Unless you face, you never overcome that fear.
lear to fight back when you are right. there are ways to counter her all demands. dont giveup wihtout a fight, and later regret you should have fouhgt it out. our laws are biased, still dont giveup so easily. let her fight for long and she no way entitled to get the money as she demanded.
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