married woman desires for a child.
seeing your situation you will be waiting for ur son to come and may be years will just pass and he will not come to you at all as you will always be a stranger to him. your wife may be willing to take him whether he will come to her is a big ?.
if you say “aurath ka dhimag… to her or her relative her nature will not be same remember this. what if u will land up in the same situation.