It’s no surprise that men who are married with children are stressed. After all, they have to play some roles as a father and husband, cleaner, driver, Banker, ATM Machine, doctor, teacher, bodyguard, Police, Securityguard, Electrician, Technician, Porter and so much more. But, a recent survey found that more half of men find their wives more stressful than their kids.
In a survey done by mynation.net, which interviewed more than 7,000 Indian husbands/fathers from the all over the world, they found that on average, most husbands/fathers would rate their stress levels at an 9.9 out of 10. According to the same study done by MyNation, more half of men/husbands/fathers (76 percent) found that their wives caused them more stress than their children did!
One of the causes of this stress was revealed in the fact that around 75% of men that answered the survey reported they do the majority of the stressfull domestic works, parenting even after coming home exhusted after office work. That means that only 25% of men feel their partners do an equal share or the majority of the parenting and other household duties, as she can rest any time as she is at home, leaving men stuck doing more than their fair share.
And finally, researchers in that MyNation survey found that 1 in every 5 fathers said that a major source of daily stress was feeling like they didn’t have enough time in the day to get everything done that needed to be done, in part because of a lack of support from their partners. It should be no surprise that this was particularly true in men who also work hard outside of the home to pay all the bills yet still shouldered most of the work around the house.
Many men reported that some of their stress came from the simple fact that their wives acted like overgrown children. It meant they had, even more, responsibilities around the home since they also needed to care for their wives even though it was their wives that they should have been able to look to for support.
This is far from the only research that supports the claim that men are more stressed by their wives than wives are by their men. According to the University of Puduva in Italy, these stress levels actually play a role later in life within the marriages as well as in health and longevity. These researchers found that majority married men die early than their wives, the wifes health tends to deteriorate while when a husband loses his wife he tends to become healthier and shows improvement in dealing with stress and depression.
While the researchers at the University of Puduva were unable to come up with a deciding factor as to why this was the case, they speculated that the cause was because female partners relied more heavily on their male partners than vice versa.
The most important thing both men and women can do when faced with these facts is to ask “What can be done about this?” The truth is, there is a lot that can be done to solve this problem, no matter how stressed out a woman may be or how immature her husband may act. Both partners need to be willing to step up to the plate and be prepared to do what it takes to solve this growing problem.
First and foremost, a conversation must be had. Wives need to open up to their husbands about how they’re feeling stressed about the way the household and parenting duties are divided, and wives must be prepared to genuinely listen to those concerns and be prepared to work with their husbands to find a solution that will work for the whole family. women think managing space between four walls is bigger than men work hard amoung stangers to ends meet and pay bills.
One of the best ways to reduce the stress a man is feeling because of his wife is to make sure the household and parenting duties are divided evenly, taking equal responsibility in finance as most of the women bring nothing when they marry, most of the time house car and all household items purchased by men, struggling hard. To start, couples should make a list of all the daily, weekly, and monthly household chores that need to be done and make sure that each partner is pulling their weight.
Wives need to learn to trust their husbands with household duties. Many times, this is the reason that the husband is doing everything. She doesn’t believe her husband to do it correctly or the way she would like it to be done, so she start to pinpoint his mistakes or find mistakes in everything. When a man agrees to do a particular household duty, it’s essential for the wife to step aside and allow him to do it, even if it’s not done “right.”