how to protect property

Welcome Forums Advice Divorce how to protect property

Viewing 8 reply threads
  • Author
    • #690


      Firstly,i would like to thank the members who respond and reply to the queries of the victims who are in a complete state of confusion as they dont know what to do in their existing poor situation.

      I am an NRI.I got the alliance through a matrimonial site.It would be an year i got married by november 2013.i have done everything in my reach to keep my wife happy.she has done whatever possible to blame and defame me and my family before friends,society and if possible she may not hesitate to do the same before any stranger too.Her parents are also the same and defend her in everything she does.

      About her

      She is a post graduate,resigned her company 1 month before wedding.

      Parents – Father – Retired govt employee,mother govt employee

      one younger sister.

      Activities she did till now – insulted before all my friends and manager.Had defammed me before everybody.

      Called cops giving stupid reason saying husband is not talking.

      threw meout of the house one whole night.

      She and her parents spread false things about me and my family while she was with me in europe.Things like i am an impotent person,i m harassing her,im beating her,i made her resign her job,i dont love her,i dont spend on her etc.

      She has refused my parents to visit us and made me cancel their tickets too.

      She shouts and had very immense amount of uncontrollable anger.

      She has never cooked for me.She stays awake all night watching english movies.

      She fights and screams every other day.Speaks only lies and exaggerates things in such a way that anybody will think her words are true

      Spread things about my mother that while she was in my home which was for 10 days my mother dint give her proper food.My father would come to her room.My mother harrassed her etc.

      We came to india last week. as she persuaded me to take her back.we both came to my house.she shouted at us next morning and left home.All the elders got together to sort out and understand.She has told the same above things about me and also added that my family and me kicked her out of the house holding her neck.She never accepted things she did and told all the lies possible.The discussion was over without any conclusion.She left back to her house with her parents.i asked her for her contact her she didnt give me.I asked her for their house address as they changed their house too.But neither her parents nor she is giving their address.

      At my place in europe certain points which i noticed about her

      She always had her mobile in her hand.Always locked with password and sometimes frequently changed passwords too.

      She had her laptop locked all the time.She had passwords for evrything.

      To make VOIP calls every month recharge was mandatory.She even never shared password for that.If i would ask she would say why do you need my password.

      Except parents she would never make calls to anybody in my presence.

      Initially when she came to europe,she used my login for VOIP.hence i was able to get call logs for two months.i found calls to a number for very small amount of time but many times in a day.

      I collected that info and sent it through mail to my sister.My sister sent me a link related to false laws to my mail.the mail only contained the link without any text though.There was another mail which my sister sent me saying “delete mails after reading” neither her name nor any text was mentioned in the mail.i never put any passwords either to mobiles or laptops because i dont have any information in my devices which has to be hidden or sealed with passwords.i guess she used to have a watch over my mobile and laptop.she took a photo of the mail which my sister sent me.accidently when she asked me to click a picture of her with her mobile i saw the pictures of mail in her mobile.which means she was spying on my things.

      We always thought that may be she is doing all this without any knowledge or stupidity or out of over anger.But now after all the elders having discussion.hearing to all her words.we are extremely shocked she is telling them all the above points which i mentioned and also says that she never asked me to bring her to india.Infact she says she asked me many times about the reason for our travel and it is me who bought her to india to leave her.She was shouting while talking to elders,very aggressive without any minimum manners.We dont know whats her motive or her family’s motive.If she wants to maintain relationship why will she do all this.Why is she trying to be keep all her things locked,why is she spying on my things,why is she propagating false things about me.One hand she is spoiling our relation,other hand she cries that i am trying to leave her.She says our marriage is not consummated and claims me to be impotent which is not true.Our marriage has consummated.No girl will talk all private issues before elders specially.No girl will reveal all private issues before anyone.But she is doing this constantly.Did she marry for money or what is her motive.We dont understand.

      Please let me know what should i do.If i go back will my parents and sister who is married will face problems.

      Will those mails which she took photos of will be a problem to my sister.

      I have the flat which my parents are living in on my name.The loan is completed too.My father also contributed for that flat.How should i protect my property which is on my name.Can my wife claim property.Can i sell it to my mother or make a gift deed.Whose property can wife not claim.

      I have spent so much on her till now that i never did for my self too…Our family has struggled alot in life and i dont want our hard earned money to go into her hands at any cost.

      What are the evidences i can collect to prove her wrong.

      Please guide me.I need your help.Our family has never seen such situations in life.I feel totally cheated and am in shock.I am so shattered that i cant even express.

      Elders have asked me to go back to my place.but i want to take all the posssible precautions from now and also things required to protect my property before leaving.

      Please guide me i will really very very thankful.


    • #3671

      You can easily transfer any of your immovable property to your parents or siblings; and do it fast.

      whatever she do, make it to video or voice, your words will be useless in court.

      when she is ok, talk to her nicely about dowry and beating, talk nicely, dont shout, but makeher shout and screem and record it.

      keep record of her all moves

      findout about her bank details, email ids, friends names, her family member address.

      keep all the bills you paid for her.

      keep record of your gold and valuable given.

    • #3672

      and if you are india, call our helpline numbers or attend weekly meeting if you are in metropolitan city.

      we have well wishers all over the world too, call them.

    • #3673


      I had the same incidents with my ex she & her father threatened blackmailed and they would get me and my family killed used abusive language with my family and myself. she is a company secretary and I agreed to marriage because she is a professional and her family is also educated her elder sister is doctor in NCR. Before marriage her father(a property dealer) told us that her daughter willl adjust in the family of mine. but immediately after marriage she & her father showed us their colour that she is not going to stay with my family any more as my family interfere in her pursuit for career I told them neither my family is against her career only they wanted her to balance things career as well as family.

      as she is in search of a job immediately after marriage she was not able find a job she would blame my family and threaten me of dire consequences she would started eating from outside for months as she wanted my mother to shift her kitchen and after just one months of marriage one day she throws mangal sutra towards my mother and says that her family desires to get her divorce from me in presence of elders and myself due to some dispute. we were shocked to hear this and she would ask me for money if I desires to see her follow my family customs on a regular basis. and her father would come every 15 days and abuse and use filthy language with my family and threaten to call police if there desire were not met. We also separted from the family in the same building just to keep her distance from my family but there also she denied to follow any household activity but instead she only cooked for her self and I have to take food from outside never cooked for me.

      she also has one habit of deleting her call details which got my attention when I got hold of her call details that she has called my neighbor several times and my relatives who never informed me of her calls. making all the family matters into public domain and even to strangers and she doesnot have that much communication with my family. as any differences would come between me and her I would call the neighbor to sort things out.

      one day she in morning packed all her bags I was unaware about her next move seeing all this I went to my office then there around at 1200 I received her call that her father has decided to shift her to hostel accomodation in the evening as she cannot adjust with my family I told her that I will help her shift . then immediately I rushed to the house she came late that night and then I called the cab to carry her bags but she ran towards my neighbors house that I was throwing her out . I thought to take this matter to her sister and jijas knowledge who I thought were educated and professionals that she threatens us of dire consequences I take the same cab and went to her sisters house late that night in the meanwhile she called police and dragged my family and me by saying falsely that we are throwing her out of the house. then her father came and shouted and used unparliamentary language. that they have married her daughter only because of house and nothing else she will stay here and mine parents can shift to old age home. after the incident we took legal advice then I legally separated myself from the property and started staying in a rented accomodation there I filed sec 9 to call her to my rented accomodation as she is staying in my families accomodation. in a fit of rage she filed domestic violence and went to caw cell and filed a complaint that I demanded dowry of flat and a mercedes car from her and she started calling police ( beat constable) as her father would bribe them to follow her to my mothers house and would ask them to arrest my mother and my other family members for continously a week that my mother is harrasing her seeing this the beat constable would only say that she is a lady and a senior citizen she stays seperate from you and you dont have healthy relationship with her. my mother also then files a complaint to magistrate in the court to stop her to defame them in society I was amazed that she is a CS.

      on the date of sec 9 in the family court we signed the joint statement for dissolution of marriage at a amount fixed for alimony and as she doesnot want to stay with me in a rented accomodation but asked in the court that she be given the right to stay in the same accomodation(mothers house) from first motion till second motion is signed.

      I took this measure to protect my family and my family property going into the hands of a bitch and her property dealer father. I also have to leave my job where I have worked for 7 years to follow all the legal process.

      BEWARE members one more caution that she and her father has posted her matrimonial alliance on various matrimonial site stating that her marital status is never married

      I would like to thank members for there timely help in the matter.


    • #3674

      If she still not divorced legally then

      take a screen shot of all her profiles;

      report it to cyber Police to make archive of this and ask Police to get the IP of the posters; and its a breach of trust and marriage. you can go ahead with Divorce.

    • #3675

      can I complain to these websites and ask them to take action as they are imposter and in a lookout for innocent families and how can I widespread all there misdeeds.


    • #3676


      Thankyou for your reply and for your kind words.Neither me nor my family is fine.I am in india now and dont understand what she wants.As i mentioned in my mail.We came to india a week back .We both came to my house and on the same night she started fighting,she left home next day morning shouting at us.she carried a mobile number with her which her parents gave her at the airport.Once she left we started calling her parents,relatives.We asked her parents to give her number but they never did.Immediately i dropped her an email stating the same to which she replied that my parents and me hold her neck and kicked her out of the house and that i forced and bought her back to india to leave .All elders had a discussion on 16th where she blamed me on all the possible things.The summary of the discussion was that she was correct in every way and it is she who is unhappy in all the ways bearing lots of harrassment too.Everybody left after the discussion without any conclusion and she happily left back with her parents.Today again she is texting me,her language was very smooth in the text asking “what are your plans i need some clarity”.Looking at what happened back i.e the previous fights in europe,her email,discussion,and the text which she sent today morning.i learn that she is trying to show that i am trying to dessert her or creating evidence for the same.I have not replied to her text.Please can you advise me on the following points.

      Should i go back to europe which elders are asking me to do?

      Some members are advising that i should not transfer the property but sell the property that too only to my mother’s name and not anybody else.

      I am from warangal andhra pradesh,unfortunately meetings are held in hyderabad and no meetings at my place.Members are asking me to attend meeting this weekend which i will definetly do but before that as you mentioned that i have to make it fast.I need advice whether i have to sell the property to my mother’s name or anybody else is safe.I have a sister who is married.

      I also have some land and some investment in mutual fund.Should everything be removed?

      Am i not supposed to have cash in my bank account too.

      My mother’s and sisters gold is in my mother’s locker.Is that safe or advised to move from there?

      We dont have any of her gold or any belongings as from day one she made sure that she leaves nothing at my house.After me leaving to Europe after marriage.Visa processing took some time about 4 months in which she stayed at my house for 10 days.She moved to her parents place and leaved from there itself to europe after visa processing.My mother was shocked to see that she even took the bedspread before she left from my house.

      We made a gold necklace for her which she took along with herself and kept it at her parent’s place.

      What are the precautions my family should take in my presence or absence?

      Just an hour back she messaged me on facebook saying “U are ignoring me u were supposed to come today to my place and get me ” I am asked not to reply to any of her messages so i am not replying to them.

      My parents are very much horrified with the last incident when she left house and blamed them saying they hold her neck and removed her out.My parents doesnt want her to come to their house as she would again build new stories.If her parents come to my parent’s home or if she forcibly comes to my parent’s house.How should my parent’s reply?

      One more thing which i want to bring to your notice,she changed her email id and skype id after coming to europe.

      Please advise me.We would be very thankful to you.

    • #3677


      One side she is doing all nasty things,blaming me before evrybody with all false allegations.Other side says i have bought her to leave her.One side she doesnot give me her mobile number,keeps texting me from her sister’s number,doesnot give me their house address.Other side she says i am not calling her and not coming to her house to take her back.

      If she really wants to save her relation why is she doing all the nasty things and expecting things from me.Why is she creating stories.Why is she not worried about any relation?Why does she do things and blame me for them.

      She says i am impotent i have hurt her,harrassed her,didnt give her any money,made her totally dependant on me by making her out of job.My question is when your husband is doing so much bad to me,when you have such life threats from your husband,why do you again want to go back to him?When i am an impotent person,who will she lead her married life with and how can she be happy with an impotent person,who harrrases her, shatters her and is ruining her life.

    • #3678

      Wife Wants Reunion after 498a and DV [ ] you will get answer for some of your questions here

Viewing 8 reply threads
  • You must be logged in to reply to this topic.