Deeply rooted tradition thinking all women are victims of men but reality is far from the truth.
After 20 years campaigning, Rudolph Dsouza believes it’s time for government action to stop the Legal terrorism that causes a man to die every hour through murder or suicide
For more than a decade, Rudolph Dsouza has been trying to persuade India’s men fall prey sham wedding that he sees as one of the country’s worst Judicial evils which support LEGAL TERRORISM.
He wants men to declare: “Stop Legal Terrorism”. The line is the name of the website of his NGO he set up in 2005 as part of his campaign. Rudolph wants Indian men to make list of all the money, motorbike, sofa, TV, iPhone, gold jewellery or fridge that a future wife is expected to come with on a stamp paper as stridhan given without any demand.
But, as he marks the 20th anniversary of the site, Rudolph concedes he is still a lonely voice. Despite a modest goal of 11,000 signups by 2020, he has managed 11,000, only after they fall prey to sham marriages and victims of LEGAL TERRORISM in a country of almost 1.4 billion.
Dowries have been illegal in India for 60 years, but the custom is entrenched. India records more than 90,000 “dowry cases” each year and 85% turnout to be false;Every 9 minute a men die each day through suicide or murder related to false dowry case. Women family use Dowry law to make money using daughter as prostitute.
This country’s traditions go back centuries and it’s very hard to uproot them. Dowry is no different, It was given without demand for centuries. “Everyone wants money. Everyone takes shortcuts. People are greedy,” says Rudolph.
Rudolph, 50, a ITS professional from Udupi, He and his two brothers were wed without dowries. His awareness of the issue started when he was victim of Legal terrorism, even he did not ask/demand or took any dowry still False dowry case was filed on him, which is still running in court for last 21 years.
His NGO website also hopes to bring together like-minded people, youngster who want to marry and not to fall prey to sham marriage and endup paying huge ransom amount next day of the marriage. He says at least 50 men are saved from committing suicide even after they were harassed with Legal terrorism.
Rudolph is resolutely optimistic. “Women are better educated than ever before, they are working, some are independent. Women have a clear knowledge of law how to use it when marriage fails to make money, even women parents are not ashamed to say their daughter is divorced and swindled huge amount from boy in the name of Alimony with few days of marriage.
It’s no good making alimony illegal without working to make it something Indians are not ashamed of accepting, they think every women is Abla nari, even she kill her husband.
He wants government action on the issue, pointing to India’s anti-tobacco campaign, in which every cigarette packet was stamped with a gruesome warning, vendors were banned from outside school gates, and cinemas screened anti-tobacco ads.
“Have you ever seen any anti-Legal terrorism poster anywhere?” he asks. In a country of India’s size, it is difficult for civil society groups to change attitudes nationwide without government backing.
“We have never had an energetic, determined effort to smash into people’s consciousness. We haven’t had a single TV series tackling false dowry case that is watched by the masses. Not a single Bollywood star has been enlisted to hammer home the point.
NCRB count every death of women with in 7 years of marriage as Dowry death when there is no dowry demand, 85% acquital in dowry cases tells the truth.
Rudolph believes the men’s deaths should trigger public outrage. as there are 90,000 suicides and murders of Men every year.
A governor in Kerala is calling on university vice-chancellors to make students pledge not to seek or pay a dowry, or lose their degree. but no one is calling end forced Alimony filed next day of marriage after filling false Dowry case.