Even I born in Bombay, but raised in a small Beautiful peaceful Town called Karkala, I never dare to Fall in Love, nor cunning enough to seduce or mesmerize any girls till 27 years of my age, and I got married thinking, my better half will support me in my future life.
I took 3 Lakhs Loan for my marriage, no one gave me any money or supported me, nor I asked anyone. I gave her Gold worth 50,000 at wedding time after also I made gold for her, Even she did not asked. I bought her Insurance policy worth I lakh, even she was working I paid all the premiums. But in return what I was getting. SEX? Once in a bluemoon. Even after paying all her expenses.
IF I paid this much money to a prostitute (500 each), lets say 4 Lakh Rupees, I would have got 800 new girls each night.
I was not sex maniac or not that much addicted to it, nor had any affairs, still she swore on Child custody case, I was having Affair with a Girl from my Office. Matter of Fact, I was in Computer firm, and we were having night shifts, so there were no girls at all.
Then comes to cooking, she was learning how to cook after she got married, if any girl want happy life at husband house if she is not working and financially helping husband she will learn house hold things. Any one can imagine what type of food I was getting if someone is learning.
IF I spent same money on outside food, I would have got more delicious food with dignity, if I give 2 Rupees tips after food in hotel next time waiter will greet me as salaam saab as she was serving me like throwing food to a dog.
IF I kept a pet dog, and throw some leftover also, this day it would have guarded my house.
sir, i would advice u as being a women kindly try to know why she is treating u like this. try to sid and discuss firstly ask her what problem she has from u after marriage. try to analise if u feel she is trying to tell which ur not u try to make her understand or try to adjust in love and relationship we need tow things importantly if u really love her give her time let her do what all she has. one day she may realise that ur really good to her and may change. if u feel u can give her time. what ever u say try to tell in a nice way,. if she really loves u she will respect u and stop hurting. in cooking keep house clean sit and decide one in a wile tel a lie its good encourage her she will do more good try all tis may be u too need to understand if she is ur true love. women need a special care from husband in every manner which u do it from ur end in every matter pl be paitent. take time to change her in all the ways dont tel her to change. u go in her way and bring her back to ur way with that special care. this will truely work out. after marriage all these are common. as it is ur arranged marriage since u seem to be well brained try to save this relation ship. leave all others behing both sit and talk. no what u need to adjust and she also. or pl involve a elder person to make her understand ur problem. if ur perfect in ur attitude if ur true to ur self and her. even god will help u with good life. trust me. its my own exp.
sir if u feel u can really take the challange tis in ur life and win her heart take it as a challange and go a head after all she is ur wife. u bring her out of all tis bad issues challange ur self that u can change her. i can say there is a strong reason behind this issue know that reason ask her what she is trying to do with u. marriage is based on trust and love. pl keep tis in mind have patients and win ur wife for ur self. people do lot of things in life and feel happy ur life ur happiness ur relationship only u can win, think if she is degrading u accept it and smile. after 4 to 5 time she will realise ur not hurt if u reverse back she wil do more. if u smile back she will loose one day. in all matter u give her chance . finally u will win. if she wants to leave u. tell her personally that lets adjust and be happy do not go to court or judgment. it will spoil all. win ur relationship with patients and time . if u really love her and want her in ur life. u need to do this .
Yeah DOG has better life then most Indian men who are married to 498a women. See dog has gratitude and appreciative, if you feed the dog it will protect you day and night. No matter what you do for 498a women she will only drain your blood, and even after your dead still want some more of your blood, worst then Vulture.
You were luckier than me, at least food was given to you in whatever way.
In my case, I had to cook complete dinner for the family in the night. The same dish was used for next lunch, as she was a working woman. Who used to leave house after I was gone long and come back before I reach home. Gave me one glass of water in 3 years time that too after 2 hours of counselling session by me.
Never attended to the kid if he pee’s in night, I had to change his clothes.
Now comes washing, earlier I had maid to do household chores like washing clothes, cleaning and utensils. Later she removed the one for washing clothes and put me on job on weekends. Just I should not get time to visit my parents living closeby.
She was not a graduate even when we got engaged. After marriage she passed BLIB, MLIB, NTT and appeared in MCOM and BEd also.
Now I’m facing 498 A for asking for dowry after 10 years of marital relationship. The irony is when I got married her father was simply a clerk in Govt. Office, who is retired in 2002 and I paid him 26000.00 as half the expenses of marriage reception, as he pleaded that he doesnot money for the same.
Now the bitch is demanding Rs. 20 Lakhs for settlement. The only kid from this marriage is with me.
Still I trust god, who is above all courts, that some day my day will come.
Amen!