in reality 498A is not you against her but you against The state., even she has not come, you have to appear for the dates and fight.
anyway, if she is not coming continuously then you can approch HC to quash 498A by telling she filled it just to Harass you.
now false 498a is valid reason for Divorce, so 498A is not a curse but blessing.
check these SC and HC judgments on false 498A http://mynation.net/docs/sitemap/s13/
and also browse
http://mynation.net/docs/sitemap/ for more.