Marriage has become a sham and a fraud in India. Some Indian wives and husbands (from well connected families of Indian lawyers and judges) who were previously married in India have separately married foreign citizens abroad without obtaining a divorce from their Indian spouses. This shows how much respect these individuals and their families have for the Hindu Marriage Act. What morals! What an example they are setting for the average Indian! However, the same lawyers and judges order other people living in India or abroad regarding how they should live their life. This would indicate that the laws are different for common people as compared to the politicians, bureaucrats, judiciary, legal system, industrialists, etc. in India. When money is to be made, the rule book goes out of the window.
Other Indian women who want a rich husband (who would not ask for dowry) or want to join their boyfriends who had emigrated abroad or just want to better their life by emigrating abroad along with their families go one step further. Most NRI professionals who have done well abroad come from a middle class background in India and despite being independantly wealthy, they seek a wife from a similar background as theirs and are obviously not interested in a dowry. Some educated women/their parents look for a well-off and well-educated NRI professional to marry and financially help/sponsor the wife's family. Most of the times, the relationship works out reasonably well. However, if the woman is intolerant and does not realize that most people living abroad do not have servants to abuse as they might have gotten used to in India, then it leads to a problem. If the hard-working NRI husband asks the wife to share some of the house-work, then she flares up.
All such women have the right to move on with their lives and some do. Some look for their old boyfriends or other richer NRIs and others marry foreigners and rejoice in the knowledge that they are nolonger Indian (because they change their last and first name or acquire a Christian middle name). Most women know how easy it is to get their sponsorship through their NRI husbands even if the relationship is not working out. Moreover, a certain number of the abusive women want to bleed their husbands and in-laws for all what they can get as well as harass them until they get what they want. These are the women who file false dowry and domestic violence accusations.
The Hindu marriage and divorce laws needs to be re-written/ updated. Marriage or divorce is a personal choice. There can be no law that should force a person to stay with another if he/she is not willing to. This is against the basic human rights and the person's right to exercise free will. Indian divorce law should include – “irreconciliable differences” or “incompatibility” as grounds for divorce. When determining alimony/support etc. the wife's earning-ability should be considered. Just because the husband works in the United States, it does not make any logical sense for law makers to prescribe “50 percent of his earnings” as support for
his ex-wife who resides in India where cost of living is much lower.
The Indian legal system does not recognize foreign marriages, divorces and custody orders (even for foreign citizens of Indian origin) when it suites them. Even child abduction (of foreign citizens) from another country to India is not considered a crime, and gender bias as well as elder abuse has been taken to a new height. Moreover, the Indian government and legal system wants all other countries to recognize their marriage certificates, divorce and custody orders as well as the orders issued based on unsubstantiated and un-investigated accusations made by the Indians with special influence or connections in India. When implementing laws that govern a nation, serious thoughts need to be given to issues such as the above.
The Indian legal system should not become a pawn for the FemiNazi who advocate freedom to sleep around and live off as well as abuse their husbands (and in-laws) but do not feel any shame in demanding money by way of support for themselves and their parents. Adultery by a wife is not considered adultery in India and bigamy is not bigamy unless one of the partners were to complain. If India wants to command respect from other nations, it has to seriously consider fixing the legal system such that the bad laws or lack of meaningful ones does not become the single most important determining factor for NRIs to feel betrayed by the Indian government. India should do all it takes to correct the bad laws such that the world respects India as a whole and not just the producer of Software and other professionals. All will be lost if the Indian laws become the butt-end of state dinner jokes for the international dignitaries.
From: Friend Friend