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20/08/2010 at 9:36 PM #361AnonymousGuest
I posted “I am framed” couple of weeks back.
Ok now the situation is changing. My wife and her family who were completely against me and my family, are ready to compromise. They are ready to sign any papaer whatever I write on it. What happenned in last month, I don’t know. One thingis sure my family is badly damaged. One more thing we spent almost 2 lakhs in all this chaos.
Please advise, if possible, can we quash 498a. They are ready to sign memorandum of understanding(MOU) on a positive note. I also searched some articles over the internet that sometimes it happens… Anyways…. Please share MOU with me if you have any, so I can write things in my favor and in my family’s favor.
I am still in shock though. If she or her family takes the FIR back, can they still file another 498a in future.
Is it ok to sign the MOU.
Thanks for all the support always…
21/08/2010 at 11:35 AM #1782AnonymousGuest
ask them money you spent; once you get the money ask then take FIR back or withdraw 498A.
and tell them that they have to do without our presence. if case is in court that they cannt do.
she can file 498a anytime may be they missed something this time thats why they want to do same once she come back.
Never trust 498A girls.
22/08/2010 at 10:02 AM #1783AnonymousGuest
Sure they can file a 498a in future. If you can’t figure out what has changed, move cautiously. The FIR can be quashed by filing an appeal in the High Court. Let them take the initiative and pay for it. If there are no kids in the marriage, their grounds for troubling you and your family in the long run were very weak and they probably realize it. Watch out for it. They may want to settle back their daughter so that she can conceive and then start harassment again. Get a lawyer involved in getting the agreement document done. If possible, get her and her family to admit in court that the FIR was false. Difficult to do, but who knows, you may get lucky. And if her intentions to live with you are genuine, then there should be no hesitation.
All in all move cautiously and slowly. Time and patience will disclose if there is an ulterior motive or not. And don’t jump at cohabiting soon. Take a few months. Let the cases close and then decide.
23/08/2010 at 5:22 PM #1784AnonymousGuest
Hmmm… I don’t know I am torn and broke too now. Child is i nvolved. I have 5 months old son.
She is chameleon. I talk to her everyday. One day she is sweet and the other day she is opposite. Is she bipolar?
Her sister’s wedding is in few days, can it be so I attend the wedding, after the wedding they will be fully focussed on this 498a project. She is asking me to give her jewellery( which she got during our wedding) as she has to use it over her sister’s wedding. I told her that we will give it only if she signs on the leagal papers that she got all the jewellery back. Then she accusses me that I don’t trust her. I told her yes, I don’t trust her anymore, she needs to build the trust to re-live with me. Then she refuses to take back the FIR. All this suggests me that she is doing all this tamasha to scare me all the time.
Oh my god…. What’s in her brain?????
Thanks everybody for all your support.
25/08/2010 at 8:12 AM #1785AnonymousGuest
A wedding in the family and that too her sister’s is reason enough to try to patao you so that they don’t loose face in society. It is obvious that their relatives and friends are not very well aware of the situation. Don’t give in at this stage. You are right and stick by it. You will benefit in the long run. Return her stuff when she has signed all papers. She has to build trust and there is no getting around it. The pressure to comply will build up in the days before the wedding. So be prepared.
A good suggestion may be to stop calling her for a few days. See if she calls you. Talk to her, but no promises. Let her chase you. If she is serious about wanting to build a relationship with you, she will sign. Otherwise it is idle talk which is not going to lead anywhere. When a marriage breaks and the legal fall out is sec 498a and DVA, it is pointless trying to talk trust. Trust has to be established by way of legal documents. Otherwise it is all a fallacy.
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