My wife just left me

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    • #256
      Anonymous
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      Hi,

      We have been married almost an year now. My wife has severe insecurities , namely that my mother will cause us financial distress, that will have to shuttle up and down city A to city B. TO elaborate, I work in City A and my wife and mother live in City B where my wife has a job and we have our own home(my father who passed away few years back). I travel to City B every weekend. So this is how we have spent our time together since marriage. My mother does not interfere much but given some distress on my sister’s side (who has domestic issues with her husband/in-laws) she worries about my sister. We have never finacially supported my sister as in our family we never believed money can bring happiness. Besides, my sister has sizable endownment fund according to my father’s will. My wife is convinces that at my mother’s behest I support my sister. We traditionally give gift to our sisters once a year on festival. My wife had objection to that. Before this, it all started when my wife objected to us going , what she felt was too frequent, to my granfather’s place. I relented. She made a huge issue out of us having to go to a function together. I appreciated her insistence on spending time together and made every effort in not going anywhere but where she wished to go(even staying with her at her workplace twice that it has been possible till latest incident). I was worried about my wife having cordeal ties with my mother so , in error of judgement, I would discuss their respective matters separately. She didn’t appreciate my concerns and insisted that I allow her to hand my mother the money for monthly expenses (my mother takes care of all household expenses). My wife wanted to keep a maid. Now I am not living with them and we have come across some horrid stories about servants killing employers and decanting with goods my mothers expressed her desire not to keep one. I agreed on this with my wife on the condition that she (my wife) gets good food, on time and for her office that my mum would cook for her. My mum wakes up early morning and cooks fresh food (because my wife does not like even a few hours’ long stale food) for breakfast, lunch and dinner. My mother has never had any issues doing this for her bahu. After all this for few months, my still insisted on keeping a maid and we relented and agreed on having one. We go out for movies when I am here, we have been out on vacations a couple of times and had half booked our international trip for first anniversary. I am well educated (from top institutes) and earn enough to support everyone. Yet she is not convinced that I will be able to support our family when we have kids. I am paying for all her expenses, including car and driver. And she keeps blaming my mother for imaginary future scenarios. Her mother supports her all the way and has scolded me on various occasions in very bucolic language, unbecoming of someone from educated family. I have since learned that my wife herself is from a very dysfunctional family (many divorces in family and some internal distress withing their own family). My wife is convinced that I love her but she has minced no words in letting everyone know that she cannot live my mother. She has recently left and I am worried that my family will be subjected to harassment from police and what I have gleaned from internet as lopsided divorce laws. I am not sure if I can be subjected to anti-dowry laws or some such but I am extremely worried at this point and will welcome any and every advice, legal or personal. I never imagined that one could suffer such horrors despite loving someone so much. I still love her and would love to havr her back in my life but I am not going to desert my widowed mother on such frivolous grounds. Please help!

    • #1482
      Anonymous
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      To add some more details. I save nothing from my salary due to all the expenses whereas I never touched her salary which has stayed intact and saved in her account.

    • #1483
      Anonymous
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      Dear friend , there is no such matter that you will suffer . It is small dispute in your family which is in every body’s home arises . The dispute is only because of your sister only . You try to settle dispute of your sister with her husband if any and you try to keep her away from day tody activities at your home . I think you along with your wife and mother will be happy . If any more than this you may call me .

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