Dr. Nirmal Singh Panesar vs Paramjit Kaur Panesar @ Ajinder Kaur … on 10 October, 2023

In Sirajmohmedkhan
Janmohamadkhan v. Hafizunnisa
Yasinkhan [(1981) 4 SCC 250 : 1981 SCC (Cri)
829] this Court stated that the concept of
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legal cruelty changes according to the changes
and advancement of social concept and
standards of living. With the advancement of
our social conceptions, this feature has
obtained legislative recognition, that a
second marriage is a sufficient ground for
separate residence and maintenance. Moreover,
to establish legal cruelty, it is not necessary
that physical violence should be used.
Continuous ill-treatment, cessation of marital
intercourse, studied neglect, indifference on
the part of the husband, and an assertion on
the part of the husband that the wife is
unchaste are all factors which lead to mental
or legal cruelty.

47. In Shobha Rani v. Madhukar Reddi [(1988) 1
SCC 105 : 1988 SCC (Cri) 60] this Court had an
occasion to examine the concept of cruelty.

The word “cruelty” has not been defined in the
Hindu Marriage Act. It has been used in Section
13(1)(i-a) of the Act in the context of human
conduct or behaviour in relation to or in
respect of matrimonial duties or obligations.
It is a course of conduct of one which is
adversely affecting the other. The cruelty may
be mental or physical, intentional or
unintentional. If it is physical, it is a
question of fact and degree. If it is mental,
the enquiry must begin as to the nature of the
cruel treatment and then as to the impact of
such treatment on the mind of the spouse.
Whether it caused reasonable apprehension that
it would be harmful or injurious to live with
the other, ultimately, is a matter of inference
to be drawn by taking into account the nature
of the conduct and its effect on the
complaining spouse. There may, however, be

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cases where the conduct complained of itself
is bad enough and per se unlawful or illegal.
Then the impact or the injurious effect on the
other spouse need not be enquired into or
considered. In such cases, the cruelty will be
established if the conduct itself is proved or
admitted. The absence of intention should not
make any difference in the case, if by ordinary
sense in human affairs, the act complained of
could otherwise be regarded as cruelty.
Intention is not a necessary element in
cruelty. The relief to the party cannot be
denied on the ground that there has been no
deliberate or wilful ill-treatment.

48. The cruelty alleged may largely depend
upon the type of life the parties are
accustomed to or their economic and social
conditions and their culture and human values
to which they attach importance. Each case has
to be decided on its own merits.

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52. This Court in Savitri Pandey v. Prem
Chandra Pandey [(2002) 2 SCC 73] stated that
mental cruelty is the conduct of other spouse
which causes mental suffering or fear to the
matrimonial life of the other. “Cruelty”,
therefore, postulates a treatment of the
petitioner with such cruelty as to cause a
reasonable apprehension in his or her mind that
it would be harmful or injurious for the
petitioner to live with the other party.

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Cruelty, however, has to be distinguished from
the ordinary wear and tear of family life. It
cannot be decided on the basis of the
sensitivity of the petitioner and has to be
adjudged on the basis of the course of conduct
which would, in general, be dangerous for a
spouse to live with the other.”

10. The crux of the various decisions of this Court

on the interpretation of the word “cruelty” is that it

has to be construed and interpreted considering the

type of life the parties are accustomed to; or their

economic and social conditions and their culture and

human values to which they attach importance. Each

case has to be decided on its own merits.

could be said to be “Desertion” in the divorce

proceedings filed under Section 13 of the said Act.

The expression “Desertion” had come up under the

judicial scrutiny of this Court in BipinChandra

JaiSinghBai Shah vs. Prabhavati 3
, which was again

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AIR 1957 SC 176
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considered in case of Lachman UtamChand Kirpalani vs.

Meena alias Mota4. This Court collating the

observations made in the earlier decisions, stated its

view as under: –

“Collating the aforesaid observations, the
view of this Court may be stated thus: Heavy
burden lies upon a petitioner who seeks divorce
on the ground of desertion to prove four
essential conditions, namely, (1) the factum
of separation; (2) animus deserendi; (3)
absence of his or her consent; and (4) absence
of his or her conduct giving reasonable cause
to the deserting spouse to leave the
matrimonial home.”

12. Recently, in Debananda Tamuli vs. Kakumoni

Kataky5, the Court referring the decision in case of

Lachman UtamChand Kirpalani (supra) observed as

under: –

“7. We have given careful consideration to her
submissions. Firstly, we deal with the issue
of desertion. The learned counsel appearing
for the appellant relied upon the decision of
this Court in Lachman Utamchand Kirpalani
[Lachman Utamchand Kirpalani v. Meena, (1964)
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AIR 1964 SC 40
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(2022) 5 SCC 459
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4 SCR 331 : AIR 1964 SC 40] which has been
consistently followed in several decisions of
this Court. The law consistently laid down by
this Court is that desertion means the
intentional abandonment of one spouse by the
other without the consent of the other and
without a reasonable cause. The deserted
spouse must prove that there is a factum of
separation and there is an intention on the
part of deserting spouse to bring the
cohabitation to a permanent end. In other
words, there should be animus deserendi on the
part of the deserting spouse. There must be an
absence of consent on the part of the deserted
spouse and the conduct of the deserted spouse
should not give a reasonable cause to the
deserting spouse to leave the matrimonial
home. The view taken by this Court has been
incorporated in the Explanation added to sub-

section (1) of Section 13 by Act 68 of 1976.
The said Explanation reads thus:

“13. Divorce. — (1) * * *

Explanation. —In this sub-section, the
expression “desertion” means the desertion of
the petitioner by the other party to the
marriage without reasonable cause and without
the consent or against the wish of such party,
and includes the wilful neglect of the
petitioner by the other party to the marriage,
and its grammatical variations and cognate
expressions shall be construed accordingly.””

“8. The reasons for a dispute between husband
and wife are always very complex. Every
matrimonial dispute is different from another.
Whether a case of desertion is established or

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not will depend on the peculiar facts of each
case. It is a matter of drawing an inference
based on the facts brought on record by way of
evidence.”

13. Coming back to the facts of the present case, the

Single Bench of the High Court holding that the

appellant-petitioner had failed to prove the grounds

of “cruelty” and “desertion” as contemplated in

Section 13(1) of the said Act, had reversed the decree

of divorce passed by the Trial Court. The Division

Bench vide the impugned order confirmed the order

passed by the Single Bench and observed by holding as

under: –

“16. Coming now to the facts of the present
case, it is undisputed that the wife continued
to live with the husband without any grievance
for 21 years and gave birth to three children.
She looked after the children. One daughter
was married in the year 1984 before separation.
The grievance put-forward by the husband for
the first time was that the wife did not join
him when he was transferred to Madras. The
parties were settled at Amritsar and lived
there for 21 years where children and parents
of the appellant were also living. Case of the
wife is that the husband got himself
transferred of his own volition. At this stage
of life when there were three grown up children
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and the wife had been living with the husband
for 21 years, if unilateral decision was taken
by the husband and the wife expressed her
opposition, could it be held that the wife
deserted the husband or treated him with
cruelty. We have already referred to the
settled principles on the subject. If the wife
did not agree to have herself transferred to
Madras, in the given situation, it could not
be held that the wife wanted to bring
cohabitation permanently to an end without
reasonable cause. This did not show any animus
deserendi nor it could be held that the wife
was cruel to the husband. Taking an overall
view of the matter, it cannot be held that the
view taken by the learned Single Judge is not
a possible view so as to call for interference
in an appeal under Letters Patent. The fact
remains that the wife continued to look after
the children and arrange their marriages.
There is nothing to show that the husband made
any effort to join the wife, who was living in
the matrimonial home or to look after any of
the children. The burden of proof is on the
appellant to prove desertion and cruelty.”
“17. Learned counsel for the appellant refers
to Exh.A-8, which is a letter addressed to the
wife, in response to her representation for
maintenance. The contents of the letter are as
under: –

“2. lt is informed that we have
tried our best to help you both to
reconcile in the long-term interest
of the welfare of the family and
children. Accordingly, it is learnt
that Wg Cdr. N.S. Panesar, in good
faith and on our counsel signed for
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reconciliation. But it seems that
you are not ready to reconcile even
in the interest of children. Under
the circumstances, there is no
other alternative for this HQ
except to advice you to redress your
grievance, if any, in the Court of
law. However, on moral and
humanitarian grounds we have
counselled your husband to continue
remitting Rs.800/- p.m. till the
matter is settled to mutual
satisfaction.”

He also refers to Exh.A-17, which is letter
written by the son of the appellant, asking
the appellant to send money to the Court.”

“18. Next contention raised is that the
jewellery should not be given to the wife.
Learned counsel for the appellant suggested
that a grand-daughter of the appellant should
visit the appellant, in which case, the
appellant will have no objection to the
jewellery being given to the grand daughter.
Learned counsel for the wife states that the
grand-daughters will visit the appellant as
often as possible and also depending on desire
and attitude of the appellant but not as a
condition for finding of learned Single Judge
to be upheld. Finding of learned Single Judge
in this regard is as under: –

” … This is a fit case to hand
over the jewellery which was given
to appellant (wife) at the time of
marriage and thus, l -direct the
Manager, Bank of Baroda, Sector 22,
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Chandigarh to hand over all the
jewellery to the appellant lying in
the locker … “”

14. Having regard to the observations made by the

Single Bench and Division Bench of the High Court, we

do not propose to take any different view. Suffice it

to say that the appellant had failed to prove that the

respondent had treated the appellant with “Cruelty” or

that the respondent had “Deserted” the petitioner as

contemplated in Section 13(1)(ia) and 13(1)(ib)

respectively of the said Act.

15. This brings us to advert to the submission made

by the appellant for granting the decree of divorce on

the ground that the marriage has irretrievably broken

down. There is no dispute that the parties are staying

separate since last many years and all the efforts to

bring them together have failed. Under the

circumstances one may presume that the marriage is

emotionally dead and beyond salvation and that there

is an irretrievable break down of marriage between the

parties. However, the question is, should the

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irretrievable break down of marriage necessarily

result into a decree of divorce to be granted under

Article 142 of the Constitution of India?

16. Recently, the Constitution Bench of this Court in

the case of Shilpa Shailesh vs. Varun Sreenivasan (supra)

while adumbrating the issue with regard to

irretrievable break down of marriage and passing of

decree of divorce under Article 142 of the

Constitution, observed as under: –

“41. Having said so, we wish to clearly state
that grant of divorce on the ground of
irretrievable breakdown of marriage by this
Court is not a matter of right, but a
discretion which is to be exercised with great
care and caution, keeping in mind several
factors ensuring that ‘complete justice’ is
done to both parties. It is obvious that this
Court should be fully convinced and satisfied
that the marriage is totally unworkable,
emotionally dead and beyond salvation and,
therefore, dissolution of marriage is the
right solution and the only way forward. That
the marriage has irretrievably broken down is
to be factually determined and firmly
established. For this, several factors are to
be considered such as the period of time the
parties had cohabited after marriage; when the
parties had last cohabited; the nature of
allegations made by the parties against each
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other and their family members; the orders
passed in the legal proceedings from time to
time, cumulative impact on the personal
relationship; whether, and how many attempts
were made to settle the disputes by
intervention of the court or through
mediation, and when the last attempt was made,
etc. The period of separation should be
sufficiently long, and anything above six
years or more will be a relevant factor. But
these facts have to be evaluated keeping in
view the economic and social status of the
parties, including their educational
qualifications, whether the parties have any
children, their age, educational
qualification, and whether the other spouse
and children are dependent, in which event how
and in what manner the party seeking divorce
intends to take care and provide for the spouse
or the children. Question of custody and
welfare of minor children, provision for fair
and adequate alimony for the wife, and economic
rights of the children and other pending
matters, if any, are relevant considerations.
We would not like to codify the factors so as
to curtail exercise of jurisdiction under
Article 142(1) of the Constitution of India,
which is situation specific. Some of the
factors mentioned can be taken as
illustrative, and worthy of consideration.
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