Is my case strong against my greedy in laws?

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    • #379
      Anonymous
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      I got married in January 2005.It was an arranged marriage.With in one week my husband left his pvt. job and asked me not to disclose to my family as it will bring dishonor to him.Then they spread rumors to neighbors that my parents will give their only flat to them.Then my mother in law started showing worry over me and husbands future as they were living in a govt. flat which could have to be vacated at some point of time.

      She asked me to bring 5-6 lacs so as to build house on their plot.My husband supported her.But I refused as my parents couldnt give the same.Then my brother in law who had shifted to Haridwar one year before my marriage also came and asked me to “support” my husband .

      Within 2 months of marriage my MIL started sending me to my parents home for weeks .After 7 months I got pregnant and she asked me to stay permanently at my parents home.My father did not have good health and my sister had to marriageable age so i tried to ignore all the issues.

      Then in December, 05 my husnabd asked my family to provide money for he was becoming partner with his brother in business of service centre for AC and Fridge

      When my Dad refused he asked to act as guarantor of their loan for business.When he was refused ,he went away to Haridwar, his brother’s house and left me in Delhi , my parents home.

      After 4 months baby boy was delivered .He did not pay a single penny on the pretext that he has not got income from their business.

      His mother asked me to stay at parents home for 3-4 years as her son was to work at Haridwar.In 2006 ,My brother in law took away bike given by my parents to Haridwar from my parents home (left by my husband while going to Haridwar) for being used in their business .He said that they will give maintenance from common account of their company.

      He went away and never paid any maintenance .Then our family arranged a meeting after 1.5 years with his relatives.His brother agreed in written that he was a partner with his younger brother on business and he ws taking responsibility that my husband would take care of me and the baby.He also signed that for 1.5 years my husband had not acted responsibly towards me and baby.

      They took me to Haridwar but there also my MIL started maltreating me.She used to slap me and fight without reason.These people made me work at home and provided just food in return.They used to show that their business is not doing well though my sister in law (jethani)used to wear lots of gold jewellery and her kids were studying in a missionary school,paying house rent of Rs. 15,000 and having 3-4 workers for A.C. servicing business.

      After 6 months they asked me to go with my husband to Rudraprayag as their a new AC service centre was to be started .There we lived for 2 years out of which I spent 7-8 at my parents home.2 months becuase I were to take my BA exam and rest of the months because my husband asked me to go as in winters thier AC -fridge servicing business used to remain still.During my stay with him he never gave any money to me.

      He used to pay the bills and even decide what food to buy and how much to buy .He paid rent and bought food only.My clothes were bought when I used to visit my parents.He never shared his accounts with me.He never made any identity proofs for me and my baby ie Voter card, ration card.

      Even his insurance had his mothers name as nominee,as per him.

      In July 2009 his sister in law asked us to come to Haridwar as her husband (jeth) was ill.I refused but husband made me go with him .There again they made me do the house chores and my MIL started mentally disturbing me by quarreling and abusing me and my parents.When my brother in law was relieved from hospital (kidney stone ) I asked my husband to go back but he refused on one or another pretext.These people started harrassing me mentally by asking me to bring money from my home as my dad was getting retired from his job.One day when they beat me and my MIL threatened to burn me or poison me .After wards my husband dropped me at my home in Delhi.He asked to admit my kid in school and told that he will pay money for admission and maintenance.He came twice after that.But even after one year he didnt pay anything .

      I have filed a dowry case against my husband, MIL,BIL and SIL in CAW cell.And filed for maintenance and domestic violence.

      Is my case strong enough ?I have only following evidences –

      1. written undertaking of brother in law that my jeth was a partner with his younger brother on business and he was taking responsibility that my husband would take care of me and the baby.He also signed that for 1.5 years my husband had not acted responsibly towards me and baby.

      2.medical billls of my baby’s birth in hospital

      3.Educational fee and allied bills of my son.

    • #1825
      Anonymous
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      Making it short:

      My inlaws have been asking for dowry under diff. excuses in 5 years of my marriage. My brother in law is the master mind and others are his allies .He called my husband to another city after 9 months of my marriage as a business partner.Since then they have not paid anything to me for maintenance.In between my jeth {BIL} gave in written that he undertakes that he will see my husband would fulfill his family responsibilities which he has not done since 1.5 years and took me to their city with my child.But after 6 months he sent me away with my husband to a third city.My husband gave nothing to me in name of money and just provided food, not even clothes.When mu dad got retired jeth who was ill with kidney stones called us and even though he got relieved, my husband was unwilling to return.My Mother In Law beat me without reasons. Then my husband left me top my parents home.I have filed case against all of them

      But I have only these proofs:L

      1. written undertaking of brother in law that my jeth was a partner with his younger brother on business and he was taking responsibility that my husband would take care of me and the baby.He also signed that for 1.5 years my husband had not acted responsibly towards me and baby.

      2.medical billls of my baby’s birth in hospital

      3.Educational fee and allied bills of my son.

      Is my case strong enough to get me justice?

    • #1826
      Anonymous
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      Its clear Proof in your own words that there was no Dowry demand than money to support husband.

      and Asking to do house work is not harassment.

      If they have beaten you, as per your owrds you should have filled curelty case on those who harassed you instead Dowry case on all of them.

      I am sure you will get Justice to misusing the Law.

    • #1827
      Anonymous
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      You have a child, u have to settel the matter in the interest of your child & ur futre , try to settel & stay away from your relatives, they r only the persons who ruin our life.

      http://www.jaihindlegal.com m-9821387099, 9224799546

    • #1828
      Anonymous
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      Douza :

      READ CAREFULLY”

      ………..”Then my mother in law started showing worry over me and husbands future as they were living in a govt. flat which could have to be vacated at some point of time.

      She asked me to bring 5-6 lacs so as to build house on their plot.My husband supported her.But I refused as my parents couldnt give the same.Then my brother in law who had shifted to Haridwar one year before my marriage also came and asked me to “support” my husband .

      ……………………These people started harrassing me mentally by asking me to bring money from my home as my dad was getting retired from his job……….

      This much is sufficient for you to understand that they were demanding dowry.How dare you say I misused law?Did you give even ur precious 5 minutes in reading the post? You have joined the forum but just to make ur name appear here and get clients accordingly.Get changed the no. of ur spectacles old man.

    • #1829
      Anonymous
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      Adv Kcahave

      He has lived with me only for 1.5 year (out of 6 years)that too when his brother gave that undertaking.

    • #1830
      Anonymous
      Guest

      When marriage is on the brink of Divorce amount which was in hundred turn into lakhs as you said 5-6 lakhs.

      As you said they asked but her mother can say she did`t thats upto you to prove. anyway find related judgment on http://mynation.net/docs saying asking money for house hold things or support husband is not Dowry.

      no need to prove what you are, your last 3 lines shows how much you harassed husband family. and i am 101% sure you filled false case

    • #1831
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Neelam,

      Are you or any of your family members LLB by qualifications (If not profession) ?

      Anyway, let me come to the point …. You said that you have filed these cases on your MIL, BIL, SIL … In the whole episode, according to you, what was the role of your SIL ?

      Are you educated ? What are your plans for future ? Take it this way … your hubby is alive but not taking care of you… What if a woman’s hubby is the best hubby in the world and is taking care of her, giving her money etc … and then suddenly such a hubby dies ? Even in such a case the woman becomes completely helpless and has to work hard and earn for herself and her kid(s).

      I don’t know the consequence of your case and would not comment on whether you should have filed cases or not, or whether this evidence is sufficient or not (technically this evidence does not indicate that he or his family members ever beat you or asked you for dowry; Infact it shows the concern towards you by your BIL – whom you have accused in this case) ….. But don’t you think someday you will have to move ahead in life and develop yourself ? Better make your life ….. after 10 years whether anyone else’s life is ruined or not will not matter at all, but it will definitely matter to you if you have made your life by then !!!!!!

    • #1832
      Anonymous
      Guest

      So you really think 6 years whole life can be narrated here or you can judge with things so easily .

      Who paid for your mother’s delivery?

      Who paid for your education?

      Who fulfilled your basic needs for most of your childhood and adulthood?

      If it was not your father but ur mothers parents, then I agree with whatever you said.

      If it was your father then stop responding to this query.I can read you are not even a legal professional but participating for fun here. I have not posted query to get my time wasted on useless responses.

      Secondly You can ask for support if you are not able to do it on your own. If you have your own property ,still you ask wife to get money from your wife’s parents ,the demand is not reasonable.No court will allow this.And it is not only business but housing or rearing kid or getting money for business without telling even position of man in the business……..

      Support -cant be provided unwillingly.

      -cant be considered as a right

      -none can be harassed for the same

      -can not be provided when the giver is kept into dark about who is owner of business ( later found that business was not even in partnership for the man.Money was needed by the BIL)

    • #1833
      Anonymous
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      Rajshri

      I really do not understand your stand here.You are asking the aggrieved to stop asking for justice!Do one thing post here that in no case a man/woman should complain of injustice happening to them and forgive the offender and move on………..

      AS far as Sil was concerned , she was a party to the offence.I cant keep posting everything , can I?Specially when responses coming are so less in quantity and novice like Dsouja are here to allege people w/o knowing anything in detail on own prejudiced vision for the sake of it.I think he enjoys orkutting too ,posting endlessly just to test patience of others and satisfying ego:)

    • #1834
      Anonymous
      Guest

      For everyone

      No matter what one say ,take a stand and get your rights.Do not let your gentle nature be taken advantage of by aggressive people.Get the offenders punished.Atleast try that.

      For those who wish to answer to the query-

      If you have legal knowledge only then answer to the post.

    • #1835
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Neelam you said :

      For everyone

      No matter what one say ,take a stand and get your rights.

      If you know everything then why you have posted your problem for advice.

    • #1836
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Neelam, why do you want to beg. I thought women are self-sufficient. You should have left your in laws and gone to your maternal house as soon as they allegedly started making things uncomfortable for you! You could have started earning if you were capable and self-respecting.

    • #1837
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Neelam,

      You are saying that people here are not legal professional… Who claimed to be legal professional anyway, and are we charging you for this advise? And your language makes it clear that infact you are a legal professional, you can explore law and legal options which you are doing anyway … You definitely don’t need advise of novice people like us …..

    • #1838
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Neelam has said “If you have legal knowledge, then only answer this query” …. Ideally in her opinion we do not have legal knowledge so its better we stop this thread here !!!!!!!!!

    • #1839
      Anonymous
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      varunchhabra

      I have made it clear if you have no idea about the case and have no legal knowledge then do not respond like a passer by .This is not ORKUT.Atleast I am not here to get my time wasted.

      Anyone else – if you were a victim where you have got your hands burnt because of DV act /Dowry act do not be biased to the extent that you start generalising things in all such cases .And also do not start suggesting attainment of woman’s economic independence in each and every case because –

      First of all it is not possible for every woman to do so because of unemployment problem /lack of professional skills and yes most importantly may be one day the woman will start doing so but till then she has children to take care of as well a self needs to survive.Thirdly the woman must bring the case to court so that anyone who does injustice must get fearful of court and compensate the aggrieved party .

      And yes maintenance applies even if you are an unemployed man and your wife tortures you being employed and still not supporting you.And I ‘ll certainly agree with such a man fighting for the same cause.

    • #1840
      Anonymous
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      Neelam you said,

      “And yes maintenance applies even if you are an unemployed man and your wife tortures you being employed and still not supporting you.”Do you think a women with this kind of mentality is supposed to be called as a wife…A women has no right to be called a wife until she supports her husband if he is in problem.Marriage is not just like having Saat phere around the fire and having Sex.. marriage is an institution of trust,compromise,love,passion,relationship,sacrifice etc… I think you need to take lessons how to be a perfect wife

      Read this guide to be a near to perfect wife :

      1. )Believe in him. Your husband needs to know that if he fails to succeed at something or makes a mistake, you’ll still be right there. Your emotional support gives him confidence.

      2 )Accept who he is. No one is flawless, and though there may be some things you’d like to change about him, he is who he is. He needs to feel loved by you for who and what he is, not what he could be changed into.

      3 )Give him guy time. Just as women like to bond with shopping, phone conversations or other quality time, men need time to communicate and spend time with male friends. It can be a stress reliever and a time for them to kick back with friends.

      4 )Communicate gently. This doesn’t mean you have to be subtle or indirect when talking with your husband, just be aware of your tone in an argumentive state that could be described by him as nagging.

      5 )Encourage him. If your husband has a dream or something you know he would absolutely love to do but needs a little nudge, give him a little push and boost of confidence. He’ll see your support but also take your encouragement as reinforcement of your desire for him to be happy.

      6) Be direct and to the point. Men can sometimes get lost in too much detail, and aren’t the best at mind-reading. If you want or need something, tell him–don’t expect him to know what’s on your mind.

    • #1841
      Anonymous
      Guest

      498 victim

      1.”And yes maintenance applies even if you are an unemployed man and your wife tortures you being employed and still not supporting you.”

      That means the case where your wife is employed and you need maintenance.

      2.And this is not my case.I am discussing on someones behalf.So stop preaching me.I have more knowledge of Hindu philosophy than you .Get a warm up on orkut as a beginner.

      3.Your wife was not adamant like me but you.I am open to truth.But you are hell bent on teaching and preaching woman those ideals of marriage that need man also to be equally idealistic .It is a 50-50 demand to be fulfilled by partners ,not 90 -10 as people like you want it to be with 90 to be done on part of woman.That is why even woman are losing their path while copying you guys while dealing with you.Your offensive Ego made them follow the same path of egoism as human always copies what makes him/ her get power though it “ruined” family as an institution.

      4.And are you mad that you are not able to understand that the man knowingly did all this just to get money from inlaws,not spending money for family responsibilities, abandoned her at her mothers home for 4.5 years out of 6 years of marriage .You have not even read the details of the case and kept on responding like a fool.Har jagah apni wife hi nazar ati hai kya?Agar sachmuch vo galat hai toh jakar lado uskey khilaf naki virtual world mei unko sikhao jo khud dusron ke anyay ka shikar hain.

    • #1842
      Anonymous
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      moderator

      1.what does this red flame before topic of this post mean?

      2.why have you put the rules to be followed before posting in such small font size w/o highlight if they are so significant?You really think anyone can notice it?

      3.why have you not put the option of leaving this group visible as a link or was I unable to find it?

      4.how much time will it take to get my membership to this forum deleted?

    • #1843
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Dear neelam,

      Sorry for delay in replying your comments….

      Now my comments on that :

      1)Pls try to accept that you are not innocent,i have getting enormous calls daily from many innocent victims because they married a girls who is having an uncultured background/mentality (what you are depicting in your posts)

      2)If it is not your case then how come you have written on your very first post ” I got married in January 2005.It was an arranged marriage.” So the bottomline is either you are lying now or you lied in your first post.

      3)You have pointed some personal comments on me which again shows your mindset and your behaviour.

      4)I am very sorry to hear that your husband abandoned you for 4.5 years out of 6 years of marriage,believe me he is courageous enough to surpass those 1.5 years which he spent with you.Believe me no husband wants to live without his wife but the when he gets no respect/love/affection/support from his wife then it’s better to live without her.

      And by the way, Good bye and you rest assured we will not miss you……

    • #1844
      Anonymous
      Guest

      I happened to see the views on this forum….and its sad….you are definitely a victim Neelam. Yes you deserve maintenance, and having come from a legal background…asking 5 lakh rupees from your parents home for “supporting” your husband qualifies as a dowry demand. Its disgusting the way people are pointing out things. I am sorry for your broken marriage…but its great that you have decided to walk out of it. They HAVE to pay you maintenance….it is your right…and no one in this forum or anywhere can stop you from receiving your rights…please do not get demoralized.

    • #1845
      Anonymous
      Guest

      http://mynation.net/docs/339-41-2005/

      http://mynation.net/docs/demanding-money/

      these judgment says Not all demand are dowry demands.

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