We are human being first and than man or woman. How many of us agree our mistake and try to correct not repeat. We all have one life. Has he expressed to mend himself and ready to get alongwith you for child leaving behind his past and present???. Love is not something which you can take by force it is blind. One who is getting the love from outside marriage why will he come to u. who does not want to be loved whether man/woman/child/mother. Child support you will get by legal fight if not by verbal talk.