moeny go for lower quality job and lower paid job to safe gaurd your future interest. it is the only way out, rest is take not one but many lawyer ideas and views to find out what exactly u have to do but in that keep one thing is common is dont say your existing lawyer name or address or your case number to each different lawyer plus whoomyou have met the different lawyers name as if u will say every place your existing lawyer name or whom you met the lawyer to other lawyer then they will find out who u r and where is your case and then they all will manipulate your situation so keep secretly your case and find out the out come befor your existing lawyer say anything to you so u get idea your lawyer is doing work in your favour or he is just taking time as those laweyr who wish to make your case weak will definately takes time or else he could have worked faster then wht u think .. so such things and try to find out the sitatuion in your favour then u have to be strong for job also and u keep yourself ready for jail also to show only so that u wife tempo of killing you thru eating money will break up and so then u will win and she will loose and then u will get all things automatically sorted out.
28/02/2011 at 9:25 PM #2401AnonymousGuest
if u will be stronger enough to safegaurd your interest at anycost then no wife can fuck us up as i was ready to go to jail also and so as my job has already gone and i am having pyscartic problem way back and when my engagement happened i told everythings to my wife and her parents that i am having so and so problems and i am earning like this at that time i was having my busness of cyber cafe and i was earning like 5000 as profit from15000 turnover a month but then they pressuried me to do job which i was uncomfortable with then also i did as per my inlaws parents and my wife and then i stoppped my cafe and then i worked hard to get good money in marketing but till i get good job and i can enojoy with my wife and my baby girl she apparted from me on grounds that i was bitting her yet my all neibours and even herself when she came to my uncle house to settle the issue she never blamed me of bitting at that time she was saying i am becoming angry but never hurted her physcilly in court she told that i was bitting bruitally and giving bad words to her daily which is 10001% wrong and i was and i amnot like that but as she wish to get 10lac has ellemoney so she did such things and ultimatley i make up my mind that she has publicised me wrong so i will not pay single penny to her and till date i have not paid but yes i have to pay to my daughter so i paid her 1 lac.50 thousand in her name till she attains majority of 18 years as fixed deposit and 1 lac to my wife who were asking for 10 lacs as a whole but i make up my mind to not give any penny and i was ready to go in jail also for that and so i have also told to judge that as i am not having job and in reailyt i was not having job till date i am working for free for some company as business development manager as in education marketing it is hard to earn money inspite i have good experience to get business development then also i am under this situaion then also i have not lost the hope i am working good to get my company good business so one day i will be again on the same post and will earn 20000 as my base salary which i have lost due to such pressure and court problems, i am really broken but i have not lost my hopes and faith in god and thats why i am happy and i am working but my all expenses my bro is handling till date, and so i tell u that dont loose heart only one thing u do is work hard but show to court what u wish to show with proof that u get this much as your wife is doing bad so u r doing correct to undervalue your salary and your job if u have to leave this job then also leave that job as if u will not do that then a big ellemoney on the basis of your this job will be waiting for you to pay and also big maintenance amount is also there to be paid by you becaseuof this job as our law says either wife goes away or husbands gives divroce in both case husband has to pay good amount of maintenace till court settles for elle money has to be paid by husband and so u will come in clutch to pay big amount plus u did bad with yourself while keeping wife as partner in flat so half is you have already given and half she will ask for ellemoney and maintenance so no single part of flat is going to come in your hand now so better stop emi to pay and let bank take its action to recover your balance moeny if more will come then bank will pay u or u sell and take more part with you and balance unpaid u pay to bank and if wife say no to seeling your flat then legally thru bank and thru court ask her to pay emi and let her take the flat so u can prove that i have paid ellee money to wife in kind that is u have paid till date this much emi is elle money or maintenance to wife and let her have this flat. so u will be releived from court problems this is the solution which i feel is ok foryou.
01/03/2011 at 5:16 AM #2402AnonymousGuest
Thank You very Much for Valueble advice and Please tell me the Time frame to get AB.
02/03/2011 at 9:46 AM #2403AnonymousGuest
When My Adv. Approached To High Court For AB, The High Court Is Declined My AB Petition.
Saying: “As seen from the material placed on record, the petitioner allegedly beat the defacto complainant severely and attempted to do away her life. In that view of the matter, Petitioner does not deserve for grant of AB.”
Again he is filed Petition in Lower Court, Any One Please suggest i will get AB or NOT. She has submitted some false reports while filing FIR.
Please help me on this.
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