Abstract: Who is responsible for divorce in India? Why survival rate for marriages are decreasing in India? What is the cause of marriage breakages in India? Why families are breaking? What is the reason for non-bonding between Husband and Wife these days? Who sets the expectations in a marriage these days?
Today we see a drastic rise in fake cases day by day in India promoted by Feminists/NCW and government of India by enacting loosely drafted laws.
This article is based on the study of the author with regards to psychological development of Indian generation in conjunction with to Indian societal development that leads to breakage of marriages calling upon harassment of Indian husbands and their families in regards to fake cases. The author tries to highlight the root cause behind the non-survival of marriages.
Observation: Indian wives these days are dependant for their decisions and guidance even in their personal steps. Though there is a drastic change observed in husband’s attitude towards cooperativeness and sharing responsibilities, wives are heading towards misguidance, that finally results in harassment, cruelty and domestic violence that results in fake cases and finally breakages of families.
Introduction: Today we see a drastic rise in fake cases day by day in India leading to only towards breakage of families and finally destruction of families and society. No one is happy today except for a toddler who has no sense of what’s going on around. Where is the Indian society heading? Why are fake cases increasing in Indian courts? Why do Indian women file false cases? Why are many Indians not reluctant to take and undue advantages? Who is responsible for divorce in India? Why survival rate for marriages are decreasing in India? What is the cause of marriage breakages in India? Why families are breaking? What is the reason for non-bonding between Husband and Wife these days? Who sets the expectations in a marriage these days?
Thoughts on practicality:
Marriage is a communion ritual where two people of opposite gender unite. It is said that not only two people rather it’s a union of two families to accept each other’s flaws and support them in times needed.
However, the wives (nuclear family forming mothers) who have been successful in dominating and making their husbands a slave and developing their children such that they are totally dependent upon her. This is discussed in details here.
https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=3726010
These children are totally dependent on their mother for any decisions and to deal with any small problems of their life.
So once these children step into their matrimonial life they discuss each and every, however small problem with their mother (thanks to this mobile/advanced era) and under their guidance destroys their marriage. Or the bride’s mother herself keep calling her to discuss the day and tries to guide her daughter, instead of guiding her to get her matrimonial life settled, she teaches and guides her daughter to break the family and get her husband away from his family and to form nuclear family as she did. And if the son in law do not listen/ act as she needed she guides to create harassment and domestic violence on him. The harassment includes emotional, financial and/or physical abuse as well. And in the wake of making husband a slave the like her father, the daughter follows her mother’s guidance and destroys her family life.
Scenario:
#1: Wife was pregnant and the doctor told her bed rest. The husband used to do all the household chores every day – Filling water in the morning, cooking Complete food (bread, vegetables, lentils, rice), sweeping the house, washing clothes, cleaning utensils, keeping all the food, fruits, knife, medicines, drinking water near her bed, then used to go to office and also used to do all the work after coming from office.
When wife filed fake case she mentioned that husband used to beat her mercilessly and also that made her do all the chores.
#2: Wife’s mother was at her matrimonial home. Husband’s best friend (very helpful and husband’s well-wisher) came to deliver a parcel to husband and then left in few moments. Immediately after he left Wife’s mother started guiding her daughter that the man (Husband’s friend) is not good.
When wife filed fake case she mentioned that husband used to often party at home celebrating drinks (alcoholic) with his friends whereas husband and his friend never drink. Although he was the same friend who and his wife helped the both many times and also when the wife was hospitalized.
#3: It was Wife’s sister’s marriage reception when as a courtesy and respect, husband insisted father-in-law that he will take care of the dog (brought in car and restricted to parking) and Father-in-law can attend the ceremony upstairs as his friends were enquiring and waiting to meet him.
To his surprise, even after more than three hours the husband was not called and everybody (including his wife) had enjoyed dinner and ceremony was over to closure.
Instead of understanding to make a family bond, husband-wife bond, under the guidance of her mother she tries harassment, cruelty and domestic violence and finally file fake cases on husband, simply to harass and make him come on knees and be slave.
Today we see a drastic rise in fake cases day by day in India promoted by Feminists/NCW and government of India by enacting loosely drafted laws and WCD/NCW protest even these laws are misused and not to punish misusers. Supreme Court of India has also called this as LEGAL TERRORISM.
Some examples:
- Below is a screen capture of an RTI, data collected from High Court of Karnataka for the period of 5 years since 2012 which states that conviction rate has never exceeded 4.24%, In other words it can be said that only a very small percent cases were genuine. And rest were fake cases filed with an intention to simply to harass and make husbands come on knees and be slave.
.
- The Nisha Sharma dowry case was an anti-dowry lawsuit in India. It began in 2003 when Nisha Sharma accused her prospective groom, Munish Dalal, of demanding dowry. The case got much coverage from Indian and international media. Nisha Sharma was portrayed as a youth icon and a role model for other women. However, it was later found that the Nisha had fabricated the charges to wiggle out of the wedding, and in 2012 all accused were acquitted.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nisha_Sharma_dowry_case
- Owing to this fake cases and breakdown of families are increasing drastically. The data for same is available on NCRB website. NGO MyNation Hope Foundation has collected some of the data and has mentioned in the link below.
https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=3717515
- Strained relationships leads to increase in stress levels in MEN leading to a breakdown of marriage. This is also briefed at
https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=3710115
So in order to lead a successful marriage today’s wives need to understand what a marriage means and the efforts needed to build a successful family life. They need to understand different phases and psychology in marriage.
Marriages demands change
Marriages demand two people to,
- be open to new experiences and environments
- be more conscientious
- be more agreeable
- be low in neuroticism
- be more stable emotionally
- MOST IMPORTANTLY (to keep any third party out of the marriage (even parents are third party to a married couple))
Phases of a marriage:
Phase 1: Romance or Honeymoon phase:
This is the first phase in marriage where couple tend to overlook dissimilarities, the focus is more on the commonness between the two. The couples show each other the best side of themselves. Any conflict is seen as bad in this phase and is avoided.
Phase 2: Familiarization phase
This phase is also often called as delusion phase where couple tend to adjust to reality. They begin to realize each other’s habits that is not good according to them. Feelings of being on top of the world begin to collide.
Phase 3: Desolate phase:
In this phase, couples try to think and find the other person harder and harder to deal with. This is the phase when it is absolutely necessary to learn managing the differences effectively.
However, the daughters (now wives), those are dependent on mother for guidance/decision do not even realize that their life’s responsibilities and priorities have changed. And each time call up to their mother at least once a day to discuss the day. And the mothers’ (nuclear family wives) unknowingly of their Son-in-law’s nature tries to give their daughters suggestions of
- controlling the husbands
- separating the husbands from his family and friends (social circle) and suggests/tries to build nuclear family of their daughters’ too.
- make sure to bring to notice to their daughter that her husband doesn’t care for her
- Show the negative angle of everything making her daughter feel she is the most miserable person
- File a fake case for harassment, if does not work file more and more fake cases
In short these mothers misguide their daughters and break their families.
What are the final outcome of these kind of guidance?
- Unnecessary Litigations
- Wastage of time, money and energy
- Stress, depression, Anxiety, etc.
- Less focus on work
- More rounds to court, police stations and other unnecessary places
- Fatherless upbringing of children and their ill psychological development
In reality these mothers are destroying their daughter’s life as whole
Some stories from quora;
- “I am a woman, a divorced women and I don’t know if I was a victim or I made a victim. I am repenting now and the repent has no values. I had put my legs on axe and my own people helped me push my legs against that axe. Since I am writing this anonymously as I do not want to reveal my identity, I will give the very details of what happened and my suffering now. Now when I look back I can see the monster I had become.”
Read full story in the link below:
- “To men, please guys, don’t fall for a woman who calls herself bold and feminist. That’s a trap. She will expect you to have all the qualities of a traditional husband like being rich, caring and faithful but herself won’t take any responsibilities. If she does a job, she will be super-egoistic about it.”
Read full story in the link below:
There are numerous stories on internet world regarding the same that leads to repenting the entire life ahead.
Today we see a drastic rise in fake cases day by day in India and instead of enacting to work on them, on the contrary are promoted by Feminists/NCW and government of India by enacting loosely drafted laws and WCD/NCW protest even these laws are misused and not to punish misusers. Supreme Court of India has also called this as LEGAL TERRORISM. What do these people get destroying the families? So the question is, WHO IS RESPONSIBLE?
Declaration: The author/s declare that there are no potential conflicts of interest with respect to the research, authorship, and/or publication of this article nor are they affiliated with any Political Parties or Religious organisations.
Funding: The author/s have received no financial support for the research, authorship, and/or publication of this article. This research study is self-funded by the authors.
Disclaimer: This Research study does not used any Fake statistics to justify any views expressed by the authors, Most Statistics used can be found on NCRB or respective Government Ministry websites.
